The blessing of the bride's mother (as well as the groom's parents) is a very beautiful rite that came to us from ancient times. At that time they attached great importance to it. Unless the bride's mother's words of blessing were spoken, in the past the bride and groom were not allowed to get married in church. In addition, the girl was disinherited and shamed in society.
Nowadays, the words of blessing from the mother of the bride no longer have such significance, but parental parting words still play a big role for the newlyweds. It’s always nice to hear the appropriate words, don’t you agree?
Parting words. Blessing of the bride's mother in front of the registry office. Parents' words
At modern weddings, parents bless their children before entering the banquet hall. This already happens after marriage. The newlyweds are greeted with a loaf of bread, wine, bread and salt.
However, this version of the ritual is simplified. Some families still prefer to honor ancient traditions. The bride should hear parting words from them. The blessing of the bride's mother in front of the registry office, the words of the parents - all this should happen twice. The first time was just before the wedding. This is done in the father’s house before leaving for the registry office. Moreover, the parents of the bride and groom bless their children separately. Then the young people can go to painting. The second blessing is in the banquet hall.
Seeing off the bride at the registry office
Seeing off at the registry office is a special ritual that the father must perform. The groom should not be nearby, everything should take place only between the bride’s parents and the bride herself. Parting words are spoken, the girl is blessed with the icon of the Mother of God.
Next, the father takes his daughter by the hand and walks her around the table three times. This should be done clockwise. After this, the father takes the bride to the groom and hands her over.
Wedding signs – 3
Signs for seeing off the bride and groom
When escorting the groom from his parents' house, it is necessary to perform the following ritual actions.
Place a table in the center of the room, cover it with a completely new tablecloth, put a whole loaf of bread on the table, place a bucket or at least a jar of water and a small salt shaker next to it, light a loud (Sretensky) candle. First, bless your son with a home icon, then enlist the support of your ancestors. To do this, the father ties his son’s hands with a towel and leads him around the table three times clockwise, followed by the mother with a home icon and a loud candle. Then the father and mother stand in front of the threshold (from the inside of the home), take the wedding towel in their hands, wrap a loaf of bread in its ends, form an arch out of it and ask the son to walk under it without touching his head, i.e. bowing to the threshold - the ancient burial place of our ancestors. In this case, the icon is left at home, and the matchmaker should take the loud candle with him on the road as one of the reliable amulets.
When seeing off the bride, her parents must also perform the appropriate ritual actions.
The father girds his daughter with a special wedding towel, walks her around the table three times clockwise, brings her to the threshold and hands her into the hands of the groom. Then the same ritual is repeated in the bride's house as in the groom's house. Father and mother create an arch from a towel in front of the threshold, having previously wrapped two loaves of round-shaped bread at its ends. In this case, the mother should stand to the left of the entrance, and the father to the right. Now both young people pass under the arch and bow to the threshold. At this moment, the parents ask those present in the room: “Good people, bless the young,” and the guests say three times: “God bless!”
Signs associated with the wedding procession
The groom gets into the first car, the bride into the second (she is getting married, that is, following her husband).
It is best to decorate the first car of the wedding cortege with a pair of large metal rings mounted on a common stand, inside of which there will be either glasses, symbolizing the complete spell of family happiness, or small bells, the ringing of which wards off evil spirits.
Avoid extravagant modern decorations, for example, such as a rubber (non-living) doll (this can later cause the newlyweds to have a non-living first child) or a pair of swans, supposedly symbolizing swan fidelity between the young. When the cars of the wedding cortege move at high speed, these “swans” will scatter in different directions, and this is how the newlyweds will go through life, turning away from each other.
As soon as the bride and groom's squads sit in their cars, the father and mother of the newlywed leave the house and walk around the entire wedding procession three times clockwise. The father is holding a home icon in his hands, the mother is sprinkling the cortege with ghee grain, which symbolizes the “closure” of all participants in the ritual in a symbolic circle, which throughout the further movement should not be broken under any circumstances, for example, at the intersection of city streets, when exiting the main highways cities.
Remember: the status of a wedding procession is entirely equal to the status of a funeral procession, so always and everywhere find an opportunity to give way to it. If a stranger wedges himself into the structure of the wedding procession, he thereby violates its integrity, provoking the imminent appearance of a stranger in the life of the young couple.
The cortege with the newlyweds should approach the bride’s house, the registry office, the temple and the wedding venue only in the direction of the sun (clockwise).
The route of the wedding procession should go in a circle and end where it began - in the bride's parental home, even if the celebration takes place in a dining room, cafe or restaurant.
Signs for marriage registration
If one of the young people does not have a father or mother, then before registering the marriage it is necessary to visit the cemetery in order to “enlist” the support and blessing of both parents.
On the wedding day, the bride gives money to the poor in front of the church. You need to know that by doing this she gets rid of her misfortunes, which fall on those who took this money.
Parents of both the bride and groom should not be present at the registry office during the marriage registration and in the church during the wedding. Having closed the wedding procession in a circle, they thereby do not have the right to break it to get into one of the cars. And there is no ritual meaning to their presence in the temple either. Many years ago, their children were brought to the temple by their godparents. Since then, in all ritual situations, including weddings, godparents must be with them. And the task of the father and mother’s relatives is to bless the young people on a new path in life and meet them at the threshold of their home after the wedding.
If a wife does not change to her husband's surname, she remains defenseless energetically, which sometimes leads to a deterioration in her health.
During marriage registration, the newlyweds must stand on a special towel, which the witnesses take with them at the end of the ceremony. You cannot leave the towel (the symbolic road), even to sign in the registration register. There is a very simple way out of this situation: the young witnesses come up to the table, take the magazine, bring it to the young people and invite them to sign. In this case, the etiquette of the secular rite is observed and the holy commandment of the ancient tradition is not violated.
The groom must carry the bride in his arms across the bridge if it happens to be on the path of the wedding procession, as well as across the threshold of his home.
Signs for a wedding
Before the newlyweds go to the wedding, they must put a lock under the threshold, and once they cross the threshold, close the lock with a key, throw the key away, and keep the lock - the young people will live well.
If the bride and groom take an oath of future fidelity to each other over a well before the wedding, their marriage will be indestructible and their love will be eternal.
The bride must go one way to the crown, and another from the crown.
During a wedding, crowns must be placed on the heads of those getting married, despite the fact that they are heavy. If the crown is not put on the head for relief, then such a marriage was considered by the people to be invalid, illegal and a bad omen.
At the wedding, whichever of the spouses puts a ring on the other to the very base of the finger, he will rule in the house.
A ring falling during engagement means the breakdown of a family or the death of one of the spouses.
If during the wedding the candles of the newlyweds crackle strongly, their life will be very turbulent.
Whose candle burns the most during the wedding ceremony, the young one will live a short life.
Young people should not give away the towel on which they stood at the registry office during marriage registration or got married in a church. This towel symbolizes the newlyweds’ path in life, so it should be kept at home for the rest of their lives.
The newlyweds must make a ritual gift to the temple for performing the wedding sacrament. Traditionally, this gift was a linen towel in which a loaf of freshly baked bread was wrapped.
Wedding candles last a lifetime. They help with difficult births.
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What icon is used to bless the groom?
The groom is blessed with an icon of the Savior. This is the most common image of Christ. He has a book in one hand, and with the other hand he blesses the person who is looking at him. The Savior is asked to ensure that prosperity reigns in the family. Previously, this icon was the first to be brought into the house of the spouses. Now the groom's parents use it to bless their son for a happy marriage.
How to meet newlyweds
When parents come out to meet the newlyweds after the wedding walk, this is a tradition that involves the transfer of family values to the bride and groom, it symbolizes the education of a new generation and the direct connection between parents and the newlyweds. Historically, the newlyweds lived in the groom’s parental home, and after the wedding, the young couple went exactly to where their parents met them on the threshold with bread and salt. Nowadays, this ritual has lost its relevance; more precisely, the meeting place of the newlyweds has changed, since many newlyweds have their own home and have to be met on the threshold of the establishment where the wedding table is set. Such changes have made small changes to the wedding traditions associated with the meeting of the newlyweds, but the folk signs that have appeared over the years during this meeting have undergone virtually no significant changes.
Meeting the newlyweds: traditions and signs
After the official registration procedure is left behind, the newlyweds and their retinue must visit the bride's home. This gives the young family a blessing for a happy family life. You don't have to spend a lot of time there - a short 10-15 minute visit is enough. It’s good if the parents seat the newlyweds in the “red” (honorable) place, thereby showing their respect for the couple’s decision. After this, the newlyweds can go to the place where the main celebration is planned. When the meeting of the newlyweds begins, the parents hold bread and salt, but it is forbidden for the wedding loaf to lie on a towel without embroidery. To do this, the towel is laid out so that the palms have embroidered edges, and the middle clean part sags in the middle. Embroidery symbolizes happiness and health, good luck and prosperity, so bread should absorb these wishes. The wedding loaf with which parents greet the newlyweds, as wedding traditions say, must be kissed three times. However, under no circumstances should you break off or bite off pieces of it. When the parents come out to greet the newlyweds, the father must pour them a glass of vodka. However, the couple should not drink it - they take the glasses in their right hand, bring them to their lips and abruptly pour them over their left shoulder. This action is repeated three times, but after the last time the vodka is not poured out, but rather thrown over the left shoulder of the glass. This ritual is associated with the belief that on the right hand of a person is his guardian angel, and on the left is the tempter demon. By pouring vodka over their left shoulder, the newlyweds close the path to evil. It was believed that if, after the glasses were thrown away, they both broke or both survived, then family life would be long, strong and happy. Rituals should be performed so as not to spill salt, as this promised trouble and was a bad omen. While the parents went out to meet the newlyweds with bread and salt, the bride's grandmother had to take a new lock, open it, put it on the threshold of the house and cover it with a special towel. Immediately after the newlyweds crossed the threshold of the house, the grandmother had to roll up this wedding towel and close the lock. The towel was handed over to the newlyweds, the groom's parents received the lock, and the bride's parents received the key to it. This was a guarantee that the wedding was a success and no one would separate the newlyweds until the lock could be opened. In ancient times, the founder of the house, who was supposed to protect it, was buried under the threshold; accordingly, the threshold is a death zone. The bride enters into marriage in order to continue her family and the groom’s, therefore, in order to prevent her from accidentally touching the death zone, the groom takes her in his arms and carries her into the house along the red field of the lined towel. The path laid out in front of the young is usually sprinkled with flowers, grain, rice, coins or flower petals. This is usually done in order to distract evil forces from the young.
Anna Kambur June 18, 2021, 12:57
A wedding is one of the most exciting days
not only for the bride and groom, but also for their parents.
There are many traditional rituals, following which young people are escorted beyond the threshold of their father’s house towards a new life. , parting words from parents
have been considered a blessing that each newlywed must receive in order for the marriage to be happy.
In addition to relatives, the bride and groom are accompanied by parents and neighbors, who, as a rule, shower them with candies so that life is sweet, coins so that there is always money in the family, and colorful confetti so that their life together is full of bright events.
Rituals and customs of Russian weddings have been passed down from generation to generation for centuries.
What traditions should be observed today? How to properly escort each of the newlyweds, meet and pick up the bride?
Candles for seeing off newlyweds at the registry office
Parting words for the groom before the registry office
While the bride receives blessings from her parents, her own ritual is also carried out at the groom's house. The table is covered with a snow-white tablecloth. They put bread on it, put salt and water next to it, and a burning candle. The groom kneels down and receives a blessing from his parents. The father takes his son by the hand and walks him around the set table three times. The mother must follow them, holding an icon of the Savior and a candle in her hands. Thus, the son receives support not only from his parents, but also from his entire family. After this, the groom can go after the bride.
Words of parental blessing to the bride and groom
Blessing the mother of the bride at a wedding is a very important ritual. However, it doesn't really matter much what is said. It is much more important that all words come from the heart, so that the parting words are sincere. Only then will children be truly happy, and will have a life ahead filled with happiness, joy and children's laughter.
What they usually want:
- well-being in the family,
- many years of happy marriage,
- health for newlyweds and their children,
- happiness in your own home.
By the way, the bride and groom should receive words of blessing not only from their parents, but also from each other’s parents. There is a belief that such a union will only become even stronger. It’s not for nothing that after the wedding, young people call each other’s parents “mom” and “dad.”
Parting words to the bride before the wedding ceremony
Traditionally, this happens before the wedding itself in the parental home. Before going to the Wedding Palace, the father and mother of the bride address their two children - their daughter and her groom - with parting words and wishes.
What to tell your daughter
Before the groom arrives, mom and dad can bless their daughter separately
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General “words of encouragement”
So you have grown up, daughter, and are about to fly away from the family nest. May your choice be correct, and may your family be friendly and strong. Respect your future husband, because now he is your support and protector, love him with all your heart. Daughter, we wish you a happy life in goodness and prosperity, healthy children who will delight both you and your husband, and your dad and me.
Words from the mother of the bride
Daughter, I am happy that you have found your path in life. She will now be associated with (name of the groom). While raising you, I tried to give you as much as possible - knowledge, feelings, teach you everything that a real woman should be able to do. Therefore, I am sure that this guy is a worthy person. Be happy in this marriage. May bright love always accompany you two, and may there never be discord in your family. Be, daughter, the happiest and most beloved woman in the whole world!
Wishes from father to daughter
Daughter! You are my only child and you know how much your mother and I love you. We are very worried about you now, and we will always be worried. It’s hard for me to give you to someone else’s house, but I believe in you and your choice. Therefore, I will try to accept your future husband as my own son. Be a faithful and kind wife to him. May there always be peace and mutual understanding in your new family. And the worries of creating this kind atmosphere of warmth and tranquility fall on your fragile shoulders. Be strong and patient, know that love can overcome all life's adversities. May your new family be happy!
Blessing of the bride and groom
After the ransom ceremony, which is traditionally carried out after the groom comes to pick up the bride at the parental home, her parents and the newlyweds retire and then say words of blessing.
