10 options for reviving sensuality and romanticism in marriage
Restore the brightness of intimacy.
If you are already over thirty, then sexual relationships may no longer be as diverse and passionate as before. After all, over the years, the external characteristics of the spouses change, and along with them, confidence in their own attractiveness and capabilities.
For example, the first wrinkles appear or one of the spouses gains extra pounds.
In addition, constant family chores, going to work and caring for children takes a lot of energy and time. As a result, each spouse strives to allocate time during the day for proper sleep, and not for violent intimacy.
What to do in this situation?
To begin with, each spouse must sincerely answer the question:
- does he feel comfortable with his partner?;
- Does he have disagreements and confrontations with his loved one?
If you feel general dissatisfaction with your marriage, then every effort must be made to restore lost harmony and respect.
After all, feelings from sexual intimacy depend on the general state of relationships with a partner in the areas of family life.
In addition, some sexologists draw an analogy between sex and a duet of singers.
So, singers can perform a lyrical piece of music in two ways - in unison or each will lead a separate part. If they perform a song together, they feel each other perfectly, as their voices take on a new sound, and this duet can also improvise wonderfully.
Make every effort in your marriage to restore interpersonal relationships with your other half, and your life will be filled with new sensations and emotions.
Show attention.
It has been experimentally proven that spouses who show tenderness and attention to each other in everyday life do not experience problems in their intimate life. If you've lost interest in your partner, then remember the last time you went to a movie theater together or had a romantic candlelit dinner.
After all, everyday problems can destroy even the happiest marriage.
To rekindle the fire of passion and love, do not forget to say pleasant words to your chosen one, show signs of attention and radiate only positive energy.
Come up with your own “recipes” to help restore harmony in sexual relationships.
Choose the right time for intimacy.
Often the quality of sexual relationships between spouses decreases due to the fatigue of one of the partners.
What to do in this situation?
First of all, give each other the opportunity to rest. Be sure to, together with your spouse, choose the optimal time of day and day of the week for intimate meetings.
- Some couples devote their weekends to sex, having previously assigned their children to their grandparents.
- Other married couples, on the contrary, pay attention to each other after midnight or early in the morning, before the start of the working day.
The main condition in these relationships is sincerity and a real desire to “dissolve” in each other, forgetting about everyday affairs and troubles.
Don't bring work problems into your home.
To relax after finishing a working day, do not take home important documents that you did not have time to fill out at your workplace, and do not schedule urgent telephone conversations.
These events will steal a lot of your precious time and also charge you with negative emotions.
If you urgently need to resolve any business issues, then it is best not to plan a romantic dinner or a date with your loved one that day.
5. Avoid the same scenario in intimate relationships.
Sexologists claim that married couples with “experience” fully study the intimate characteristics of their partner for a certain period of time.
As a result, sexual relationships develop according to the usual scenario for partners, and lead to a loss of novelty and passion in the relationship.
To avoid falling into this trap, experts recommend diversifying intimate relationships and avoiding constancy in them. Saturate every romantic evening with new sensations and bright emotions.
Be together
Many married couples with children spend their holidays with the whole family. But this is not a vacation for mom and dad. Especially if the children are small. Find an opportunity to go on vacation together. Let it be out of town, even for a couple of days, but together. Or give the children to their grandmothers and spend the evening at home together. As it was before - just him and you. And all your attention was paid to your spouse, and now there are children, worries about them, their illnesses, sleepless nights and your attention has switched. Dedicate a couple of days or at least one evening to each other.
If you live with your parents, then you should definitely have your own space where you feel the right to make your own decisions. If possible, separate from your parents. And then you will not associate your spouse with his relatives, their problems, and your conflicts with them.
Don't saw
How often and precisely because of the wife’s constant nagging does a family break up? Yes, almost every third. Do you have any complaints? This is fine. Sit down and talk calmly about them, without making any judgments about your husband's behavior or his personality. “You haven’t nailed the shelf again, you’re still lying on the sofa, you irresponsible lazy person” - you can put an end to this in a relationship. “Darling, I would really like you to nail this shelf, I just can’t do without it” - the beginning of the dialogue. Do you see the difference? Know how to voice your requests and solve problems without making complaints.
Make sex interesting
Over time, the severity of intimate sensations dulls. Desire and passion have subsided, and your husband has been studied so much that you already know what to expect from him. In general, nothing new and everything became boring. Make your intimate life brighter and sharper. Believe me, after sexual experiments you will look at your husband with completely different eyes.
In this matter, your helpers will be erotic lingerie, new positions, sex toys and new places for making love. Change the environment and come up with a role-playing game. You can rent a hotel room and arrange a date with your husband there. Imagine that you have a secret affair and your husband is a stranger. This is where your imagination can run wild. Make your wildest dreams come true. The main thing is not to do anything that your partner might not like. It is advisable to discuss your desires and fantasies before sex experiments.
Ways to spice up your sex life with your husband
Light abstinence
This is one of the most interesting ways that helps to “work up” your appetite. To do this, you don’t need to do practically anything difficult. It is enough to pay attention to each other in the form of caresses and limit them to them for a couple of days (if someone wants more, then more is possible).
At the same time, you can massage and find new and unknown places on each other’s body.
Another man
There will be no need for another person's intervention. Simply changing your appearance is enough. The couple is already used to how they look.
Therefore, if you dye your hair or get a new hairstyle, dress in a completely different style and invite your significant other on a date, it will end in a storm of passion and sexual desire.
The effect of surprise
To do this, just gently press yourself against your loved one’s back and simply whisper in his ear about an unexpected desire. Almost all men will respond to a request with great pleasure and it is not necessary to run across the entire apartment to the bed.
You can have a love session just in the kitchen or bathroom.
Do you need a doctor?
You can diversify your sex life with games. But don’t build pyramids or dress up dolls, but simply transform into a nurse, an auto mechanic, a flight attendant and other characters.
This will help to introduce something new and get to know each other even better.
Toys
By visiting a sex shop you can purchase several toys. Let it be something simple to start with.
Unexpected places
Maybe you are used to doing this only in bed? Then just give it up and make love in a wide variety of places.
In the kitchen, on the balcony, in the car, in a stuck elevator and other places hidden from the eyes of other people.
Trying on underwear
It’s enough to take your loved one to the lingerie store and try on and show him different charming and translucent sets. Naturally, he will not be able to touch the desired body, but this will create a great desire.
What can a wife do to diversify sex with her husband?
If a wife sees that her husband is beginning to lose interest in sex with her, it is necessary to urgently take action and add fire to intimacy. Options:
Change appearance
There is a controversial but fairly common theory that all men are polygamous and desire to prey on many different women. Any girl can give her lover such a chance. A new style, a new hairstyle or even a wig, unexpected makeup - this will create a feeling of novelty. To fully get into character, you can change your manners or add a slight accent to your speech.
A change of scenery
To make sex with your husband more interesting, you need to get out of the bedroom and go somewhere else for sexual sensations. To the park, to the forest, away from prying eyes, or to visit friends in another city, country, or sanatorium.
Water increases the sensation of intimacy. So, a good option (if the couple has not done this before) would be a joint bath with candles and foam. It will give you a feeling of weightlessness, the ease of what is happening.
Sex shops sell special cosmetics that make water look like a gel, which increases glide and gives unusual tactile sensations.
You can surprise your spouse by joining him while he takes a shower. A piquant highlight would be a T-shirt or T-shirt worn over a naked body - when wet, it will emphasize the breasts and nipples.
Involvement of third parties
If a woman is confident enough in her attractiveness, you can try a threesome or call a stripper at home. Who will be the third in bed, whether the spouse likes striptease, it is better to discuss these points in advance.
There is a stereotype that men dream of possessing two women at once. This is not always the case; many do not accept strangers in bed or even just in the house.
Correspondence, photos
With the development of Internet technologies, a new opportunity has emerged to spur passion with the help of erotic correspondence and explicit photographs. If you please your spouse with racy photos or intimate messages in the middle of the working day, he will look forward to meeting you in the evening.
Masquerade
If you meet your loved one from work in an unexpected sexy suit, it will be a great surprise. The choice of costumes for this game is great.
In adult stores you can find different options for a sexy nurse, kitties, a passionate mistress, and a wise geisha. The choice depends on the sexual preferences of the spouse.
Indiscreet talk
You should not remain silent during sex, indulging in it silently with a concentrated expression on your face. If during intimacy you have piquant conversations, comment on actions, describe sensations and desires, the difference will be noticeable.
There is no need to be shy in your expressions, even dirty phrases at such moments do not look vulgar, but on the contrary, they can excite. Lewd talk will be appropriate both before and during sex.
Don't forget about appearance
Many men convince their wife that they do not pay attention to the lack of hair removal or what kind of underwear she is wearing, whether her hair is washed, whether she wears perfume. Perhaps at the beginning of a relationship, when passion is burning, such little things may indeed be overlooked.
But when a spouse neglects her appearance for years, while not getting any younger and losing her attractiveness more and more over the years, it begins to catch the eye. Over time, such disadvantages begin to overshadow the advantages.
You need to take care of yourself at any age and condition. Pregnancy, child care, retirement or remote work - all this is not a reason to give up caring for your appearance.
It is necessary to wear beautiful lingerie, attractive home clothes, home shoes with small heels, and use perfume that is pleasant to your husband (this is important, if the scents are suffocating, nothing good will come of it). A sexy wife will not bore her husband.
Ideas on how to diversify your sex life and introduce new directions into it
Exploring new things
A sure way to diversify sex is to try new positions, unknown foreplay techniques, etc. A new environment also allows you to get variety in sex. Change your usual place and try having sex:
- On the balcony. Make sure that no one sees your couple, otherwise there are risks of becoming a famous person on YouTube. In cold weather, it is also not worth experimenting in this way.
- In the shower. You can diversify sex by taking water procedures together. Even if you are not the lucky owner of an expensive shower stall, this method works!
In the bathroom, you will be amazed by the flexibility of your bodies and the discovery of many new positions that will be forced in a limited space.
- In the kitchen. You can diversify your sex life while preparing dinner. Pleasure isn't just about spontaneity. In any case, no one canceled the whipped cream and ice cubes.
- On the staircase. Let's go back to the very beginning of sexual adventures - in school years! Adrenaline heightens the senses, you never know, maybe your neighbor might decide not to take the elevator and he’ll see you...
- Not at home. On inviting summer evenings, it is better to leave the four walls and walk through the secluded corners of the city. You don’t even know how many tempting places you can find to retire!
Just don’t covet various establishments and public places, because this is no longer a variety of personal life, but a real crime.
Buying a new bed
Researchers from the Department of Family Sociology at the University of Cologne conducted an experiment: cameras were installed in the rooms of volunteers. As a result, it was found that couples with a wider bed had sex more often, the foreplay was more varied (including massage and oral sex), and the sex itself lasted longer.
It was also found that couples who had recently renovated their furniture were more passionate and willing to experiment sexually.
The conclusion is obvious: even such a simple thing as a new bedroom interior and purchasing a king-size bed helps to diversify your sex life. If you have been living in an apartment for a long time and have not changed anything in the interior, then it’s time to act!
Massage session
Arrange an erotic massage session. Its goal is to excite a partner, create favorable conditions for sensual sex, and ensure the strongest possible orgasm.
The most suitable areas for erotic massage for a man are the back, torso, buttocks, and lower legs. Many men enjoy a head massage.
Decorate your personal life in marriage
Take care of yourself
Even if you are convinced that your husband loves you “anyone,” you can be sure that in a well-groomed state you are still nicer to him. Do not forget about such phenomena as depilation, face masks, skin creams and oils, pedicures, manicures and the like. Periodically visit a cosmetologist or hairdresser - this can greatly facilitate hair and skin care if you forget at home or do not always have the opportunity to do this.
Have a hobby
Men like women who are passionate about something. Moreover, many husbands proudly boast of their wife’s successes in one field or another, considering this a reason for pride. It’s not difficult to choose a hobby you like; the main thing is to decide what you really like. This could be cooking, yoga, dancing, embroidery, knitting and much more. If you can’t decide on a hobby now, remember what you liked as a child - perhaps then it will be easier to make a choice.
Play sports
Don't ignore the benefits that regular exercise can bring you. A woman who attends workouts at the gym, swims in the pool or goes to group fitness classes most often looks fit and younger than her peers who neglect such pastimes.
Methods for correcting family and sexual disharmonies
First of all, in a married couple it is necessary to establish interpersonal relationships. It is important to learn to openly express your feelings and find ways to solve problems that arise, including in the sexual sphere. In general, spouses are advised to:
- talk with your partner about sexual preferences;
- spend free time with him;
- share fantasies with a partner;
- respect your partner’s different views on sex;
- do not mechanize your sex life.
Very often it happens that the cause of problems in sex was interpersonal conflicts, but partners only notice changes in sexual life and begin to consider them the main and only reason for trouble in their union.
If problems between themselves are resolved in a timely manner, spouses can improve their sex life. It is important to consult a specialist in time, since it is very difficult to solve problems without the help of a competent sexologist. Our specialists will analyze marital relationships and select the optimal communication style taking into account your characteristics and teach you tactics for communicating with each other.
At the clinic Dr. AkNer pays special attention to sexual dysgamy. All information is completely confidential, so you and your partner may not completely trust our specialists. To make an appointment, call any contact number 8 (495) 098-03-03, or use the contact form on the website.
