Twenty ways to diversify your intimate life and make sex more interesting

People are designed this way that even the most wonderful sex with the most beloved and suitable partner becomes boring over time. What to do if you have lived with your loved one for many years, you value him immensely and in no case want to risk your relationship, but at the same time you perceive him in bed as a loved one, but memorized by heart, and therefore not such an interesting book? Is it possible to maintain a relationship without getting bored in bed?

Our answer is that variety in sex is possible! You just need to be aware of the obvious fact: even the brightest fire gradually fades away if you don’t constantly add firewood to it. So let's think about what kind of firewood needs to be added to the fire of sexual relationships so that its warmth will last us for a long time.

I want variety in sex: From theory to practice

No matter how banal this advice may sound at first glance, if you feel that not everything is going well with your loved one in the intimate sphere, you should not arrogantly reject the invaluable experience that has been accumulated over thousands of years by civilizations that have specialized in the pleasure of the flesh. Therefore, if you sincerely love your partner, are faithful to him, but at the same time you feel that your bed holidays are turning into bed everyday life, do not be lazy: go to a bookstore. Books such as the Kama Sutra, Peach Branches, or manuals on the study of Tantra and Tao can be a great help.

It is not necessary to delve into the wilds of Tantric and Taoist philosophy to add variety to sex, although they are incredibly interesting. Take from these books the main recipe: both ancient Indian Tantra and its ancient Chinese modification of Tao, with very specific and quite simply stated advice on managing your body, will help transform a purely physiological orgasm into a sensation on a completely different level - that is, into an ecstatic state of body, mind and soul, merging together. This is true harmony - and what, if not harmony, do we strive for in a relationship with a loved one, both in bed and outside of it? If you can put this greatest theory into practice, then it is impossible to get bored with such fantastic sex. Moreover, you get used to it, like a powerful drug, and you and your partner no longer have questions about the loss of novelty, excessive predictability, inevitable betrayals and other intimate problems. Don't believe me? Check it out!

How to simply ignite the fire of passion in your husband

Guys value kindness and understanding, so a woman who, in a fit of anger, uses rude speech and obscene language, few people will like. There are exceptions in couples who allow themselves to use “unprintable” language during sex, but such cases are more the exception than the rule. During intimacy, obscene words have a stimulating effect, but in family life they have the opposite effect: a wife who is dissatisfied and swears all the time causes hostility. No matter how unearthly beauty the young lady possesses, the faithful are interested in the appropriate behavior of the companion, her ability to speak calmly, wisdom and a worthy reaction to external stimuli.

One of the options for diversifying your intimate life at home is messages of a sexual and erotic nature. In them, the spouses describe a scenario for a joint vacation with game details, discuss planned role-playing games and costumes. You can buy new sexy lingerie.

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In some couples, the wife complains that the husband does not respond to any attempts to diversify sex on her part, while not a single outfit helps. At the same time, the man says that he would like to see his beloved in an erotic costume during sex.

Guys and girls have different perceptions of diversity in erotica. To avoid misunderstandings, it is important for partners to learn to talk and hear each other. But at the same time, you should not ask intimate questions directly; it is better to use indirect examples.

What can be used in bed for new vivid sensations:

Voice your wishes

Yes, we brought this point to the first place. Oddly enough, husband and wife who have lived with each other for many years are often afraid to talk about their fantasies. The problem here is mistrust, self-doubt and fear of being misunderstood. In fact, it sounds a little funny, given the fact that people got together, implying that they completely accepted each other. If, in response to your proposal, you see uncertainty in your partner’s eyes, then begin to approach this carefully, prepare the ground for this: a relaxing environment, the right words and touching erogenous zones. Typically, men are more willing to experiment than women. Therefore, if you want to try something new with your girlfriend or wife, your task is to show her that anything is possible with you, even the hottest experiments, for which no one will ever judge.

Role-playing games

The top preferences for role-playing games among men are nurse, flight attendant, teacher. For women - mistress and slave, kidnapping, prisoner. Everything is simple here - confidence, the right outfit and mood. And perhaps a little acting. To make the process even more fun. Perhaps you and your partner have a favorite image from a movie or TV series - bring it to life in bed! It's like you're having sex with other characters, but you're staying true to each other, making the sex more interesting.

Swingers

The solution, of course, is not for everyone, but you can try. Swingers are established couples who are looking for variety by inviting another couple into their sex with the same goals. It is believed that this option is better than cheating, since partners do not undermine trust between each other and take better care of their appearance and physical shape. The husband and wife make sexual decisions together, which distinguishes it from the concept of an open marriage. There are three types of swing: light, closed and open. Easy involves having sex in close proximity to each other, or with the involvement of a third person. In closed swing, couples exchange partners while having sex separately. However, they do not see each other. In open swinging, couples exchange partners and see each other during sex.

Lubricants

Lubricants today have become an almost integral part of sexual life. But few people know that lubricants are created not only to compensate for natural lubrication. There are three types of them: oil-based, silicone and water-based.

Oily ones should be left for massage and intimate caresses. They are incompatible with condoms and can stain clothing and bedding. Silicone ones also do not wash well from fabrics and are not always suitable for use with condoms. However, they do not dry out for a long time and are not washed off with water. Water-based lubricants are the most common. This lubricant dries out quite quickly, but remains the most versatile option. Lubricants can also come in different flavors to make oral sex sweeter and more enjoyable.

Toys

Sex toys are not limited to a set of vibrators of different colors and lengths. For men, you can buy special silicone penis attachments that will enhance the sensation of oral sex. Or, vibrating cock rings. There are many options, you just need to show interest in it. If you want to surprise a girl, buy a special vibrator that can be controlled from a distance. Just imagine, you went to some event, and you have a remote control in your hands and a girl who is about to go crazy from barely restrained pleasure.

Masturbation

Women have one unusual fantasy - they are turned on by male masturbation. Try this process next to each other. At first there may be embarrassment, but then you will relax and the process will end with enchanting sex. You can also try mutual masturbation. Girls are encouraged to guide a man. This way you will show easy dominance in bed and give yourself pleasure with his hands. Let the teacher show the student which buttons to press.

Sexual practices

The first thing that is usually meant by this term is “Taoist sexual practices”, which are considered pseudoscientific teachings of alternative medicine. In sex, you need to achieve control and harmony without allowing ejaculation. This is the key to longevity and increases the joy you get from sex. This is achieved through a variety of exercises and methods of working on the state of mind and erogenous zones. If you are not yet ready for Taoist practices, then look at what other countries practice in sex. For example, the Arabic sexual practice involves immersing the penis in hot liquid, which increases blood flow in both partners and makes sex more intense. In Spanish practice, the woman squeezes the penis tightly with her breasts. Due to this friction, the man gets an orgasm. A similar practice is “Mongolian”, only here the friction occurs between the partner’s buttocks.

True passion always remains between partners, it’s just that over time it is overshadowed by life’s problems and everyday life. The main thing is to understand this and both strive to rekindle the familiar fire with renewed vigor. Spend more time with each other, open up and talk about what's inside you. Mutual trust and the desire to nourish your love will be the first steps towards variety in sex, and this, in turn, will maintain interest in each other for many years of life together.

At least three poses...

must be mastered. The usual options “with a cigarette in hand”, “looking through the press” and “squeezing a hundred and twenty” are not taken into account. If your friend is already quite convinced that there is nothing interesting on the ceiling, first try turning her over on her stomach.

Massage

A little cool cream on the palm and a smile that inspires trust is enough to make any mimosa unbutton her blouse. Very little work and maximum tactile pleasure. It does not count if you paid for the work of a professional massage therapist.

Make your partner turn pink

This is the only way to make sure that your sex really gives her pleasure. Moans and thrashing in the dark don’t mean anything, but redness of the skin on the chest is a fairly reliable indicator that you have done your job and brought her to orgasm. Although, maybe it’s her allergies or she’s shy.

Condom with relief

You simply had to try this! Of course, it will make you neither cold nor hot, but she will be very interested in the new sensation, besides, the rubber ribs delay the sweet process for some time.

Will you be third?

It was high time you told her friend or your boyfriend this by inviting her to join you in bed. At this point, it is not necessary to be particularly persistent and forcefully implement your plans - friends may resist. But it's worth a try, isn't it?

Clean up your bedroom

The first step is to throw her flannel nightie and collection of stuffed animals out of the bed. Something is wrong with a woman who sleeps with stuffed elephants. Unless you're playing teacher and schoolgirl with her.

Mutual masturbation

Sex experts assure that this greatly contributes to better knowledge of each other, establishment of psychological contact and improvement of relationships. Indeed, by observing each other, you have the opportunity to consider everything in detail and improve your skills.

Afternoon sex

Women love this: when a man, no longer sleepy and not yet tired, slightly alien and incredibly businesslike, drops in for five minutes just to have sex. Yes, and it’s good for you to shake yourself up in the middle of the day.

Sex toys

require that they be used. If you've never choked on edible panties, tried out an "artificial vagina", felt the joy of flavored condoms or envied the unbreakable erection of a dildo, then where have you been all this time? Good sex should be fun.

Free oral sex

This thing requires dedication and selflessness. But isn’t it worth trying to give her oral sex without demanding the same in return at least once in order to forever remain a sweet and caring guy in her eyes? Perhaps she will tell her friends about this, and they will also want to take advantage of your generosity.

Photoshoot

Another important event in a man’s life: a camera is in your hands, and before your eyes is a girlfriend stretched out in boundless nakedness. Polaroid is extremely convenient in this version (you don’t have to blush in the darkroom). You can film anything, even the most unimaginable shamelessness. But it is not at all necessary to show indecent photos to your friends or her mother.

Pillow

Haven't you thought of putting it under your partner's buttocks yet? This helps increase the pressure on the clitoris, which enhances her pleasure. It also gives you the opportunity for deeper penetration. In addition, the pillows will heat up, and it will be pleasant to fall asleep on them.

Synchronized orgasm

Views on the problem differ. Not everyone considers a synchronous orgasm to be the height of pleasure, since it does not bring any additional pleasure. But it’s still nice when this happens. Trying is not torture.

Maso

It is not necessary to use handcuffs, dog collars or a police baton. Just let her tie you up so you can feel what it's like to be helpless in the hands of a wayward woman.

Porn

Be careful: your collection of hardcore movies may dampen her arousal rather than enhance it. Experts say that women are not particularly concerned with visual images and prefer to use their own imagination. To play it safe, invite her to choose what to watch, but don’t be alarmed when she suddenly settles on something like gang rape—it’s still better than a snotty erotic melodrama.

Quick sex

Have feminists already convinced you that bed exists only for sex marathons, where the main prize is her orgasm? Forget it. Quick sex can be very stimulating for a woman, especially spontaneous sex.

Bathe!

By replacing the plug-in hairdryer, soaked sliders and wooden clothespins with candles, wine and aromatic foam, you can have a wonderful relaxation with your girlfriend in the bath. The ancient Chinese said that water has the ability to transfer thoughts and energy of people to each other. And as for deepening contact...

All day in bed

The highest point of hedonism. The only problem is that one of you two (well, not you!) will still have to get up to warm dinner and drag it to bed.

Entrance, elevator, roof...

...A car, a bench, a toilet on an airplane, a Ferris wheel... Well? Have you already tried at least anything from the list as a sexy hippodrome or are you boringly jealous of those who lie flowerily about it?

Her underwear

This is a liberation task. She wears your boxers, so you try on her lace panties. Stockings are also a good idea. Women claim that they like the elastic and smooth nylon to hug their legs. Isn't it interesting?

Swear dirty

during sex is very fashionable: America and Europe are already swearing with might and main in their bedrooms. It's never too late to start, but it's quite difficult to express yourself rudely in your native language, while avoiding intonations that are offensive to the lady.

Sado

Somewhere inside you sleeps a macho, a rapist and a villain. Let him out on leave. It’s not necessary to hit a girl, but if she doesn’t mind, let her pretend that she completely refuses to enter into an intimate relationship with you. A couple of circles around the apartment and a stormy finale are guaranteed.

Jam and honey

When there are no bees or dentists worrying about your tooth decay, sticky, sweet liquids are great for licking off your hands, feet, and belly. It’s better, of course, if these legs and belly belong to the woman you love, and not to a random passerby.

Breast

Breasts, which are not squeezed like an expander and are not chewed like a hungry hamster, are a very important component of female sexuality. This may be news to you, but skillful stimulation of the nipples can bring a woman to orgasm. Just don’t talk about how you’ve already gotten rid of your mother complex!

Petting secretion

Brightens up dreary times spent in public places such as cinemas, theaters or restaurants. Everything that is within reach of the partner’s intimate parts of the body is used - legs, arms, tongue. The goal is an orgasm invisible to others, which is also a bonus.

Confess your love

At the same time, without “scurrying”, without “mocking” and without choking with self-disgust - a task that only a real man can cope with. If, when you open your mouth to say the main words to someone, you feel like you are being attacked by tetanus, try practicing in front of a mirror. Unless, of course, you are not frightened by the prospect of admiring your own physiognomy at this pathetic moment.

How to spice up your sex life

Method 1.

Wear a white t-shirt over your naked body and join your man in the shower. As soon as you get wet, he will immediately become a participant in the wet T-shirt competition so beloved by men. You took the first place!

Method 2

When you watch TV together, while sitting, raise your hands and place them behind your head. At the same time, your back will arch and your chest will rise so seductively that all your man’s attention will be focused on it.

Method 3

Take your man to a lingerie store. Wear different sexy outfits and show him yourself in them. The fact that he won't be able to touch you will make him very horny.

Method 4

At a party with a lot of people, whisper in your man’s ear: “I think I forgot to put on my panties...” and walk among the guests with an innocent look.

In this situation, you will understand what a woman magnet is. Your man will always try to be near you and touch you.

Method 5

When you go to some formal event, stand behind your man while making a speech.

Press yourself against him from behind and, lifting your dress (the dress should be above your knees), press his hand to the bottom of your stomach (you guessed it, you're without panties again!).

I hope he doesn’t have a heart attack this evening....)))))

Method 6

When you go to a team, at some solemn moment of making a speech, stand right in front of your man.

And with your hand from behind, start stroking his pants in the fly area. The method is very hooligan, because when a man gets excited, it will not be easy to hide.

Method 7

When you get ready to go to work in the morning, walk around your apartment in your bra, panties and heels. But if you can’t be late, don’t risk it! Because when your man sees you like this, his common sense will completely turn off.

Method 8

When you drink a cappuccino, “accidentally” leave a little foam at the corners of your lips. Then, slowly lick this foam with your tongue.

Method 9

When you eat ice cream, slowly lick it off with your tongue, lick your lips and repeat: “Mm, how delicious...”. And at the same time, slyly look into the man’s eyes.

Method 10

If you and a man are in company and he is far from you, look at him with a long, meaningful look, smile slyly and stick out your tongue a little.

Licking your lips sexually may be inappropriate, but simply playing with your tongue so that your man can see it will be exciting.

Method 11

Send your man an SMS with a text that says: “I have prepared a surprise for you tonight...)))”

Method 12

Send your man an SMS with a text that says: “When I get home, wait for me completely naked!”

Method 13

Send your man an SMS with a text that says: “I’m thinking about you now and masturbating.”

But make sure that on this day the man has no important things to do, because in any case he will drop everything and find you to join you.

Method 14

Call your man at work and start moaning while pretending to have phone sex. Imagine as much as possible.

But I can’t vouch for your man’s nervous system - how will he survive to meet you?!

Method 15

When your man is at work, send him photos of your charms (your breasts, or your ass, or your bare legs in stilettos).

Look on the Internet to learn how to properly photograph certain parts of the body to make them look more attractive.

Method 16

When your man comes home, you have already prepared dinner for him, and you meet him in an apron, dressed on his naked body. Moreover, walk around with an innocent look - take out forks, plates, etc.

Method 17

You start cleaning the apartment in the same apron, dressed on your naked body.

When your man enters the room, at this time you are recommended to take something out from under the sofa, gracefully arching your back.

The view that will open up to him will simply blow him away.

Method 18

If your man is a little busy with something, and you feel bored, do the following trick.

You “remember” that you urgently need something at the very top of the closet, climb onto the stepladder and ask your man to hold it.

Then you draw his attention to something above, he raises his head and... he sees that you forgot to put on your panties again!

Think for yourself what you can wear so that it flutters and shows all your charms. Remember, you need to do this with a completely innocent face.

Method 19

You go with a man to a restaurant. You are wearing a jacket and something underneath. In a restaurant you say it's hot and take off your jacket. There is a slightly transparent blouse, worn over a naked body.

You are guaranteed the attention of all men, including waiters. And if your man can take his eyes off your breasts and eat even a piece of food, I will be very surprised.

Method 20

When your man is busy in another room, turn off the light in your bedroom and light a candle. Call your man. He comes in and in front of him you are naked, in a beautiful erotic pose, in high-heeled shoes in the light of a flickering candle.

Amazing sight!

Method 21

Intimacy after the birth of a child

Problems often arise in the sexual life of a couple while expecting a baby and after its birth. This can happen due to physical fatigue, a large number of new responsibilities and an unwillingness to direct energy in an intimate direction.

While taking care of the child, the wife may forget that she is a woman and needs to pay attention to her husband. He, too, may not strive to correct the situation and does not think about improving his sex life with his wife. He grows cold towards his woman and may go for new experiences with another.

To correct the situation, the mother needs to learn to ask for help and support from her husband and relatives. If she gets more rest, she will soon remember her sexual needs and desires. For example, while the spouse remains at home with the children, his significant other can visit a massage parlor or meet friends in a cafe.

It is also important for women to take care of their appearance. Spend 15-20 minutes of physical exercise every day if 2 months have already passed after giving birth. Wear nice, sexy loungewear and regularly use anti-cellulite and stretch mark creams. If you are not yet ready to diversify your intimate life with your husband and make it more turbulent, do not rush. It is important to maintain love, trust and understanding in a couple, then over time everything will work out.

About what causes sexual cooling in a man in marriage

There may be several reasons that lead to sexual cooling of a partner in marriage. The main one is considered to be the manifestation of a parental position on the part of the wife. She makes attempts to re-educate her husband, tells him what and how he should do. This kills sexual interest on the part of the faithful, because no one shows it to the parents.

There are cases when a wife literally strangles her husband with her guardianship. Attention and care are important in relationships, but do not forget about reasonable measures in everything. In such a marriage, the wife is no longer of interest to the chosen one as a woman. He perceives her as a mother who will scold or feel sorry for her.

The reason that husbands, after 25-30 years of happy family life, suddenly leave for younger ladies is not only their attractiveness. Most often, such situations arise due to the fact that the new passion sees the man as an adult and does not seek to patronize and control him at every step. To avoid this, it is better for wives not to try on the role of a caring sister or mother.

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Compatibility of sexual temperaments

Sexual compatibility in a couple is a very important element. It affects not only the feeling of satisfaction from sex, but also the feeling of happiness from relationships. If you don’t think about how to diversify family life in bed with your husband or wife, and also don’t work on problems in the sexual sphere, the relationship may collapse. That's why it's important to talk openly about your desires in a way that works best for both of you:

1. Write flirty letters to your loved one, in which you voice your fantasies. Ask him to share his desires too.
2. Show your partner a video or movie clip that fulfills your sexual fantasies.
3. Tell your lover what you would like right in the middle of sexual intimacy and ask him to immediately fulfill this desire.
4. Take a sexual compatibility test together. You and your partner can choose a number of things you would like in sex and show your lists to each other. This is a good way to diversify your sex life with your wife or husband. He will help you find out about your spouse’s desires without unnecessary embarrassment.

When the results of your research show incompatibility with your loved one, do not despair. If you work on the relationship and make concessions, the problem can be quickly resolved.

Practical ways to make relationships more interesting

• Compliment each other more often;
• Cook for each other or cook together;
• Dedicate a song on the radio to your partner;
• Send a handwritten love letter;
• Set joint goals to improve your relationship;
• Help each other around the house;
• Be brave and do things together outside of your comfort zone more often.

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Advice from sexologists

For a fulfilling sexual relationship, you need to take care of each other's needs. At the same time, it is important to realize that intimacy is a key area in marriage, but it cannot be placed above other needs. If nothing else excites you in a relationship other than sex, the union will not last long.

Don't be afraid to ask honest questions, as this is the best way to learn about your loved one's wishes. Perhaps he does not need acrobatic tricks from you in bed and copying the behavior of heroines of porn films. Making sex better and brighter is much easier than it seems.

The best way to maintain fidelity and love in a marriage and add variety to sex is to take care not only of your own desires, but also of your partner’s interests. You can give your partner piquant surprises. Do not neglect such elements of your sexual life as erotic lingerie, sex toys, romantic dates. It is also important to take care of each other not only in the intimate sphere, but also in everyday life. Then the relationship will become warmer and more open.

A classic of the genre - you take off your shoe and stroke his leg with your foot. You can put your foot above the sock, or you can, if the tablecloth is long, stroke it between his legs.

Tantra advises:

• While experiencing orgasm, look into each other's eyes.
  The look of your partner in these seconds can tell you more than volumes of love letters, armfuls of roses and other traditional attributes of love confessions.
• Breathe deeply.
  Feeling the imminent onset of orgasm, many reflexively hold their breath and tense all the muscles of the body. And you try to relax completely, breathe deeply and slowly, do not rush the onset of orgasm - and it will turn out to be much more intense.
• Kiss your partner on the lips not as foreplay or after sex, but directly during intercourse.
  Physiologists say that a huge number of nerve endings are concentrated in the lips, and Tantra adds that the lips are one large erogenous zone.
• Make love... with your clothes on.
  Sometimes small areas of the naked body, revealed to the eye only for a moment, excite much more than absolute nudity.

The Kama Sutra advises:

• Add maximum variety to your intimate life.
  Literally one or two poses may suit you perfectly, but this is not a reason to refuse all the others! It is important to try, search, experiment with poses and movements, and you yourself will determine those that give you maximum pleasant sensations with a minimum of discomfort.
• Train your pelvic floor muscles, and most importantly, your vagina.
  With the help of rhythmic contractions of these muscles, you can not only literally drive your partner crazy, but also provide yourself with a whole palette of new sensations.
• In addition to the vaginal muscles, do not forget about the other muscles.
  For sex to be unforgettable, both partners must be in good physical shape. Otherwise, they may simply not be able to survive the night without sleep...
• Erotic play does not have to develop into sex - at least in the traditional European sense of the word.
  Everything may well be limited to kisses - but such that you will remember them many hours later.

Tips to avoid monotony

When sex with your beloved becomes like an obligation and partners want variety, it’s time to use your imagination and give your feelings a little shake-up. To do this, you can use a few simple tips:

1. Suddenness. By pouncing (in the good sense of the word) on your beloved not in a boring bedroom before bed, but somewhere in the living room at the height of the day, you can get a charge of positive emotions.
2. New places. There is always a place in the house where a couple has never had sex. It's time to correct this unfortunate omission.
3. Special literature. Experimenting with poses will help you get rid of everyday life. To select them, you can use books or come up with a new position together with your partner.

Sex toys

Sexual toys, which spouses for some reason hide as far away as possible, can enhance pleasure. Both women and men can use them. Popular among them are:

1. Vibrator. Many people confuse it with a dildo. The main difference is that the first one vibrates, while the second one is simply a copy of the male penis. Despite the widespread stereotype, not only women can use it. The vibrator is suitable for stimulating the G-spot, inner thighs and other erogenous zones in both sexes. You can try placing it during intimacy so that it touches the clitoris and scrotum. It is important to always wash and dry toys, and also not to forget about an additional supply of batteries, because it will be a shame if they suddenly run out before the onset of orgasm.
2. Anal beads. They can be used to give special pleasure to a man. It's just a thread with balls that are selected according to size. Using generous lubricant, they are inserted into the young man's anus. During climax, thanks to the contraction of the anus and the friction of the balls, the orgasm will reach its highest point. It is important to use enough lube and leave a small part of the toy outside.
3. Cock rings. This is one of the oldest sex toys, which is a device worn on the penis during an erection. A small ring restricts blood flow and thereby helps maintain an erection for a longer period of time. It allows you to diversify sex with your husband and adds thrill to the woman during penetration.
4. Dildo. In shape it is a copy of the male phallus. Regular use of the toy helps strengthen the walls and muscles of the vagina. If a dildo is purchased for insertion into the anus, you need to make sure that it has a thickened end. This will allow the owner to avoid a humiliating and unpleasant trip to the local clinic to have the toy removed from the anus.

The main task of sex toys is to provide additional pleasure to their owners in bed. You should not think that if a woman has purchased a vibrator, this means that the man does not suit her as a lover. Most likely, she just wants to add variety to her intimate life with her partner and is looking for options.

Buying a new bed

The Department of Family Sociology at the University of Cologne conducted the following experiment: scientists selected volunteers who had cameras installed in their marital bedroom.

Based on the results of observations, it was established:

1. Those with wide beds had sex more often, their foreplay was more varied, and the duration of intimacy was longer.
2. Those couples who had recently completed renovations or simply changed furniture also had better sexual relations. They were passionate and willing to experiment.

From this it was concluded that a simple interior detail can help bring novelty and variety into the intimate life of partners.

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We are looking for the treasured point

The G-spot can be compared to the philosopher's stone. Everyone has heard about it, but no one knows where it is. The only difference is that the G-spot is real and can be found. The search can be turned into an intimate game that will bring sexual pleasure to both partners. The most sensitive areas of the human body are:

• mouth and lips;
• ears;
• area from the pubis to the navel;
• neck;
• clitoris;
• breasts and nipples;
• popliteal dimple;
• feet and toes;
• buttocks.

In intimate areas, you can use a variety of caresses: with your hands, tongue, feather, ice, warm wax. The main rule is to monitor your partner’s reaction. This will allow you to understand what gives him or her pleasure and which caresses should be avoided.

Massage session

A good massage not only gives you energy and allows you to relax. It is able to excite both spouses, set them up for sensual sex and help them achieve a strong orgasm. For men, the areas suitable for massage are:

• back;
• torso;
• buttocks;
• shins;
• head.

When massaging, you can use creams and aromatic oils that will achieve the maximum relaxation effect.

Unfortunately, passion in marriage can fade over time. But if both partners show the desire to maintain the fire of sexual attraction and diversify the relationship, then achieving results will be easy.

Oh horror: let's go to a sex shop

It would be a mistake to think that everything we need for sex is a priori given to us by nature itself. The main thing is, of course, but this basic thing also sometimes needs help, prevention or even repair. It is then that additional “materials and tools” come into play, for which you can go, don’t be alarmed, to a store with the shocking name “sex shop.” But psychologists have already convinced us: the clients of “shops for lovers,” as they should be called, are not perverts or maniacs at all, but normal modern people who do not suffer from complexes and strive to bring maximum joy to themselves and their loved ones. Yes, we don’t argue, you can buy more than outrageous things there that are not suitable for everyone, but in addition to those, the sex shop has a lot of goods that will be useful to any normal couple – even the most traditional and conservative one.

Tips for visitors to a sex shop for variety in their intimate life

• To begin with, pay attention to relatively innocent products
  - such as flavored lubricants and specially textured condoms that enhance sensations. Aphrodisiacs - drugs that increase sexual desire - deserve special attention. Oddly enough, there is nothing particularly magical about them - just as there is nothing harmful or addictive. They are based simply on vitamins, mainly A and E, which promote the production of sex hormones. They also contain adaptogens that relieve fatigue - for example, ginseng or eleutherococcus, succinic acid, mild stimulants such as caffeine, as well as extracts of tropical plants - muira puama, damiana, guarana, yohimbe or exotic insects such as the famous Spanish fly.
• Among stimulants, there are drugs intended only for women, only for men, and also for general action
  . Try it - the result will not be long in coming, and it is absolutely not necessary to do this when sexual function begins to fade. Even at the peak of sexual potential, a properly selected aphrosideiac will simply add new impressions - especially when taken with a loved one in a romantic, exciting environment.
• Shyly looking away from different-sized dildos, some absolutely cosmic vibrators, intricate pumps of unknown purpose and other outright things, you will soon realize that there is nothing scary or shameful about them either.
  Take, for example, dildos that are so shocking in their naturalism. The sales assistant serving you, without any vulgarity or overly playful hints, will explain to you that this device is just a godsend for a man prone to premature ejaculation, as well as for a woman suffering from uterine prolapse. But even if you don't have these kinds of problems, a dildo can be a cool toy in the right hands, bringing freshness and novelty to sexual play.
• In today's advanced times, even teenagers know that clitoral stimulation is one of the most important elements of love play
  , and the sex shop will offer you another wonderful and very useful toy: the clitoral stimulator. By the way, it is very good as a kind of test simulator, manipulation of which will allow you to study the sexual reactions of your partner and adds amazing impressions during even the most traditional intimacy.
• Once you have persuaded yourself to go to a sex shop, do not hesitate to consult with the seller.
  Believe me, there is nothing shocking or vulgar in this conversation. You ask the advice of a salesperson in a hardware, grocery or shoe store? A store for lovers is essentially no different from any other, and the staff is there not only to lighten your wallet, but also to help you choose the right purchase. And most importantly, when going to a sex shop, remember: nothing is prohibited between two loving people if it is a joy for both partners.

The bed is the last thing

Have you gained some theoretical skills and tried them out in practice? We advise you to experiment with the geography of love. Don’t be alarmed, we are not talking about going to the North Pole to love each other on the permafrost, risking frostbite of the members and organs actively involved in sex. To begin with, you can simply go on an erotic journey through your own apartment.

You shouldn't focus on the bedroom - although it will come to that. Start with kisses somewhere in the hallway, then move to the kitchen and allow yourself to be undressed, then slip out of the impatient hands of your lover and lure him into the bath. You never know how many good, secluded and, most importantly, unexpected places there are in the apartment! A dining table or a wide window sill, a carpet on the floor in the living room or an old piano, and at least a loggia - if it is properly glazed, because ardent love on an ordinary balcony can gather too large an audience of interested passersby. Sexologists say that the effect of the old place provokes cravings, but the effect of the new place, on the contrary, brings fresh sensations.

Topographer tips:

• Have you mastered the entire apartment?
  Well, that means it’s time to start romantic forays into the world around us. For starters, you can just go visit. Ardent teenagers, even at a party, would find a place where they could bring the merger to the final result, but since we are now talking about respectable adults, it is absolutely not necessary to secretly make love with friends in the toilet. But secret, inconspicuous petting under the cover of a long tablecloth - why not. You will come home in an excited state, and no one will bother you there.
• Petting is also very good in restaurants with separate rooms.
  Between the waiter's arrivals, you will have enough time for each other - if not for the process itself, then at least for mutual excitement. Believe me, the walls of such restaurants have seen everything, so the staff there is well-trained and will not disturb you at the most crucial moment. Again, no one encourages an adult couple to secretly excite each other in an opera house, but in the darkness of a cinema hall - why not.
• If you have the opportunity to spend a weekend in a forest tent or in a banal holiday home, this will also greatly diversify your established sexual relationships
  , and a joint vacation somewhere in warm regions is the best dope for dormant passion. So expand the geography of your love, and this old proven method will certainly refresh your sexual relationship.

We also suggest expanding your boundaries even further by reading our next article about autoerotic asphyxia, where we reveal all the advantages and dangers of this hobby.