How to tell your husband about pregnancy: preparation and optimal methods

Nature has given a woman a unique opportunity to be the first to know that a stork will soon fly to the family. Having learned about this, every woman wants to share her joy with the whole world. But most of all she wants to inform her beloved man, her future daddy. And do this in such a way that the event becomes a family legend, passed down by legends throughout the family.

How to proceed in such a way as to inform your husband about your pregnancy as quickly and originally as possible, without giving yourself away with lengthy preparations?

Preparing your husband for happy news

How to tell your husband about pregnancy? It is not so easy to entrust this “secret” even to a loved one, and therefore it is impossible to do without preparation in this matter. To do everything right, just follow these recommendations:

Choosing the right moment - such amazing news should be reported when the child’s father is in a good mood. If the expectant mother sees that her other half is tired, in a bad mood or busy with her own affairs, it is better to leave the conversation for later.
The husband should be the first to tell you about the pregnancy, even if you want to share this news with relatives, you should not do this, since quite often relatives, having learned about the pregnancy, begin to congratulate the future father, who is not even aware of this yet. This will definitely be a shock for him, and he will also be offended that his wife did not inform him about the addition to the family in the first place.

Pleasant atmosphere - in order to announce the good news, you should create a pleasant atmosphere. You can go for a walk to his favorite place or cook a romantic dinner. It is important to create a positive attitude so that the news is received properly.
Nice words - before you announce your pregnancy, you need to tell your beloved man how happy you are with him, how much you love and appreciate him. And only after that can you tell him that you will soon have a baby, and he will be the best father for the child.
Unexpected reaction - even if such news is unexpected, this does not mean that the man is not happy about it. If your other half became silent after hearing what they heard and went into themselves, you should not be afraid. For him, this is a shock and he needs to be given time to think it over and get over it. After some time, the man will make contact himself and then it will be possible to continue the conversation.

It is worth considering that you should not hesitate to talk about adding to the family. The sooner you tell your other half about this, the better.

When will we shock?

The earlier the better! If you think that your position is invisible to others, you are mistaken. Some shifts in behavior are likely to be observed. It’s better for you to tell about your pregnancy yourself than to arouse suspicion among your relatives, who might even think that you are sick with something.

• Making my husband happy

It’s decided—the first thing we do is tell my husband. In the age of modern technology, when a message about what a person ate for lunch appears in the public domain two minutes after the meal itself, the question of how long to wait before telling your lover about your pregnancy seems ridiculous. But the telephone, and even more so the social network, are far from the best assistants in communicating this good news.

Many women, upon learning about pregnancy, immediately run to the store to buy scented candles for a romantic atmosphere in the evening. In their imagination, the picture looks something like this: a tired and exhausted husband comes home, and here a delicious dinner, a smiling wife, and pleasant music await him. And in all this idyll, you say in a soft voice: “Darling, we are having a baby.” The husband immediately begins to shine with a mischievous smile, picks you up in his arms and spins, spins, spins... And now we take off our rose-colored glasses and put them in the farthest drawer of the table. Statistics show that in 99 percent of cases the reaction is just the opposite. The man falls into a stupor. From him it’s quite natural to hear phrases like “Are you sure?”, “Baby?”, “Are you serious?”, and these words sound without any rudeness, but in dull bewilderment, “I’m going to become a dad, amazing!”

Of course, for a woman, watching this picture is not the most pleasant feeling in life, but you just have to come to terms with it. Even if the pregnancy was long-awaited and later the man will really hold you tightly in a joyful embrace, then for the first couple of minutes he seems obliged to look down, realizing what happened.

• We inform our parents

With parents the situation is a little different. If you have an observant mother, then there is a possibility that she has already guessed about your interesting situation for a long time. If the parents are happy with their son-in-law, then they will be very happy about the pregnancy. Previous troubles in your relationship with your mother, if any, will suddenly begin to leave you, because now you seem to be on an equal footing with her. You will soon understand the meaning of your mother's "horrible" actions when she did not allow you to stay out late or forced you to study well.

In the case of parents, it is also important not to hesitate. They should learn the news from you or from both of you and your husband, but not from your son-in-law, otherwise they may be offended.

• Making my husband's parents happy

Breaking the news of pregnancy to your spouse's parents can be very difficult. If you are not on the warmest terms with them, entrust this important mission to your lover, he must have an approach to them. It’s great if you go to report the good news together.

If you notice that your mother-in-law is already beginning to guide you on the “true path”, try to approach her advice with maximum attention and disposition, without showing your dissatisfaction, by the way, many of them may turn out to be really worthwhile.

Seven ways to tell your husband about pregnancy

Many expectant mothers want to share this good news with their husband in an original manner, so that the husband remembers it forever and the memory of recognition evokes only positive emotions in him. So, how can you announce the arrival of a third family member?

First method: Tell your husband about your pregnancy original

Buy a nice gift for your man, wrap it beautifully and put a note inside with the good news.
Take the phone number of your beloved man and rename your number to “Stork”. Then send him a message with the phrase: “I'm flying out. I’ll be there in 9 months.”
Invite your other half to take a shower or bath together, after writing “Temporary house for baby” on the tummy.

Second method: Beautifully tell your husband about pregnancy

Treat your beloved man to dinner. But at the same time, set the table for three people. Let the third set be baby dishes; just put a bottle on the table and your husband will immediately understand everything.
Create a video of the most romantic moments of your life and at the end of the recording attach a photo with a pregnancy test and the caption: “Hi Daddy.”
Organize a tea party together by ordering cupcakes with storks and corresponding inscriptions.

Third way: An interesting story to your husband about pregnancy

Give your husband a book on how to become a good father, including a bookmark with a positive pregnancy test on one of the pages.
Create an online collage consisting of your photos together and an ultrasound photo of your baby, setting it as wallpaper on your husband’s laptop.

Book a table for three at a restaurant and don’t tell your husband about the third guest. Ask the waiter in advance to bring a note to your other half from a third unknown person, in which you write: “Sorry, but I’ll be late. Many affairs. I'll be there by spring. Your stork."

Method four: Surprise your husband

Prepare your husband cupcakes, cakes or pies, including a note in one of them with the news of your pregnancy. Mark the baked goods with a surprise and make sure the news reaches the recipient.
Before you go to bed, tie a red ribbon around your belly area and tie a big bow on it, telling your husband that you have a surprise for him. Before you go to bed, take off your robe and show him your belly, decorated with a bow.
Buy a Kinder Surprise, carefully divide it into two halves, take out the toy and put a note with the news in its place. Then put the chocolate egg halves back together and seal. Give a kinder surprise to your other half and watch his reaction.

Fifth way: How to tell your husband about pregnancy in an unusual way

Gather your husband and parents for a family dinner. During the feast, invite them to take a photo together, and become the photographer yourself. When you take a photo, instead of saying "Cheese," say "I'm pregnant" and then take the photo. This photo will become a priori unusual and will evoke joyful emotions throughout your life. And when the baby is born and grows up, show him this family photo and tell his story.
Conduct a quest by placing notes with tasks throughout the house and ask your husband to complete them. And the quest prize is a note with news about pregnancy.
Order a tea mug with a chameleon effect, asking in advance to write news about the new addition to the family on it. Give a cup to your husband and invite him to drink tea from this cup with you. When it warms up and the news appears from under the picture, ask your husband to look at the surprise.

Sixth way: Tell your husband about pregnancy in a funny way

Order cookies for your husband with the inscription: “The best daddy.”
Buy large cabbage, put it on a shelf in the refrigerator and label it: “Pick up in nine months.”
Order a timer from a gift shop that says, “You'll be a dad in nine months,” and give it to your husband.

Seventh method: Creatively tell your husband about pregnancy

There are sites on the Internet where you can create a game with your own plot. Find such a resource and create a game based on the plot of your life, and as an ending, make a slide with the inscription: “Congratulations to the future daddy.” Ask your husband to play this game to the end.
Give your beloved man a T-shirt with the inscription: “The best dad.” You can order it in a specialized online store.

Contact the courier service and ask them to deliver the package to your other half. In the box, place a pacifier, onesies and a pregnancy test.
If your man is a serious person and does not accept creativity, then inform him about your pregnancy in a calm home atmosphere. Well, if he is a creative person and loves noisy gatherings with friends, have a themed party, decorating the house with rattles, storks, pacifiers and other baby paraphernalia. Invite your closest friends, led by your husband, and share the great news with them, let them share with you the most joyful event in the life of your family.

How to announce a long-awaited pregnancy

If you and your husband have been dreaming about a child for a long time, it will be easy and pleasant to say that you are pregnant, because in this case you know for sure that your spouse will be happy.

• Show test

Sometimes women begin to announce pregnancy, choosing somewhat veiled phrases like “Darling, our family will soon become larger” or “We will soon have someone.” Now these words seem simple and understandable to you, but being unprepared for such news, the husband may answer with a question like “What, the mother-in-law is coming, right?” The easiest option is to show two lines on the test. If you want it to be more interesting, put the test on the table, and then ask your husband to come over and see what’s there.

• SMS

No, we are not suggesting texting your husband at work. But a very original option in the evening, after going to bed, is to send your lover an SMS “I’m pregnant!” In this case, the most difficult thing is not to see your husband’s reaction, not at all out of fear of being rejected, but out of interest - what is his facial expression now?! If you are ready to endure in such a situation until your loved one begins to show signs of life, go for it!

• Nobody canceled a romantic dinner!

Originality does not have to overshadow the romance of the moment. If your husband is a romantic, then that dinner and delicious-smelling candles are just the thing.

And to be unusual, you can communicate your delicate situation with the following phrases:

1. Sunny, do we have an extra couple of thousand for courses for future fathers and mothers?

2. Darling, soon you will have to work for three people.

3. Look, this is the first photo of our baby (show the ultrasound picture).

Before you say these phrases, think about whether your husband will react normally to this way of delivering the news? If his sense of humor is okay, then you can try, but believe me, the standard “Honey, we’ll have a baby soon” will also produce a stunning reaction.

Prepare for his reaction

In order not to get shocked, you should be prepared for any reaction, because for a man such news is a bolt from the blue. Therefore, do not be afraid, but tune in to all expected situations.

He will give money for an abortion. He will casually slip them into your bag or put them in your hand, even if at that moment you are sobbing in front of his eyes.
Without saying a word, he will turn away and leave in an unknown direction. And he will never call again, erasing you from his life.
He may leave without words, but then return. Probably not right away, but after a certain time, when he gets used to the idea of your pregnancy.
He will say something unpleasant about lack of foresight, so you need to prepare for an unpleasant conversation with accusations against yourself.
He will require test results to verify everything personally. At the end, he will also ask you to take a paternity test as proof that the child is his. He will spend any money on this.
He will be delighted: he will rush to the nearest store for champagne and chocolate to celebrate such good news.
He will freeze, rooted to the spot, in one place, but then he will break into a smile and begin to wonder if you want something tasty.
He will immediately offer his hand and heart, and then take him to meet his relatives.
He will ask you to repeat what you said to make sure it is not a dream.
He will begin to prove that he is “sick” in this regard and, in principle, cannot have children, that all this is nonsense, that the child is not his.
An incredible scandal will break out with accusations and insults. That is, he will do everything so that you get away from him as quickly as possible.
She will begin to complain about her carelessness and tell her to go to the hospital for an abortion and start taking birth control.

My boyfriend's ex said she was pregnant

Often, a new union of two hearts is overshadowed by the news that your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend is expecting a child. The situation is difficult and can darken even the brightest relationships. And here everything depends on the decision of the future father, or rather on how honest and decent he is. But the fact that he shared this with you means that he trusts you and does not want to deceive you. And in a good way, he needs to understand everything thoroughly so that they don’t “hang someone else’s baby” on him.

Most often, a guy chooses a child and leaves, dooming himself to life with an unloved person, and the girl, like a woman, understands that this is right. But you can advise him to financially help the mother of the unborn baby and just move on with his life. These two options are the only correct ones, since absolute coldness and indifference to your possible offspring should not make you happy, but alert you. After all, he can react in exactly the same way to the news of your possible motherhood.

How men react to pregnancy

The news of the imminent birth of a child can cause enormous stress for a spouse. If pregnancy is expected, then there was time to prepare and find answers to questions; “Am I ready to become a father?”, “Will I be able to provide for my family?”, “Am I ready to sacrifice my interests for the sake of the child?” If the birth of the baby was not planned, then all these questions fall on the man like a powerful avalanche.

It is important for a man to be confident in financial stability and in maintaining personal space for hobbies and interests. If a husband doubts his abilities, then the news about his wife’s unexpected pregnancy may cause him a negative reaction, because with the birth of the baby his life will change dramatically, and not all people are ready for changes.

A spouse’s reluctance to have a child may indicate his inner fears, self-doubt and selfishness. How to tell your husband about pregnancy if he doesn't want a child? Perhaps it is better to exclude all creative and non-standard methods and talk in a calm and comfortable environment for both of you. You can't avoid this conversation, so you need to be brave and take the plunge to discuss your pregnancy.

Most men have distorted ideas about what a child in the house is like. They think it’s dirty diapers scattered throughout the apartment, sleepless nights, an unkempt and always irritated wife, and a baby crying around the clock. Of course, any man would be frightened by such a prospect! To reduce anxiety, talk to your spouse and explain that children are an integral part of a full-fledged family. Visit friends who already have small children more often, and focus your husband’s attention on the fact that a baby is not so scary. Of course, with the birth of a child, your life will change, but only in a positive way, because a newborn is a fruit of love, an extension of yourself and an endless source of happiness and smiles.

Method No. 1. Banal option

You can call your loved one on the phone or write a message, but then the girl will not be able to see with her own eyes the reaction of her future dad. Therefore, this option is acceptable only when your loved one is very far away and there is no opportunity to see him in person. This method can include a situation where a woman welcomes her husband home from work and immediately tells it like it is. In this case, it is best to prepare the man a little. His reaction will be greatly influenced by the current relationship between him and his wife (girlfriend). If the girl herself is happy about the future appearance of the baby, then this joy will be transmitted on an energetic level to her interlocutor. Then the conversation will take place in one breath.

How to talk about pregnancy?

You should immediately make it clear that the conversation will be serious. If you are in a park or a cafe, ask him to turn down the volume on his headphones; if at home, tell him to turn off the TV.

Do not express insults or insults towards him - both are to blame. Therefore, this topic should be excluded. Everything has already happened – and it doesn’t matter whose fault it is.

If several weeks have passed, say: I was silent because I wasn’t sure and wanted to be completely sure.

Don't overreact to his state of shock. It will pass, but it can harm the unborn baby, so be careful.

Mystery as one of the ways

Pretend that you have some kind of secret, make the guy a little jealous. Set a password on your phone, communicate with anyone in an exclusively quiet voice, and regularly delete incoming messages. Several times you can buy yourself flowers, come home a little later than usual with a bouquet in your hands, and supposedly accidentally drop a man’s scarf. This is the height of acting!

When answering questions, try to get away from the topic and look away in embarrassment. Then deny your loved one intimate intimacy, after which he will not fail to talk about another man, to which you should answer evasively: “Well, to some extent...”. Then quietly add: “But I don’t know who our little man or woman will be.” The guy will finally breathe freely and be glad that the reason for the mystery is just a small child.

Method No. 10. Flight of fancy

In fact, there are many different ways to talk about pregnancy, but every girl wants her version of this moment to be special. To do this, you need to give free rein to your own imagination and imagine in the smallest detail how this should happen. All that remains is to make your dreams come true.

Pregnancy is a process through which an egg develops in a woman’s body; over time, it forms into a fetus that is capable of intrauterine development and existence. Pregnancy begins 7-10 days after the first day of menstruation and ends with childbirth.

Having shared the good news about her pregnancy with her beloved man, a woman should be prepared for any reaction. The fact is that a man cannot immediately realize the beauty of what is happening. Therefore, there are times when a man needs time to think about this situation. The main thing is to wait patiently; you need to understand that for him this news is a decisive step into a new position as a caring father.