Why guys love it when a girl is on top: reasons and explanations

In this article, psychologist Evgenia Dvoretskaya answers the question “Why do girls love from above?”

The question is formulated incorrectly. It's the other way around. Statistics say that many women love the position on top, and some do not. I will add to other answers that it is possible that their genital organs are structured in such a way that in this position they either do not receive positive sensations, or in general the sensations may be painful.

I will also add from my personal experience that it is not necessary to gallop like a horse from above. You can also move slowly.

You love the position on top because you achieve orgasm more often in it - firstly, you control the rhythm and speed yourself, and secondly, the man can easily reach your clitoris with his hands. However, this is where all the pros end and the cons begin...

You feel a little cheated

Agree: it's not entirely fair - you puff and sweat, doing all the hard work, while the man lies on his back and lazily enjoys the show. If only I could use my hands, really!

This may be due to the structure of the genital organs; for some, this position may even be unpleasant. The second reason may be that the girl is embarrassed about some features of her body: her tummy sticks out a little, her breasts are too small/too big, etc. Another reason is her own prohibitions: her being on top implies her activity, and thanks to her upbringing and public opinion, women were instilled with the idea that they should be quiet and submissive, and if a girl is active, then she is dirty and promiscuous. If you really love the girl to be on top, let her be, but at the same time let her press her breasts to you. This will remove many living complexes in it, provided, I repeat, that such failures are associated with its anatomical structure.

The cowgirl pose is original and unusual

If a man still wants to play a passive role, but at the same time wants something unusual in sex, then offer him the cowgirl position. Believe me, this will bring him a lot of unforgettable feelings of emotions.

The fact is that men absolutely love to watch a woman squirm while sitting on him and get a lot of pleasure from contact with her partner. And in general, a naked woman who herself rides on the dignity of any guy looks very sexy and exciting.

In addition, in the cowgirl position, the partner has the opportunity to caress his girlfriend in the chest, navel, anus and clitoris. Therefore, this option often brings a lot of pleasure to both partners.

Some girls believe that if their partner loves the cowgirl position, then he is lazy and wants his lover to do everything on her own. In fact, this is a huge misconception. It’s just that guys who love this position are real aesthetes who love to observe and enjoy the appearance of their chosen one. They get pleasure not only from stimulation of the penis, but also from the female body, which turns them on even more.

And the fact that a man must completely submit to a woman also brings him into extraordinary excitement. Agree that this option is more than suitable for women too. Here there is G-spot stimulation and additional stimulation of erogenous zones, and the ability to control the process, especially the speed and depth of penetration.

If you want even more unusualness, then in the position on top you can turn your back to your partner. This will add even more feelings and emotions, and you will be able to achieve orgasm. It is in this position that the best G-spot stimulation occurs, since the penis enters at a certain angle, reaching that same erogenous zone.

What poses do men like: poses of maximum relaxation

On the other side of the scale are relaxation poses, which excite no less than domination in bed. These are the best sex positions in which the woman takes an active role (but not a dominant one).

This option could be a cowgirl position, in which the partner lies on his back, and the girl actively acts while sitting on top of him. A common fantasy is oral sex, in which the man will sit comfortably in a chair or sofa, and his partner will give a blowjob while kneeling in front of him.

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Sex in a sitting position can be not only oral. The lover will definitely like the “lap dance” position, in which the woman is active, sitting with her back to him on his lap.

Spoon pose can also be relaxing. To do this, just turn to face your partner and perform active actions, continuing to lie on your side or raising yourself slightly.

Bed habits tell the whole truth about a man's character

How a man behaves in bed, what sexual positions he prefers, can tell a lot about his character. Therefore, if you do not want to make a mistake in choosing a partner, be careful!

The first thing you should take a closer look at is how a man behaves during foreplay and sex. If your partner cares about creating a romantic atmosphere, lights candles, etc., most likely he will do everything to please you. If he constantly or at least occasionally looks into your eyes during sex, this means that he has deep feelings for you and is not indifferent to your emotions. If he kisses you very softly, it means that he is a little worried and does not know how to please you. In this case, reassure him, show tenderness, or simply tell him what you would like.

You can tell a lot about a man by the position he prefers. If he prefers the “man from behind” position, then this means that your partner is confident and likes to control the situation. These are undoubtedly good qualities, but sometimes your man may seem overconfident and act offensively patronizing towards you. In addition, the man-from-behind position does not involve eye contact. This means that a partner who prefers this position does not like to show off his emotions - even to those closest to him.

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If your man is partial to the “on his side, facing each other” position, this means that he wants to be as close to you as possible. It also signals that he may be unsure of your feelings for him and needs you to prove to him that you care about him. Be that as it may, a man who prefers this position is most likely a sensitive and gentle lover.

It is believed that men who like the “woman on top” position are selfish people who want their partner to do all the “work” for them. However, this is not necessarily the case. There is a high probability that such a man not only likes to have a good time, but also cares about you. Indeed, for many women, it is in this position that it is easiest to achieve orgasm.

If your partner prefers “missionary” to the whole variety of sexual positions, this means that he likes to do everything “right”, without deviating one step from his principles. Most likely, he is a faithful and devoted man who will not let you down in a difficult situation. All these qualities make him an ideal partner for women who like stability and confidence in the future. However, if you think that life should be a constant holiday with periodic outbursts of emotions, then such a man will seem too boring to you.

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The time immediately after sex is a great opportunity to understand how a man really feels about you. If, after reaching orgasm, he immediately turns away, this may mean that he wants to isolate himself from you and your emotions. This can also serve as an alarming sign - it is possible that this man only needs sex from you, and he does not have deep feelings for you. However, before making far-reaching conclusions, it’s worth talking to him and telling him that you want him not to turn away from you after sex (of course, if you really want this). MoiMozg

Face to face, on your side

| To the cinema | A fairly rarely used pose, although photographers respect it very much. Intertwining of legs, beautiful static, frozen moment... But in motion, this pose from the outside is very difficult to imagine as something passionate and exciting. Two backs who don’t know what they’re doing. This is how lovers can talk after sex in this way (close-up on intertwined fingers, a woman’s waist and hip).

| In reality | Several percent of the ladies surveyed gave this position the highest score, but overall only 14% consider it one of their favorites. At the same time, she has many variations (his leg is on her thigh, both have their legs pressed together, she has one leg raised, etc.). The position provides excellent stimulation of the clitoral area, a good view of partners, but, alas, limits the depth of penetration of the penis. And many people don't like it.

It is not very comfortable usually, although it depends on the man. On the other hand, a good lover with a powerful erection will not spoil any position, but with some, let’s say, lethargy, something more traditional is better. (Natalia, 32 years old)

A very good start. Besides, I love when you can look at the male body at this time in its entirety, but here he is all in front of you - with legs and arms... (Anna, 25 years old)

So, what have we learned about men's preferences in erotic positions?

Don't forget about beautiful linen: remember, it is much better to receive a gift in a beautiful wrapper.
It's not his fault that you may have complexes. A man wants to touch your hips, hug your waist. Leave insecurities at the door and don't bring them to bed.
Try to move around, dance a sexy striptease. This will further inflame the situation.
Men's favorite positions are doggy style, missionary, cowgirl and standing.

Yes, it's a classic, but it will always work. And by the way, by your preferences in bed you can determine the character and type of a man.

Share in the comments what poses you practice in your couple. What does a man like, and what are you crazy about?

Rider

When I move myself, I don’t feel much. “Rider” for me is a sports trainer and an opportunity to show myself. (Anna, 25 years old)

| To the cinema | The absolute leader of cinema. It is used so often that all the virgins on the planet are now firmly convinced that this is the only way sex happens: a woman pushes you onto the bed and jumps on top, waving her bra over her head. That's why they are virgins.

| In reality | 23% of women think horsewoman is one of the best poses. There is no man weighing a million tons lying on top, complete control over the situation, the woman herself chooses the angles, intensity, rhythm and depth of penetration. Again, the sight of a defeated man in her power is extremely inspiring to many ladies. But there are also pitfalls: some girls don’t like the need to work independently (even if you actively help the process with your hands and hips), others are annoyed that you see her breasts from an insufficiently favorable angle. In addition, there are girls who do not like to take initiative at all; they want to be exclusively the object of passion, and not the subject of it.

My head is often dizzy at this time, and sometimes I’m really afraid of falling over if the guy is wound up properly. (Nastya, 23 years old)

If passionate sex is limited to only this position, it will not please me. The pose is not bad, but something is missing from it. (Varvara, 20 years old)

What does his favorite pose say about a man?

It’s not enough to know what sex positions men like. It is also important to understand what this means. This can tell about his preferences and psychological characteristics, for example:

Leader: his favorite position is “missionary”, because he gets pleasure when he leads the process. Sometimes he is categorical in his decisions, sometimes even suppressive. But it is with such a man that you will be as if behind a stone back.
Sybarite: lover of the “cowgirl”. He knows very well that if you have all the cards in your hands, he will get pleasure faster. This type of man is not very suitable for family happiness, since soon the main affairs will fall on women’s shoulders.
The tamer loves the doggy style position, while spanking his partner's buttocks. It is very difficult to tame it, but it is only possible for a strong female personality.
The extreme sports enthusiast loves everything new and tries to avoid the classics. You won’t get bored with him, but loyalty is not his way.