How to recognize a pick-up artist? Signs and characteristics of behavior

The term “Pickup” came into modern speech from the English language. This concept arose in the USA in the 70s of the twentieth century and meant the quick seduction of a girl using a set of special techniques, techniques and patterns. One of the fundamental works on which the theory of modern pickup is based is the book by Ross Jeffries “How to Get the Woman of Your Dreams into Bed.” It describes theoretical points and practical instructions that allow you to seduce almost any woman in a few dates.

Today, pickup is represented by numerous trends and schools holding different views. However, there are a number of general theoretical aspects and techniques that form the ideological basis of this direction. The domestic pickup truck is also developing rapidly. After the release of the feature film “Pickup: Eating Without Rules” in 2009, thousands of guys and men signed up for seduction courses, and thematic forums and web resources received a powerful influx of new adherents who wanted to master the art of seducing women.

Who is a pickup artist

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A pick-up artist is a man or guy who studies and practices the art of seducing subjects of the opposite sex. Contrary to the prevailing stereotype, a pick-up artist is not always a horny male obsessed with the idea of sleeping with as many women as possible. Often, normal, adequate guys who, for various reasons, do not have good relationships with girls, become seducers. Among the people who call themselves pick-up artists, there are both scoundrels who want to manipulate the fair sex and romantics who study pickup techniques in order to overcome natural embarrassment.

There is a common myth according to which the average pick-up artist is a student suffering from a lack of sex and money, and desperately wanting to get a girl by spending a minimum amount of resources. In fact, the pick-up artist’s age may be well over 40, and he was prompted to study the theory of professional seduction not by greed or financial problems, but by sporting interest. Many people enjoy the process of seduction itself. Some women are convinced that the overwhelming majority of pick-up artists are losers with an inferiority complex. Very often, men who are successful in business and sports with a good upbringing and higher education become seducers.

Types of pickup artists

Professional seducers can be divided into 2 main groups. The first type includes male representatives who are distinguished by their sincere love for women and do not consider them defective or inferior in any way. This category of pick-up artists includes educated, intelligent people who study psychology, philosophy, social dynamics, practical and esoteric aspects of Buddhism and many other disciplines. They can be recognized by the following signs:

Such a person is distinguished by sincere behavior, does not like falsehood and tries to be himself, and not play a learned role when communicating with girls.
He does not set himself the goal of sleeping with hundreds of women, but is looking for the one and only one in order to connect his future life with her. He is simply well aware that diamonds do not lie on the surface, so he masters the art of seduction in order to learn to separate the “wheat from the chaff.”
A man of this type pays a lot of attention to self-development, which makes him an interesting interlocutor with a broad outlook.

Of course, not only people who want to get rid of fears, complexes and become “the best version of themselves” go to pickup. Subjects who lack high moral qualities and treat women from a purely consumerist point of view also sign up for seduction training. Manipulators can be recognized by the following characteristics:

After communicating with such pick-up artists, you are left with an unpleasant aftertaste, a feeling of discomfort and mental tension.
These individuals use patterns and routines that appear unnatural and false.
They expect approval from girls, being offended by criticism and mocking remarks addressed to them.

People who belong to the second type do their best to demonstrate self-confidence and increase their social status. Such individuals speak in memorized phrases, have a lifeless gaze, and desperately want to assert themselves in the eyes of others by humiliating other people. Despite the abundance of seducers who use manipulation and dishonest methods, normal pick-up artists believe that breaking up with a girl should be “environmentally friendly,” that is, not cause harm to the girl’s psyche and self-esteem.

The main signs of a pickup artist

If a “one-time” relationship is not suitable for you and you want more, then it is better to know who the pick-up artist is and figure him out right away in order to stop communicating and not regret what you did in the future.

Sometimes this is quite simple to do if you pay attention to some points.

The following signs of such men will help you understand who a pick-up artist is and that it is he in front of you:

Most often, male pick-up artists are very attentive to women , they try to talk as little as possible about themselves and provoke their lady more into revelations and details. In a normal conversation, both a man and a woman on a first date share information about life equally, trying to present themselves in the best light.
When communicating with a pick-up artist, you get the impression that this man literally reads your thoughts and desires, and then expresses them out loud. This often captivates interlocutors and deprives them of their usual caution. In fact, the pickup artist only says what you want to hear, and not his own opinion.
A pickup artist always tries to psychologically influence a woman. His posture during a conversation is open, his eyes carefully look at you, sometimes even with delight and admiration. He tries to be as close to you as possible, touching you while talking.
The beginning of a conversation with such a person is always unusual and intriguing. An example would be the now almost classic phrase “Does your mother need a son-in-law?” or “What will you do this evening after dinner with me at the restaurant?” This manner of acquaintance should already alert you.
A pick-up artist is always well-groomed, handsome, and on parade. Even if these are ordinary jeans, they emphasize his advantages and sit well on his hips. Smell plays an important role. To smite you on the spot when you first approach, such men use good perfume.
No embarrassment or uncertainty. The pickup artist sees his goal and is ready to achieve it by any means. To do this, he comes up with original scenarios or uses those that he learned on pickup forums, in communication with like-minded people or on the Internet.
The pick-up artist most often chooses the place for the second date if there was no sex on the first one. If you decide to change him, then most likely he will refuse to do this, while an ordinary guy will not care where to meet the girl he likes. Typically, such men avoid public institutions, for example, cafes, restaurants, cinemas and theaters, as they try to spend as little money as possible on seducing a girl.
Pick-up artists are touchy. If he himself throws caustic jokes towards a girl in order to provoke her and arouse interest, then he may be seriously offended by the response or even leave you alone.

Remember: The correct word is “pickup artists”, not “packers”, as many people pronounce.

Besides all this, the pickup artist will always be gentle and polite with you. Even your hair that hasn’t been washed for several days and your hastily put together ponytail will receive his compliment, and more than one.

It is worth noting that if a person has been involved in pickup trucks for a long time, then he already has a wealth of experience. In this case, even if you know who the pick-up artist is, you may not be able to spot him right away.

If you do make a mistake and meet with a professional, don’t regret it. The invaluable experience of such communication will allow you to never again be hooked by an experienced tempting fisherman.

Pickup artists' habitats

Since multiple “attacks” on people of the opposite sex are practiced in a pickup truck, seducers prefer crowded places with high traffic. These include all kinds of recreation parks, shopping and entertainment centers, ice skating rinks, public gardens and cafes near higher educational institutions, where there is a high chance of meeting charming students. Today, many pick-up artists prefer to look for victims on social networks. You can figure them out by annoying offers to meet immediately after the start of virtual acquaintance.

How to recognize a pick-up artist

You can recognize a pick-up artist from the first moments of meeting him. Any self-respecting seducer always has several “Openers” in stock, that is, phrases with which he begins his “attack” on a person of the opposite sex. Openers can be direct or indirect. Direct-opener is an explicit or veiled compliment that shows the pickup artist’s interest. Indirect “Opener” is a method of starting a dialogue without clearly expressed interest in the girl. It is designed for beautiful women who are tired of constant attention and flattery from numerous fans.

Another trait that gives pickup artists away is “Cinema.” This term has nothing to do with cinema and is an abbreviation for the word “kinesthetics”. The technique was borrowed from NLP and is based on tactile contact that the seducer tries to establish in the first half hour of acquaintance. Therefore, if a man attempts to casually touch his arm, hair, shoulder, neck or other parts of the body, then with a high degree of probability he can be considered a pick-up artist.

Most men, far from the theory and practice of professional seduction, like to talk about themselves, boasting about their social status, career achievements, sports successes and other merits. The pick-up artist focuses on questions addressed to his “victim” in order to learn as much as possible about her preferences and weaknesses in order to make it much easier to manipulate her in the future. Seducers tend to copy a woman’s posture during a conversation, as well as her facial expressions and manner of speaking.

How to communicate with a pickup artist?

If you have no desire to have any relationship with a pick-up artist, then there are several ways to make such a man retreat on his own and not pester you anymore.

Here are some of them:

Ignoring compliments, not expressing any emotions. Just pretend that this man is not around, and after a while he will go looking for another victim. Only 3-4% of pick-up artists will make a few more attempts.
Give him some unexpected, but truthful and caustic comment like “I would iron my shirt before meeting girls.” This maneuver will also push him away.
Talk less about yourself, ask him more questions.
Ask to go with you to a movie or cafe. Pick-up artists don’t like to spend money, so usually after this offer they immediately disappear.
After the first meeting, do not answer his phone calls. You can also constantly reschedule dates due to some urgent matters. This will also scare off the pick-up artist.
Stop all attempts to touch or move closer to you. Pick-up artists love contact, touching during communication, and your actions and coldness will scare them away.

Secrets of pickup artists

Knowing about the tactics and techniques of pick-up artists, you can easily bring them to light. First of all, you need to familiarize yourself with the classic seducer scheme, which involves winning in 3 dates. The pick-up artist devotes the first 2 meetings to collecting the maximum amount of information about the female object. The key is the decisive (third) date, the task of which is to discourage the girl and take her out of emotional balance. Such a shock can be based both on the fear of the “victim” (fear of heights, spiders or any other strong phobia) and on its weaknesses (fluffy kittens, plush toys or Japanese cuisine).

Knowing this algorithm, a girl can easily take the reins into her own hands by moving the decisive date to another place at the last moment. Thus the plans of the seducer are destroyed, and he, in confusion, turns from hunter to prey. Having suspected that your annoying admirer is a pick-up artist, you should start a kind of game with him, the basic rules of which are as follows:

tell him as little information about yourself as possible;
cut off any attempts at tactile contact;
after the first date, ignore his phone calls;
arrange for him to “break the pattern”, avoiding direct answers and adhering to a non-standard line of behavior.

The modern pickup truck is a real subculture, so recognizing a seducer with a little diligence is not so difficult. Professional seducers have their own slang, in which, for example, the term “MLTR” means a long-term relationship with several passions at the same time, where “primary” is the main girl, and “secondary” is a backup option. “LTR” is a long-term relationship with one lady. The concept of “prize model” implies a behavioral pattern that provokes a woman to start pursuing a pick-up artist herself. “Calibration” refers to the assessment of the reaction on the part of a potential victim. “Fast” is an ideal scenario that involves sex on the first date.

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Conclusion

Every girl must first understand her inner world and raise her self-esteem. Without this, she will be an easy prey even for a novice pickup artist. Of course, it’s a good idea to be careful, so don’t rush to go on a real date. If you talk longer with a man who decided to meet you online, you will be able to learn much more about him and understand whether it is worth going on a date with him, or whether he is a typical pick-up artist.

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Elena Milkova

28 years old, psychologist, sexologist. I consider myself an expert in dating and relationship development.

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