Missionary: 10 Cool Ways to Enhance It

The missionary position is simple, comfortable, popular, but almost always underrated!) This is what I always want to say first of all when it comes to this position. Most couples have such a narrow understanding of this position and its potential possibilities that sometimes it becomes sad and offensive. Therefore, in this article we resolutely intend to correct the current situation. Today we will radically change your understanding and attitude towards the missionary position and help you unlock all the hidden potential that it conceals within itself.

From this article you will learn what this pose is and what it looks like, what options for performing it exist, advantages and disadvantages, and most importantly, 3 advanced techniques that will simply blow your mind !) We will also give you some practical tips and recommendations for using this sex positions. Well, now let’s begin.

Variants and types of missionary position

Some enthusiasts unanimously claim that this position is one of the most boring among all the Kama Sutra positions, it quickly gets boring and can only be used by those who simply don’t know anything about sex yet. It is for beginners, phlegmatic people and lazy people who have sex only because they have to, without receiving absolutely any satisfaction from the process itself. But I immediately want to say a lot of buts, in refutation of this ridiculous accusation, because it has a lot of different variations that allow couples to successfully remain in a comfortable position and at the same time, discover new sensations.

Yes, in the original, the missionary position assumes that the woman lies on her back and the man is on top of her, but this is far from the only option for performing it. Most people don’t even know how different and interesting this pose can be, you just have to use your imagination a little and experiment. Now let's see what it can be.

But the main essence and feature of the positions presented above lies not in their appearance, but in changing the angle and depth of penetration of the penis into the vagina, which directly affects the feelings of the partners, and allows the girl to experience different types of female orgasm. Those who are especially active and sophisticated in sex know perfectly well that the position of the female pelvis and, as a consequence, the depth and angle of penetration of the penis into the vagina depend on the position of the female legs in the missionary position. Therefore, representatives of the fair sex do not just spread their hips to the side, but bend their legs at the knees and pull them towards themselves, place them on the waist of their partner, or even throw them over the man’s shoulders. By the way, the option when a woman throws her legs over a man’s shoulders is often called the officer’s pose.

These are just a few examples. In fact, the variety of these options can be much greater. See also 19 photos of the missionary position in different variations.

I hope now you understand that only inexperienced or narrow-minded people can call it boring. Well, it’s already clear to you what it looks like in the photo. Now I offer a more live demonstration!)

Technique

A woman is on her back with her legs spread - straightened or raised towards her back - and bent to her knees. You can wrap your legs around a man in different ways: his back, shoulders or hips. The higher the girl throws her legs back, the deeper the penis will penetrate into the vagina.

The man positions himself on top of his lover so that eye contact is maintained, with his legs between her legs and his groin level with the woman's. He rests on his knees and bent or straightened arms.

Active movements are performed by the pelvic area. We all know how it happens ;)!

Advantages

• intimacy between lovers: you can look into your partner’s eyes, see passion, climax, the proximity of orgasm, hear sweet moans. You can kiss, whisper erotic compliments in each other’s ears!;
• deep penetration;
• stimulation of the clitoris by the male groin – a more vivid orgasm for a woman;
• a man controls actions: he can speed up orgasm or “sweat” himself and his beloved in sweet anticipation;
• no special flexibility or physical endurance is needed. Enjoy sex even until dawn;
• placing pillows under a woman’s buttocks helps increase pressure on the G-spot, which will speed up the female orgasm;
• sensuality.

Flaws

• the man gets tired because he must constantly lean on his hands to keep his body suspended and not crush the woman;
• a common problem is premature ejaculation;
• no one can properly reach the clitoris with their hands;
• negative public opinion - this sex position is considered boring, hackneyed and lazy.

Benefits of missionary position

• Simple and convenient. This is probably one of the most important advantages of this position. If you want sex, but don't want to strain, this is the perfect option. Neither he nor she gets tired or stiff. The partners are in the most relaxed and comfortable position, which allows them to enjoy each other for a long time and at the same time practically not get tired.
• Maximum contact and intimacy. Due to the special feeling of closeness and the ability to show tenderness to your partner, the missionary position is ideal for romantic couples who especially want to look into each other's eyes when they have sex, kiss their partner's lips, feel their breath on their neck, watch their facial expressions , hug passionately and so on. By choosing her, partners feel not just physical intimacy, but also emotional, very deep, which manifests itself on a special level. But here everything depends on the mood of the partners; for some, this position can be completely ordinary, everyday, and for others, it can make it sensual and incredibly voluptuous.

For her

• Pleasure without stress. We have already talked about this in part above. If a man, although it is convenient, has to make some effort, then a woman practically does not need to do anything. All she needs to do is lie on her back, spread her legs, relax and have fun!) Of course, this is an ideal option, which will only work if the man is a competent lover and knows how to bring a girl to orgasm without her special participation.
• He won't see the flaws in your figure. All girls, no matter how ideal they are, in 99% of cases always have complaints about their figure and their body!) I’m fat, I’m thin, I have crooked or short legs, etc. And at the moment of sex, these cockroaches always sit in the very first row of their consciousness. The beauty of the missionary position for a girl is precisely that the man’s gaze is always turned either to her face or to the pillow!)
• The best clitoral stimulation. The parallel or almost parallel arrangement of the bodies in relation to each other provides good stimulation of the clitoris during sex. And since the clitoris is, in the vast majority of cases, the main female erogenous zone, it becomes much easier for a girl to have an orgasm in this position than in all others.

For him

• Master of the situation. Of course, the man, being on top of the woman, dominates and leads the whole process. He controls the pace, depth and angle of penetration. On the one hand, this is an advantage (do as you want and as you please), but do not forget that this is also a responsibility, since in this position the female orgasm depends entirely on the skills and actions of the man. Therefore, men, while enjoying a woman and her body, do not forget about the woman herself and her needs.
• Ejaculation control. This point is especially important for men who are not very hardy in bed. By controlling the pace and depth, a man can slow down when he feels that he is about to cum, thereby allowing the wave of excitement to pass and continue sex. This way he has a much greater chance of bringing the girl to orgasm first, and then cumming himself.

Circular movements with kicks

To begin, lie down with your legs extended. Lean on your elbows, thereby lifting your body so that your groin is pressed against her pubic area. Insert the penis into the vagina to its full depth (as deep as possible). Introduce it gently, slowly at first, then thoroughly. After this, start making circular movements with your hips.

She will immediately join in the play and lift her pelvis, looking for a position that will keep her clitoris properly pressed against your groin. As you move together, her clitoris will receive maximum friction.

In order to provide even greater compression by the groins, the woman can freely stretch her legs on the bed. When both partners' legs are extended, their bodies are in an extremely arched position, ensuring the maximum angle of intersection of their bodies in the groin area.

Remember how I said that all of this has a lot in common with dancing - the swaying of the hips, the thrusting, the rhythmic movements and pressing of the hips together? Rumba, samba and cha-cha got their start on a mattress with a mistress. Once there, the partners subsequently married, became respectable, and the memory of their lovemaking was transferred to the dance floor. At least that's Xaviera's version of dance history. Does anyone have a better one?

Dear men, I don't mean to deny your personal style, I just want to tell you how to help a woman cum first. And after she finishes, you can do whatever you want and the way you like. One of the reasons why many women are unable to orgasm is because they try to compete with men in their lovemaking skills or because they are too quick to conform to men's behavior in the following cases - all of which is definitely not true:

1. Don't squeeze her legs too tightly. Or rather, do not squeeze them at all until she has finished. Too many men like to insist that a woman lie with her legs up so that they can squeeze her hips with the bends of her elbows. I understand that it’s nice to enjoy a full armful of juicy attractive female thighs. But this takes your woman out of the most successful and advantageous position for her. She is not going to go anywhere, remember, she will want to get up and leave if you always make her feel like a prisoner, tied hand and foot.
2. For God's sake, don't grab her buttocks. They are also not going to run anywhere. However, men really love to reach out and scoop them up anyway. Some men begin to pinch the woman’s buttocks, while others squeeze them with such force that she is unable to make wave-like movements. Remember, the basic rule is this: don't hold her back!
3. Don't put it on your head. It is very easy to identify a man as an egoist; No sooner does this guy get into bed than he begins to command: “Get them up!” Some people want the girl's legs to point straight at the ceiling, resting on the air; others demand that she put her feet on their shoulders. A woman in this position turns from a woman into a hole; her clitoris is rendered useless and receives nothing but air. I've often thought that one of the reasons why so many women have trouble orgasming is because women feel ridiculous and awkward in some of the positions men put them in.
4. In order to cum, a woman must first feel attractive and sexy. She feels this way if she undulates rhythmically, and quite the opposite if she keeps bouncing up and down like a ball.
5. Don't speed up your movements when she starts moaning. She moans because, first of all, she feels good about what you are doing at the moment.
6. Don't ask questions that require her to give stupid answers. The most annoying thing is men who, while doing something that undoubtedly delights a girl, suddenly ask her: “Do you like that?” What else can she answer him other than “yes”? At such a moment, trying to answer “yes” or “no,” the woman will feel ridiculous because she can hardly make an articulate sound. This, in turn, may force her to try to construct a correct and competent phrase. Usually such attempts end in failure, since at such moments it is not easy to formulate your thoughts.

Another example? Imagine a man who makes his girlfriend squirm like a snake in a frying pan by licking her nipples during intercourse. When he brings her to the climax of passion, he suddenly stops what he was doing and asks: “Do you want me to kiss your nipples?” In other words: “Should I continue what I’m doing?” Why ask questions that she has already answered with her actions, especially in cases where this requires interrupting and therefore ruining the entire process?

Disadvantages of the Missionary Position

Having highlighted the advantages, it would be wrong not to remember the disadvantages, and of course they also exist.

For her

By and large, I personally don’t see any disadvantages for a girl, although it makes sense to consider several special cases that sometimes occur.

• There is no way to further stimulate yourself (clitoris). There are a number of women and girls who need additional stimulation of the clitoris to achieve orgasm. Most often, during sex, they help themselves by caressing the clitoris with their fingers. But in the missionary position it is impossible or very uncomfortable to do this.
• Partner's weight. In principle, women like to feel a man on them and even to some extent his pressure on their body. But this is a rather fine line, the sense of which is easy for a man to lose, especially at the moment when pleasure begins to take hold of him. As a result, all this can lead to the woman having difficulty breathing.
• Limited movement. Sometimes, having the ability to change the position of her body and make counter movements, it allows a woman to find the most suitable angle of penetration for pleasure, such as in the cowgirl position, when the girl is on the man. In our case, the girl’s mobility is seriously limited, so we have to place all our hopes on the man, his knowledge and ability to satisfy the girl in sweat.

For him

• See only her face. Oddly enough, what was an advantage for a girl can become a disadvantage for a man. And this does not mean that he is not pleased to look at her face, no. The thing is that men are visual by their sexual nature; they experience sex not only through their penis, but to a greater extent through their eyes. Yes, yes, yes, men really love to watch and observe all the details of the interaction of your bodies during sex. This excites them even more. And the missionary position in this regard slightly limits men's needs.
• Can't touch anything. In the vast majority of variations of this position, the man’s hands are busy with the same thing: resting on the bed or on what the girl is lying on, that is, holding the weight of his body above the woman. This is monotonous and boring for men’s hands, which are explorers by nature!) As we all know (men won’t let you lie) hands love freedom, especially if the matter (and body) concerns the female body. They always strive to climb into places where they shouldn’t and touch what they shouldn’t touch!)

Origin of the term

According to the main version, the position owes its name to Christian missionaries. The fact is that for a long time the Catholic Church considered this method of sex to be the only decent one. It should also be noted that neither Christianity nor, for example, Islam, directly prohibit other sexual positions. However, thanks to the church's overall very complex attitude towards sex, anything outside of the man-on-top attitude has come to be considered sinful. The first European missionaries who appeared among the tribes of the Pacific islands noticed that the natives used unorthodox positions during sex. The shocked missionaries said that only the “face to face, man on top” position was acceptable for Christians, while others, “borrowed from the beasts,” were sinful.

According to another version, the expression was created by the natives, who were first caught in this (unusual for them) pose by the missionaries themselves. This version does not contradict missionary celibacy, since a significant part of the missionaries were Anglicans and Lutherans, and not Catholics.

It is believed that the English ethnographer Bronislaw Malinowski was the first to learn about this name for the pose from the natives of the Trobriand Islands in the forties of the last century. The term “missionary position” itself became widespread approximately between 1945 and 1965.

Missionary: Tips and Tricks

And now, I would like to give some practical advice or even tips that will help you not only avoid popular mistakes, but also generally improve the results of using the missionary position.

For men

• Don't lie down with your whole weight. Always support your weight with your hands, that is, rest on them. If you want closer contact between your bodies, go lower to your partner and rest on your elbows. In this position, you will lie almost with your whole body on the woman, but you will not put pressure on her.
• Monitor and control. All techniques can work differently on each individual girl. Some people like 1st, some like 3rd. Some may even experience discomfort with this or that technique. Therefore, it is best to agree with the girl right away that if something is unpleasant for her, let her immediately report it and not tolerate it.

For women

• Use your hands. You can take your man by the buttocks and to some extent control the pace and depth of penetration, pulling him towards you or, on the contrary, pausing. If you lack clitoral stimulation, help yourself with a pen by caressing the clitoris with your fingers. Of course, in some cases, for example, when a man lies completely on a woman, this is difficult to do, but if such an opportunity exists, then do not miss it.

Interesting Facts About Missionary Pose

• Why is it called that? There is an opinion that its name came in honor of Christian missionaries who considered it the only correct sex position from the point of view of their religion. This has already been discussed in more detail in the article why is the missionary position called missionary?
• The most popular in the world. Surveys have shown that 100% of women and men have had sex in this position at least once in their lives, and approximately 70% of respondents stated that it is the one most regularly practiced in their intimate lives. It is not relevant only for tribal settlements that still survive to the present day. Only 20% of such wild lovers choose this method of copulation, the remaining 80% still prefer the doggy style position.
• First sex position. It is from this position that sexual life begins for almost 98% of the population of the entire globe, since it promotes more sensual penetration and does not require any practical or theoretical skills. It can be used in the absence of any sexual experience, even in both partners, an ideal option for those who are discovering the veil of physical pleasure for the first time. By the way, did you know: How to deflower a girl correctly and easily,
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