A happy marriage is a concept “stretched” over time. Such a marriage is built and lived daily by both spouses. It will be the result of many choices, wise decisions and efforts.
And it is important to realize that marriage is only the beginning of a long journey! The main work on relationships begins immediately after the family is formed. Here are some life rules that are important to follow if you want to live happily ever after.
Bride at any cost
First you need to figure out why women want to get married. Everyone, of course, wants great and bright love, but for many, the very fact of marriage is simply important.
- Stereotypes. If you didn’t get married before a certain age, it means you’re an “old maid,” your parents put pressure on you, your relatives pester you with questions.
- Herd instinct. All my friends are married - I need it too.
- The child must have a father. A full-fledged family at any cost, even if there is an internal understanding that what is happening is a mistake, just a coincidence.
- It's easier with two people. Pulling the burden of life together is twice as easy, responsibilities and expenses are divided in half, but being with a person of convenience will become more and more difficult every day.
Now you should honestly answer the question of why you married this particular person. If according to one of the above, then perhaps this is simply not your person, because it turns out that anyone could be in his place.
Another question is if the choice was a conscious one, you wanted to connect your life with this particular man, but at some point something went wrong. In this case, you can rephrase the question a little and understand how to continue to be happy in your marriage every day.
Genuine interest in the life of the chosen one
- At the beginning of a relationship, it is normal to be interested in your partner, get to know him, identify what he likes, where you can converge: common interests and aspirations. But as years pass, it often happens that partners begin to be less and less interested in each other. This can be influenced either by problems that have arisen or simply by: “And I already know everything about her, why should I bother again?” Subsequently, lack of attention from each other alienates people, and if one is interested, and the other subsides, then it may be that the first begins to suffer from a lack of love and attention and even begins to think about leaving.
- The same applies to children: parents should be interested in their lives, because this is normal. Accompanying children on their path to growing up, help, interest - this is what cements the bond for the rest of their lives.
- Gottman also gives advice - creating a love map, on which you need to put little things that are important or pleasant for your partner. Get to know your significant other and their values, funny little things, because... throughout life they change, new ones are added. This practice will bring partners closer together.
Don’t do things that make a man angry and irritated by his wife
What exactly can they not tolerate?
Take a look at the lines that await you below:
- Your behavior during critical days
Try not to be loud and reserved. Don't blame a man for the fact that your stomach hurts and you don't feel well. You can get rid of “women’s” days for as long as nine months! This is it and discuss it.
- Constant and endless shopping
Buy yourself things a little less often than you are used to. Try to spend your financial resources more economically so that the amount of money on the card does not shock your husband or confuse him.
- Criticism over trifles
Don't scold your husband for scattered clothes and socks. Don’t “sniff” for purchased beer or purchased cognac. Don't tell him he did a terrible job washing the dishes! All this “criticism” has a very negative effect on him. Any desire to do anything at home or help my wife with anything disappears.
