How to be interesting to men: a collection of basic rules ⇒ Blog of Yaroslav Samoilov

Switch roles.

Show feminine cunning and make it seem from the outside that the man is crazy about you. He may be only mildly attracted to you at the moment. However, when he begins to think and act as if he is in love with you, then these thoughts will transform into a real feeling of love towards you.

Come up with a new plot for your relationship.

Using some tricks, take your everyday communication in a new direction: a man should feel that he needs you. It is enough for him to have the feeling that he is trying to please you, to earn your favor.

Artificially create a situation in which he would have no advantages compared to other, successful and attractive males. In such circumstances, he will have to make an effort to seem interesting to you and not look like an outsider.

Become valuable to him.

Let's return to the above example with the seller and the buyer. The position of the seller comes down to trying to win a man’s attention, his feelings, time, money. This position is unwinnable because you look like a needy, interested person. The buyer, on the contrary, has the opportunity to evaluate, weigh the pros and cons, and choose. It is important that you fill the vacant buyer position. Then the man will have no choice but to become a “salesman” who will be forced to surprise and conquer you, to prove that he is worthy of your attention.

What kind of women are interesting to men?

Many modern girls adhere to stereotypical views about how to be interesting to men in communication. However, these stereotypes are not always true. Strict upbringing combined with the cult of glamor creates a misconception about what kind of woman can win male attention. Girlfriends, acquaintances, and older relatives add fuel to the fire and don’t skimp on advice or cite their own negative experiences as arguments. Such prejudices in practice manifest themselves in a girl’s exaggerated desire to achieve ideal forms, eliminate flaws in her appearance, and become like a glossy model.

However, even having standard parameters, catchy makeup and impeccable hair does not guarantee success among the stronger sex. If a girl does not know how to carry on a conversation, then she is unlikely to arouse interest in herself. This situation arises not only because of narrow-mindedness, but also because of modesty. What should a woman do who knows how to look attractive, but has absolutely no idea what to talk about with a man and how to become an interesting interlocutor for him? Let's look into this issue.

In communication, the girl gives the impression of a simple, open person.
She is not afraid to seem stupid. Even because of small mistakes or ignorance of basic things, she will not stop looking cute if she communicates casually and kindly.

A common mistake women make in conversation is the desire to appear mysterious, strict, or too smart. The woman makes an arrogant face, speaks with restraint and tries to answer in monosyllables, so as not to say something stupid. In the eyes of a man, such behavior looks like a lack of interest in him: for all his attempts to maintain a conversation, jokes, questions, he does not receive support. As a result, the conversation does not go well, and the person loses the desire to continue communication.

The girl, in turn, without waiting for the call, does not see the true reason for the failure, believing that she simply did not like it visually. Yes, men, as they say, love with their eyes. However, what is primarily important is not a woman’s appearance, but her willingness to make contact, maintain a dialogue, and this depends only on herself. A girl with whom she cannot have interesting, pleasant communication should not count on a serious relationship. The maximum that awaits her is an invitation to a “cup of coffee.”

The girl lives an interesting, eventful life:

Gets an education or builds a career (within reasonable boundaries).
Maintains good physical shape - goes in for fitness, running, swimming.
Expands his horizons, reads books, is interested not only in fiction, but also in serious literature.
Follows film premieres.
Doesn't watch TV (or carefully hides it).
Has interesting hobbies, for example, painting, music, dancing, handicrafts. It is important that this hobby is understandable to a man.

Her day is filled with many events.
In addition to work and household chores, her schedule includes other activities, so it is not easy to find free time to meet a man.

However, this does not mean that during a date she will unilaterally broadcast about her exciting life. To maintain an interesting conversation, it is necessary to create in the young man the impression that in front of him is a bright, self-sufficient, educated, purposeful person who has life priorities. She does not agree with her interlocutor in everything, and is not afraid to occasionally disagree with him. Representatives of the stronger sex love to convince and defend their point of view, so the dialogue will be rich and lively. An interesting woman evokes not only admiration, but also respect, without which it is impossible to build strong relationships.

What kind of women do men like:

What to do if your husband left you? How to get rid of your rival?

What to do if your husband left you?
If trouble has overtaken you and you realize that your husband has moved away because of his rival, then it’s worth radically reconsidering the situation:

If you still have feelings and your husband is tossing around, talk to him and find out what you did wrong, what was missed and where you can fix it. Many husbands will be out of misunderstanding, because the woman has ceased to care and admire him as before. Everything is in your hands now
If your husband’s feelings have faded, then there is no need to waste your energy. Through pain and strain, but he needs to be let go. It is important. You can give yourself a chance to start a new life, become better, learn new knowledge. Sometimes life deprives us of something only for our internal growth, and to give us something better

IMPORTANT: Never try to bring your husband back using witchcraft or love spells. This will end badly for everyone. Not knowing karmic and energy laws does not cancel responsibility and punishment. Any interference in someone else's subconscious through witchcraft disrupts the subtle energies of not only you and your husband, but your children. My husband will return. But he will show aggression or forget himself in alcohol. And children will pay for such interference with their troubles in their personal lives.

It’s better to direct your energy to restoring your attractiveness, traveling, self-knowledge, and then the world will open new facets of yourself to you and you will be able to meet a better man

How to interest a man

Let's look at how to be interesting to men from a psychological point of view. A girl who is passionate about some man tries in every possible way to win his attention, which is why she makes many mistakes. Restless chatter about his own irresistibility, combined with stupid conclusions, only pushes the young man away. An obsessive chatterbox with an attractive appearance evokes only one desire - to achieve intimacy for once, but nothing more.

The ability to maintain intrigue is the main female “weapon” in the battle called “how to be interesting to a man.” A riddle that cannot be solved in any way fuels male interest. Therefore, the ability to create a feeling of understatement arouses curiosity in a young man.

You should talk about yourself gradually. You should not focus on your own outstanding qualities or your mystery. When communicating, be discreet but frank.

Focus your attention on what your companion is saying. Firstly, this will allow you to get to know him better (if he doesn’t brag or fantasize). Secondly, men who like to be the center of attention will appreciate your ability to listen without interrupting, which is very uncharacteristic for women.

Don't relax and never stop surprising him, try to be interesting. Even if you already know each other well, he shouldn't know everything about you. Small inconsistencies in your life will fuel his interest. For example, you are interested in skydiving, but you are terribly afraid of spiders. Or you can easily navigate under the hood of a car, but just can’t master a basic computer program.

A man will be quite surprised by such contradictions. On the one hand, you will win respect with your abilities, on the other, your weaknesses will touch him.

It is with such a woman that you can simultaneously feel like a brave defender who will enter into battle with a spider, and the happy owner of a personal auto mechanic.

Don't forget to ask about your potential partner's hobbies. And not only because men are flattered by attention to their interests. Often a strong couple is created by like-minded people or people united by the same hobby.

And if you not only listen to him carefully, but at least superficially understand what he is passionate about, then this is another reason to make him respect you.

A man needs to talk about his achievements, profession, activities, and make an impression with this. The girl should not only nod her head approvingly in response, but also understand what is being said. Even if your date is working on artificial intelligence, take the time and literature to study the issue. A man will appreciate that you are trying to maintain a dialogue by asking questions and being interested in his successes.

Men also respect women's independence. We are not talking about ardent fighters for gender equality or those “who will stop a galloping horse.” The ability to get out of difficult situations and cope with problems without hysterics and sobs is what will earn a man's respect. Bitches, hysterics and obsessive people - these categories of ladies repel the stronger sex.

Trying to be interesting, do not forget about external attractiveness. A man will not be able to pick out an unkempt, sloppily dressed woman from the crowd. However, a stylish girl with a good figure and moderate makeup will not go unnoticed. The combination of a bright appearance and a rich inner world is the key to sexuality. And if these qualities are complemented by liberation in bed, then the likelihood of encountering male indifference is reduced to zero. The ability to be a good lover is a whole science.

Often in life situations arise when the living embodiment of the standard of female beauty remains without male attention, while a “blue stocking” or a “gray mouse”, whose appearance does not fit in with ideas about female attractiveness, is surrounded by gentlemen. The secret of popularity is simple - they know how to be interesting to men and remain an unread book for them for a long time.

For a clear example, let’s imagine the following situation. When you come to a bookstore, what kind of literature do you prefer? A glossy magazine that catches the eye with its colorful pictures, although it will attract attention. But you are unlikely to have the desire to re-read it again and again. It’s the same with men: they need the content to be interesting and intriguing.

Each of us has a favorite work, lines and excerpts from which we periodically reread with pleasure, and look forward to seeing whether the author will release a continuation of the story.

Therefore, even after getting to know a man closely, you cannot relax, so as not to turn into “dusty waste paper.”

What kind of men are attracted to mystery women:

My husband is not interested in me. What to do?

how to become attractive to your husband?
In every, even the most prosperous family, there are moments of misunderstanding and cooling of feelings. Every woman wants to be interesting to her beloved man, and therefore, in order to reawaken her husband’s interest, you can use some techniques and tips.

Transform your appearance You should not rely on the fact that your husband should love you every way. Every man wants to see a well-groomed and beautiful wife next to him and forgetting about it means putting an end to the future
Review your wardrobe and throw out all the things that don’t highlight your strengths. You can also exclude all clothes in dark shades from your wardrobe. Study your body type and color type and choose a new wardrobe based only on your style
At home, the wife should look no less beautiful and neat. No pajamas, suits with extended knees, or just robes. If it’s a robe, then a sexy and silk one in the evening after a shower. A man who sees that his wife dresses better in public than at home understands that she does this for others and ceases to appreciate and respect her
Muslim families have a very good tradition - the wife always dresses modestly and is closed to the street. But at home she is dressed like a queen and wears bright and sexy makeup for her husband. That is why families there are very strong and wives “bathe” in the tenderness and care of their men

How to revive your man's interest in you

Remaining interesting and mysterious to your loved one becomes more and more difficult every year. Everyday life, routine, household chores, problems at work, daily care of children - all this over time can turn a lively girl into an overweight, tired and boring aunt.

To create strong, harmonious relationships, a combination of three factors is necessary: respect, the ability to give in, and mutual interest. While respect and the ability to compromise can be developed over the course of life together, lack of interest in a partner often becomes the cause of family conflicts. Of course, remaining interesting to each other over many years is extremely difficult: no matter how strong the union is, if you spend days, months and years together, then the relationship loses its novelty and piquancy.

If you notice that your husband has ceased to perceive you as a desirable woman and is increasingly less likely to take the initiative in bed, then you should make an effort to revive his former interest.

Don't show that you are afraid of losing him . Real hunters get pleasure when they track down their prey, catch up and attack it. They are not interested in prey that goes into their hands. Don't let a man think that the whole meaning of your existence is concentrated solely on him. Otherwise, your predator will go in search of a new “delicacy”.
Love yourself . As soon as you start paying attention to your own desires and interests, a man will look at you in a new way. The ability to delight, be interesting and slightly mysterious creates intrigue and makes you want to seek your attention.
Don't stop developing and working on yourself . If your husband achieves dizzying results in his career, you should not lag behind him. The development of both partners should occur synchronously. To remain interesting to your spouse, do not stop pursuing hobbies, read, follow the news, and stay up to date with the latest events. Even while on maternity leave, you can read science and business news, and not “star” gossip.
Be independent and self-sufficient . Live an interesting, eventful life. Stop focusing only on the needs of a man, spend time on your hobbies, sports, and communicating with friends.

Watch your appearance . Take care of your hair, nails and skin, do makeup, keep your body in good shape. An attractive woman always looks impressive. Update your wardrobe regularly. Shopping is an opportunity not only to escape from everyday worries, but also to remind your husband what a beauty he lives with.
Stay calm and balanced . Men try to avoid scandals, hysterics, and women's tears. Therefore, your bad mood or desire to quarrel will distance you from your loved one. A comfortable, calm, cozy environment is what your husband wants to see when he returns home from work. Don't forget that the best escape from tension is humor.
Be sexy and seductive . It is very important to remain desirable to your chosen one, even if you have 10 years of marriage and three children behind you. Erotic lingerie, adult toys, and a change of scenery will help diversify your intimate life.
Stay optimistic . Men love cheerful and easy-going women who can be pleased with the smallest little things. Make jokes, tell funny stories, give positive emotions. Then the time spent next to you will be interesting and enjoyable.

There is only one way to achieve harmony in a relationship and maintain it - to be yourself, love your man, and continue to develop. Each partner must develop themselves and try to be interesting for their other half. Otherwise, sooner or later one of you will think about looking for “adventures” on the side.

Remember that for your loved one you should always remain attractive and well-groomed. This can only be achieved by loving yourself and coming to terms with your shortcomings. However, this love must be reasonable. Don’t indulge your own weaknesses, don’t allow yourself to give up, don’t stop looking after yourself. A woman who loves herself will not run to shopping or to a fitness trainer when she learns that her husband has a mistress. She already takes care of her wardrobe and appearance, regularly updating herself externally and internally in order to remain interesting to her husband. However, you shouldn’t change too often; let your man evaluate your new clothes and admire the changes.

To remain interesting, you should have your own life - profession, hobbies, social circle. A woman who has completely dissolved in her husband and lives exclusively by his interests and everyday worries quickly becomes a burden. Even married men need a feeling of some freedom, an understanding that he himself decides with whom and how to communicate. Therefore, a wife who is passionate not only about borscht and putting things in order, but also about her own affairs, will never cease to be interesting.

It is known that sex plays a major role in the life of almost any man. Even if you can support his conversation about the financial market and feed him a delicious dinner, being sexually passive you will quickly lose male interest. Your intimate life has a big impact on your relationship. Therefore, do not be afraid to experiment and surprise your husband.

As the famous saying goes, the ideal woman is a slut in bed, a mistress in the kitchen and a queen at a party. Play different roles, and you will never cease to be interesting even to your own husband.

Another way to lose male interest is predictability. If your spouse knows you like the back of his hand and believes that under any circumstances he will have a delicious dinner and sex, then you find yourself in a dependent position. The confidence that you are not going anywhere makes you less interesting in his eyes. Therefore, in a relationship with a man, it is worth maintaining a formal feeling of understatement in order to stir up his interest.

There are no couples in which the partners completely share each other's hobbies. However, there should be topics that interest both of you.

Find your own interests and hobbies.
Discuss topics that interest you both.
Try to avoid questions that are interesting only to you, but not to your partner.

On the one hand, you don’t bore him with conversations, on the other hand, you have your own hobby, which means you maintain a certain uncertainty and mystery.

You should not impose your interests on each other. Yes, you can share your achievements and victories with your loved one, but you should not bore him with details or unnecessary details. Just be happy for your partner.

Habits that will keep you interesting

The easiest way to become interesting is to develop a few habits:

love for the work you do, career growth, advanced training and study;
active lifestyle, interest in sports;
interest in fiction and cinema;
an exciting hobby;
keep abreast of what is happening in the world.

Your day should be eventful, you live it like a little life. Line up and plan to get everything done. Initially, this will take some time, but after a month it will become a habit.

How to change to become interesting to men

First of all, remember that you make all changes solely for your own sake.

The approach of “changing to please a man or to regain her husband’s attention” is fundamentally wrong. You must begin any transformation (external or internal) with the correct formulation of the goal: you are not trying to be boring for your husband, you want to be interesting, first of all, for yourself.

Relationships with your loved one and family are only part of your life, in which other elements should also be present. The well-known saying “If you want to change the whole world, start with yourself” only says that in achieving any goal you must first of all take into account your own interests. Don't be afraid to try something new. If your usual form of clothing is jeans and sneakers, then for a date or going to a social event, buy yourself an elegant dress and shoes with thin, long stilettos.

Don't become a huntress, give this role to a man. Representatives of the stronger sex will never consider a girl interesting who tires him with phone calls and messages, seeks meetings, and takes initiative. The ancient instinct of a hunter provokes in him the need to achieve his goal himself, to win female attention. A full-fledged, passionate woman evokes admiration and pride, while a wife who controls her husband in every possible way and tries to please him in everything seems intrusive and unattractive.

Think about what level your self-esteem is at. A self-sufficient woman stands out in the crowd. What do you need to be complete and confident? Perhaps you have no hobbies? Sign up for English or painting courses, start dancing or some kind of sport, read interesting books, attend exhibitions, lectures, and other events. If you are unhappy with your job, then the time has come to change it, perhaps find yourself in a new field of activity. You shouldn’t distract your man from his business with calls. Come up with something to do. Only in this way will you remain interesting and not intrusive.

Expand your horizons, increase your level of intelligence, learn new information. By regularly working on yourself, you can find a reason to be proud of your achievements, as well as remain an interesting, pleasant conversationalist for those around you. There is no point in being offended and angry at the whole world. By changing your thinking, mood and outlook on what is happening, you will see that everything around you is changing for the better. Put your own self at the center of your life, and then you will be able to love yourself.

The most important step towards a new, eventful life is self-esteem. No man will be indifferent to a girl who loves and values herself, radiates love, communicates kindly and openly, and is responsive.

To stay on track, adhere to the theory of three levels of communication.

Level 1.

Me myself.

At this level is your inner world, which should consist of peace of mind, beauty, harmony, positive emotions, development. It is he who is the source of strength for us, and therefore must be developed better than others.

Even if you are faced with life's difficulties, life should not stop in your inner world. It is filled with those feelings, emotions, thoughts, desires and needs that you experience.

Level 2.

Your home and your loved ones.

At this level there are people who make up your environment: family, friends. They are the ones who accept you with all your strengths and weaknesses, and their devotion, loyalty and unconditional love for you has been proven and tested over the years.

When you need casual or interesting communication, want to get valuable advice or just do something nice, contact your loved ones. They will definitely appreciate it and repay you in kind.

It is with family and friends that you can discuss any topic, ask for help, and have a good time. People at this level can not only take, but also give in return. They won't let you feel lonely or unwanted. And, as you know, it is the lack of communication that makes us dependent, which in turn prevents us from appearing interesting in the eyes of men.

Level 3.

Your man.

A woman should always remain an interesting and fascinating mystery for a man, since he should only be at the third level of communication. Yes, over time, when the relationship moves from love to family, he may end up on the second level, but he should never be on the first. And then, a caveat should be made that such an “increase” can happen if your relationship is based on trust, respect and love, and loyalty and devotion have been tested over the years.

In what case will a girl remain interesting to a man? When she has developed the first and second levels of communication. Such a woman always gives the impression of a self-sufficient person. She is never lonely, because she develops her inner potential, creates spiritual harmony, and maintains interest in herself.

In these two levels she finds a source for self-improvement, new experience, and knowledge. It doesn’t matter whether it’s about learning a new profession or buying a new dress, or an idea for a culinary recipe. A woman never stops working on herself, engaging in mental and spiritual development. Let us remind you that a man who occupies only the third level will never be allowed “into the kitchen” of these changes. In other words, his chosen one will not cease over time to be an interesting and alluring mystery that cannot be solved.

To maintain any relationship, balance is necessary. Don't focus only on your interests, life events, and needs. If your couple has no common ground, then perhaps you shouldn’t be together.

Therefore, learn to balance between your desires and his. In order for a relationship with a man to develop, it is necessary to have common goals and a desire to remain interesting.

Thank you for reading this article to the end.

Hello, my name is Yaroslav Samoilov. I am an expert in the psychology of relationships and over the years of practice I have helped more than 10,000 girls meet worthy soul mates, build harmonious relationships and return love and understanding to families that were on the verge of divorce.
More than anything, I am inspired by the happy eyes of students who meet the people of their dreams and enjoy a truly vibrant life.
My goal is to show women a way to develop relationships that will help them create a synergy of success and happiness!

How to become your husband's best friend? How to restore a trusting relationship with your husband?

How to become your husband's best friend?

Many married couples live with deep everyday life and problems. They forgot that their love began with friendship and communication, losing common interests and not having the opportunity to listen and hear our soulmate every day, we lose our feelings, trust and love
To become your husband's best friend, just start listening to him more carefully and without interrupting. Better yet, get into the habit of going out together again, spending time alone outside the house and just chatting about nonsense
You will learn much more about his hobbies, be able to share yours and establish a thin thread of trust and communication.