When to see a psychologist

There are situations in every person’s life when he finds himself in the grip of negative feelings, anxiety, fear and worry. It is not always clear to a person whether he can cope with stress on his own, or whether he needs to contact a specialist. Let's consider in what cases it is worth contacting a psychologist. The following signs indicate that self-reliance is not enough:

"Walking in circles." A state of affairs has developed where nothing works out; all the tried and tested methods to correct the situation do not give positive results.
You find yourself in a serious stressful situation where you have no strength to overcome the crisis.
You have a great desire and desire to achieve high goals, while saving time and effort.
There are fears that interfere with life.
You feel that you are in the grip of loneliness and do not see any way out of this state.
You are overcome by dissatisfaction with life, you would like to change something in the course of events.

How to understand whether you should see a psychologist

At first, the problems seem not so serious, you just want to quickly forget about them, or until the last moment you believe that you can handle everything on your own. But the human psyche is unimaginably complex and unpredictable. She requires a very careful attitude towards herself. Therefore, the longer a person is left alone with his problems, the more serious the consequences will be.

How can you not miss the moment when it’s time to see a psychologist? The following “bells” will tell you:

you need to change something, but you don’t have the strength;
negative situations do not go away, but turn into a “vicious circle”;
the sense of duty “presses” too much;
unable to build a personal life;
thoughts of loneliness cause panic;
everything seems to be fine, but for some reason you feel bad;
there is a problem that you cannot solve;
constantly overcome by dark thoughts;
blame others for everything;
the feeling of dissatisfaction grows;
you are not able to understand how you feel emotionally - good or bad;
you intentionally hurt yourself or another person.

Stuck in my life

You are oppressed by uncertainty, passivity, disappointment. It seems that life has stopped and you are at a dead end. Usually this condition is difficult to explain in words. It's like you feel like everything is going wrong, but you can't figure out how to fix it or what you want. Sudden changes are scary, and the surrounding reality is not encouraging.

When internal problems are not resolved for a long time, neurosis can go into active attack, and the symptoms of a psychological disorder will become much more obvious. We have already written about what happens to your body during depression.

Let's list some external signs that it's time for you to see a psychologist. You should not rely only on them; they can also be caused by other diseases.

Which specialist should I go to?

Psychologist

A psychologist is a specialist with a higher psychological education. It plays the role of a tool that helps a person understand himself, his feelings and problems. Find answers deeply “hidden” at the subconscious level of the psyche. Find an individual path to happiness and harmony. The psychologist accepts the client’s value system and works only with it. Therefore, a specialist never gives advice or evaluates.

Our service employs highly qualified specialists with higher education and many years of experience. Make sure of this personally, because the first 20 minutes of consultation with a psychologist are absolutely free and do not obligate you to anything.

Psychotherapist

A psychotherapist is a doctor (has a higher medical education) who specializes in a certain area of psychotherapy. She treats psychological diseases (severe phobias, long-term depression) or borderline conditions (neurotic personality development). If necessary, prescribes medication.

Psychiatrist

Like a psychotherapist, he has a higher medical education, but deals with the diagnosis and treatment of severe mental disorders: schizophrenia, psychosis, dissociative personality disorder. In her work she uses specific medications and procedures.

Searching for an answer to the question “Who am I, and why do I live?”

After stressful and traumatic situations, a person often loses the meaning of life. Any further action seems unnecessary. Such thoughts can lead to prolonged depression and suicide. A psychologist will help you build a new model of behavior “from scratch.”

Sometimes during the conversation, self-limiting beliefs are discovered that hold back development. For example, the belief that a person is not smart enough to succeed is often instilled by parents.

In general, loss of interest in activities that previously aroused sincere interest should also be a reason to sign up with a psychologist. Usually this “symptom” is the first sign of depression. It is better not to take the situation to the extreme and seek help in advance.

There are many techniques that allow you to reconsider your role in life and get rid of negative patterns and attitudes.

Sometimes losing interest in life is a natural part of growing up, as is the case with teenagers, or recovering from traumatic situations. But it’s better to go to 7hands.com and choose a psychologist. You can start with a remote consultation.

Physical problems for which people turn to a psychologist

Sleep disorders

Insomnia is a faithful companion of psychological disorders. The thing is that due to nervous overstrain, a disruption occurs in the sleep phases. A person cannot relax and fully rest. Therefore, in the morning he feels even more tired and overwhelmed.

Lack of sleep is dangerous to health: irritability and temperament increase, and attacks of uncontrollable aggression may occur. In addition, the functioning of internal organs deteriorates, immunity decreases, and mental functions suffer.

Psychosomatic diseases

Psychosomatic disorders are a group of physiological disorders and pathologies that are caused by mental disorders. That is, these are somatic diseases of a psychogenic nature.

Stressful situations force the body to adapt and work under extreme conditions: the load on the heart increases, the activity of the gastrointestinal tract is inhibited, and energy reserves are mobilized. And all this thanks to the huge release of hormones into the blood in a very short time.

Therefore, if stress is chronic, then the body is constantly “working” for wear and tear. Which provokes the development of diseases. This is also the reason for the “rejuvenation” of many age-related pathologies (hypertension, diabetes, stroke and others).

Somatic equivalents of emotional states

Any negative emotion has its somatic equivalent (the organ in which it causes negative changes). Even if an emotion is suppressed, its destructive effect will not stop.

Examples of psychosomatic connections:

anger and envy - liver disease;
fear - kidney dysfunction;
apathy - causes general weakness, disruption of the heart;
sadness and sadness are problems of the respiratory system.

Eating disorder

This deviation includes: anorexia, bulimia, overeating, pica (perversion of food habits), dysgeusia (taste disturbances), etc., caused by a psychogenic factor. Eating disorders are dangerous, since when they last for a long time, the functioning of all organs is inhibited. Often the negative consequences are almost irreversible, leading to disability.

Constant failures in your personal life and career

It happens that a person tries his best to achieve his goals, but for unknown reasons nothing works out.

If the obstacles seem insurmountable or, conversely, there is no understanding why what you want is constantly slipping out of your hands, it is worth getting the opinion of a third party. Friends and colleagues may assess the situation biasedly (for example, out of envy or sympathy). But a psychologist is an unbiased assistant who is interested in his client being successful and happy.

There can be many reasons for problems in professional life: from lack of motivation to perfectionism, internal sabotage. A psychologist will help you understand what exactly makes achieving your goal impossible.

People who have problems with their personal lives usually experience problems with attachment and self-esteem. The specialist knows how to overcome internal fears and learn to set boundaries.

Mental conditions when you should consult a psychologist

Frequent conflicts

A conflict is a clash of interests of two or more opponents. Being one of the types of relationships, it is inseparable from everyday life. But increased conflict indicates that a person needs emergency help. This behavior hides low self-esteem, various fears, strong feelings and dissatisfaction. These emotions poison life, push a person to cruelty and doom him to loneliness. And the heavy burden of negativity will certainly result in psychological disorder.

Long-term low mood, depression

Anxiety, apathy, despondency, sadness, sadness, indifference - these are basic emotions that are inherent to everyone without exception. But if the depressed state does not go away, sadness turns into despair, and despondency into detachment - the time has come when you simply need to consult a psychologist.

Depression is a very dangerous and insidious illness, which, in addition to the psychological side, has a negative impact on the physical state. It is impossible to cope on your own. And if there are signs of the “depressive triad” (depressed mood, decreased mental activity, decreased motor activity), then you should consult a psychologist immediately. At this stage of a person's life there is a real danger.

Dark thoughts

Involuntary negative thoughts are also called “contrasting ideas.” The name itself emphasizes the discrepancy with the usual way of thinking. These ideas are so far out of the norm that a person involuntarily thinks about his mental health and usefulness. For example, an ardent animal advocate may imagine how he deals with a puppy or kitten with extreme cruelty. Or a mother, while bathing her child, sees in every detail how he is drowned.

Not all thoughts are cruel, some are quite “harmless”: is the front door closed, did the stove turn off, why did I make the wrong choice, could I have done it better...

But the harder a person tries to cope with such thoughts, the more often they return to them and they become increasingly “stuck” in the subconscious. They turn into obsessions and even obsession.

Obsessive negative thoughts are a serious reason to seek help from a psychologist. They pose a real danger to human health and psyche. It is also extremely important to find the true reason for such gloomy ideas.

Deviations in behavior

Deviant (deviant) behavior is actions that do not fit into the framework of generally accepted social norms. Most often, the term is associated with something immoral (alcohol abuse, drug addiction, crime). But these are extreme conditions, a signal that the person did not receive help on time.

In the early stages, deviations can manifest themselves as excessive rudeness and stubbornness, capriciousness, indiscipline, causeless aggression, and a tendency toward solitude and isolation. Even pronounced altruism and heroism are deviations. There are quite a few reasons that provoke deviant behavior. By turning to a psychologist for help, you can understand them and overcome the disease.

Victimization

Victimization is a “victim complex.” A person deliberately provokes cruelty towards himself and is inclined to become a victim of crime. There are two types of victimization:

Comfortable - when a person himself (often with pleasure) agrees to the role of a victim. Such a person loves to complain to everyone and about everything, flaunting his status as a “victim”. He demonstratively emphasizes the injustice of the whole world towards him. Such people are also called “toxic”.
Emotionally unstable - a person deliberately causes aggression. He will always take the chance to belittle a weaker person, but if the opponent is stronger, he will take the role of the “victim”.

Victim behavior is associated with a violation of the perception and interpretation of signals from the self-preservation instinct. This means that this is a real threat not only to health, but also to life. That is, the situation when you need to contact a psychologist immediately!

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Recommendations: what you need to know about working with a psychologist

Let us briefly examine popular myths about the work of a psychologist:

“They’ll immediately throw me in a mental hospital.” Firstly, a psychologist, no matter how much he wants, cannot “put anyone away” - this is what psychiatrists do. Secondly, the psychologist works in compliance with professional ethics and maintaining the client’s confidentiality. He has no right to talk about who comes to him and why. And yes, the psychologist will not inform your boss or relatives about the session.
“What am I, crazy or what?” “Psychologists” become clients of psychiatrists, and healthy but lost people or healthy people interested in self-development come to psychologists.
“Only weaklings turn to psychologists.” Recognizing a problem and asking for help is more difficult than complaining about life to friends, being offended and looking for someone to blame. The one who runs away from solving problems or pretends that they do not exist is weak.
“Yes, I’d rather talk to a friend over a bottle.” The psychologist will not evaluate you, impose his opinion, interrupt, or express himself emotionally. He is objective and impartial. It is unlikely that a friend, especially under a bottle of something, will be able to maintain the same position. And everything he says will be based on his experience, that is, it will relate to everyday psychology. It’s not a fact that his advice will suit you. The specialist relies on scientific psychology, that is, the general laws of the psyche, but at the same time he maintains an individual approach, that is, he takes into account your specific life history. And, by the way, the psychologist does not advise. He guides and helps a person find a solution to a problem on his own.
“He won’t tell me anything new.” In most cases, what lies on the surface is a symptom or consequence of a more complex problem. Yes, at first the psychologist actually repeats the client’s words, clarifies, rephrases the appeal so that the person can look at the situation differently, say it all again and notice what he did not notice before. This previously unnoticed will be the new thing that the psychologist, or rather the person himself, says (the specialist simply directs - we remember, right?).

And one more recommendation: go to a psychologist, even if you cannot formulate your request, if you feel a mess in your head. Some people think about what is right and what is wrong in a request. There really is no right or wrong here. If you yourself don’t understand what’s happening to you, then just start talking, describe what you feel at the moment, share your thoughts. And the specialist will pick up your story and, with the help of leading questions, will help you understand everything. Together you will formulate the main request.

And one more thing: if you doubt whether you should contact a psychologist, then you definitely should. How to figure it out and understand what needs to be addressed? Since the thought of a specialist’s help has arisen in your head, it means you really need it.

Note! It is impossible to say in advance how many sessions will be required to work through the problem: sometimes 1-2 sessions are enough, in other cases it takes several months, and some clients become so accustomed to the support of a psychologist that they turn to him for any reason for the rest of their lives. However, we can say for sure that the longer the problem was suppressed or ignored, the longer the correction will take.

Checklist: Reasons to see a psychologist

You feel like you're walking in circles

If you constantly experience anxiety, your soul is tormented by tossing, and problems accumulate and turn into a vicious circle without end or beginning, you need professional psychodiagnostics.

You have intrusive thoughts

Getting rid of “mental gum” is quite difficult. Obsessive thoughts depress and torment, taking away all your vital energy. You should definitely contact a psychologist with this problem.

You work too much

Workaholism is not always good. When work becomes the main part of life, crowding out everything else, it turns into mania. This condition often provokes the development of obsessive thoughts, which poses an additional threat to health.

You develop bad habits

Bad habits are a way to escape from reality, relieve stress or get distracted. A very dangerous and bad way. Any addiction is psychological in nature. This means that with the right approach, getting rid of them is quite possible.

You are taking unnecessary risks

One of the signs of deviant behavior. The problem is serious and requires a thorough approach. The reasons may be hidden very deeply in the subconscious, and such situations cannot be avoided without a specialist.

You can't connect with food

Poor eating habits will definitely lead to health problems. There is no need to “eat” stress or provoke the development of anorexia. Book a consultation with one of our psychologists and he will help you find a solution to your situation.

You have a topic that you can't discuss with anyone

Our specialists will listen to you and help you understand all the nuances of the current situation. Don't be left alone with the problem. Otherwise, it can turn into a snowball and will press harder and harder.

When the battery runs out. 18 reasons to see a psychologist

Today, many Kazakhstanis distrust psychologists, believing that they can cope with their problems themselves. To a greater extent, this belief lives in the heads of men. According to the observations of experts, the average person will seek psychological help only in a critical situation: on the strong recommendation of a doctor, when a child has problems or when his family is on the verge of divorce.

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Together with Almaty analytical psychologist, multimodal psychologist, supervisor of the Psychotherapeutic Professional League of Russia Olga Solonenko, she analyzes the reasons that, having noticed which in themselves, a person can turn to a psychologist.

Infographics from the site multiurok.ru

Psychologist Olga Solonenko:

Each of these requests may be evidence of a deep conflict, hidden depression. Depression is a break with the soul, a condition that forces a person to pay attention to his soul, to shift the focus of attention from the external world to the internal. If this is not done, then a break with the body will occur - one of the psychosomatic diseases may develop (disruption of the functions of internal organs and systems, the emergence and development of which is most associated with neuropsychic factors - author's note ). When working with a client with a serious illness, looking back, you can always see how the soul and body sent him signals that he ignored.

I like this infographic, I think it covers almost all of the popular queries. The only missing items are about sex (the reproductive instinct) and orgasms (sexual satisfaction). But, as a rule, these topics are hushed up in our society. Even in a psychologist’s office, few people come with such requests - they appear gradually during psychotherapy.

You can contact a psychologist if you find even one of these thoughts in yourself. Overcoming the first symptom is easier and faster than correcting the situation when a neurosis or psychosomatic illness has developed. Many people see these problems, but do not seek help, devaluing them: “Oh, it’s okay, it will pass!”, “Fed, clothed, shod, and thank God. There’s no point in getting mad about fat”, “Our grandparents went to war... And I’m here with some little thing.”

Today the idea is cultivated that we can only take care of ourselves during illness, when a nervous breakdown has already overtaken us. Getting enough sleep, asking for time off, not going to work, taking care of yourself when the battery is dead - there is no such thing. Our body is the house in which we live. Each such symptom is a breakdown in it. If we notice peeling plaster, a jamming lock, or a leaking faucet in time and fix it, then the house will be well-kept and beautiful for a long time. If nothing is repaired, it will be uncomfortable to live in, and one day it will tilt and collapse.

1. I don't know what I want

The symptom is a ban on desires. Probably, in childhood, the child took on the function of an adult - when instead of childhood there was the word “must”. For example, was responsible for a brother or sister. For a child of any age, such responsibility is an unbearable burden; parents give birth to children for themselves, therefore, they must look after them themselves, without shifting this responsibility to older children. And now he has a conflict inside: “What can you want? Go fulfill your duties,” or “You want a lot, you will get little,” or “You never know what you want.”

2. I live in stress

The symptom is a violation of basic trust and basic security. The feeling of constant stress means that a person experiences a constant threat to his safety. The threat can be either physical or emotional. Stress occurs when the body constantly works in a state of increased tone: a constant threat - adrenaline is constantly produced.

For such a person, it is important to learn to relax. But for someone who has this symptom, it is scary to relax, because when he is relaxed, something can happen. This happens in families where dad often suddenly came drunk, there were scandals, where there was no peace. Or when a child told something to his parents, but his feelings were ignored and his words were used against him - that is, they were “attacked” for being defenseless.

3. There's something wrong with me

The symptom is a feeling of worthlessness and inability to do anything. The problem can manifest itself in the health sphere in the form of hypochondriacal syndrome: a pimple pops up - cancer is suspected. Most likely, this person had an anxious mother. She could not cope with her anxiety and constantly broadcast to the child: “You will get sick”, “Everything will be bad”, “Now everyone will die”... Therefore, a person may think that there is always something wrong with him.

4. I have panic attacks

The symptom is fear of imminent changes. Panic attacks are a serious thing; a psychologist/psychotherapist always works in tandem with a neurologist and psychiatrist. A panic attack is a “paralysis” of the nervous system due to its overload. Psychology sees the problem this way: a person does not want to change his reality, which requires changes. In fact, a panic attack is a signal: “Die to be reborn.”

5. I want to improve my personal life

The symptom is fear of close relationships. Typically, clients with such a request do not have the psychological age to build a personal life. Let's assume the client is a 30-year-old woman whose psychological age is 15 years. I, as a psychologist, will assume that a fixation occurred - at the age of 15 she experienced a certain event, as a result of which the basic trust in men was violated, all men became bad and untrustworthy. The psychologist’s task is to find the point at which the fixation occurred and “grow” the personality from 15 years old to passport age - after all, a 15-year-old child has no chance of building a personal life.

Or her parents didn’t talk to her about sex life at all, didn’t explain what was what, so there is fear. Personal life is the topic of sexuality, the topic of our interaction with the opposite sex. She wants to get married, but thinks that “a man is a threat.”

Or the girl didn’t see what personal life was like between mom and dad. One or both parents may have been absent from her life or performed only parental functions, ceasing to be a man and a woman. To develop healthy sexuality, a child should not be allowed into his parents’ bed, but at the same time he must understand that mom and dad have their own relationship that existed before he was born.

6. I don't understand what I live for

The symptom is the loss of oneself and one’s meanings. The question of the meaning of life, the existential question, overtakes all of us, at what age depends on the person himself. And what meaning of life each of us will have is also individual. For some it is self-realization, for others it is family, for others it is something else. The most important thing is that the meaning of life cannot be imposed or read in a book.

For me, as a psychologist, such a request would mean that in childhood the child was not talked about global things, about the structure of the world, about what human life is, about the value of moments “here and now,” about the future. Discussion of philosophical questions is important because it allows you to develop your own philosophy of life: “Who am I?”, “Why do I live?”, “What can and can’t I do?” And if the parents did not share their thoughts on this matter with the child, then it will be much longer and harder for him to formulate his meaning of life. Someone will look for the answer in religion, someone - in a book, someone - in travel...

What does psychology say about the meaning of life? That he is in life itself, in its experience.

7. I can't make a choice

The symptom is fear of responsibility. This is one of the key questions in psychology; such a request comes up very often. A person can make a choice when he has reached a certain level in his maturation. This is how the fear of responsibility manifests itself - because as soon as I make a choice, I begin to bear responsibility for the future result. To make a choice, you need to have strategic thinking in order to estimate what will happen in one and the other case. Plus connect your intuition. Whichever result suits a person more is the choice he makes. Thus, this is a reason to talk about inner adulthood and the level of responsibility.

In principle, the fairy tale about the three heroes “You will go to the left...” is about the same thing. We make choices every day. But we often do this unconsciously, and when we see a result that does not suit us, we blame God, fate, someone else, but not ourselves. This is shifting responsibility in its purest form. If you got married and divorced, and so on three times, then it was not the bad people you came across, but you made such a choice.

Many people choose not to make a choice. This may indicate infantilism or greed.

8. I want to find my calling

The symptom is a lack of support and support. Vocation and recognition - these words are very consonant; without the first there is no second. Man is a social being; he instinctively wants to be useful, to bring something good to society, to change the world for the better. When we find our talent, we understand how we can be useful to the world, how we can get a response from society. In this way we become satisfied with ourselves.

Finding a calling is not so easy, everything comes from childhood. It is important whether the child had his strengths reinforced. If yes, if the child knew that he was the best in this and that field (despite possible C grades in other subjects), then he knows what his calling is. The psychologist will assume that the child did not have positive reinforcement of skills, support and support. In fact, when working with an adult, a psychologist will perform a parental function - he will help identify desires, find resources to fulfill them, and support them in their endeavors.

9. I feel sad all the time

The symptom is a lack of self-identification. This is similar to melancholia, which is different from depression. In depression, there is an “I” that suffers: from a lack of money, a spouse or child not meeting expectations, injustice. In melancholy there is emptiness; a person does not know why he constantly feels bad. It’s as if there is emptiness instead. Most likely, the child and his needs were completely ignored by his parents. Melancholy is more difficult to cope with: a person must first find his “I”, then decide what the “I” is suffering about, and then decide how to cope with the suffering.

10. Everything pisses me off

The symptom is a ban on negative emotions. In this case, we have a whole bunch of emotions - irritation, anger, rage, anger. And if everything together is acutely manifested, it means that previously a person did not have the right to be enraged and irritated by everything, aggression did not find a way out, and was condemned. In this case, it becomes a permanent state of a person. Aggression is an instinct, it is a normal feeling to which every person has the right, along with positive emotions.

When a child grows up, he, unlike his parents’ family, can allow himself to be angry. If this permission is not given, then it makes him angry. And then any external stimuli will cause excessive emotional reactions that do not correspond to the situation: the seller did not pay attention - curse him, they honked in a traffic jam - cut him off rudely, answered incorrectly - hit him.

11. I'm lonely

The symptom is a violation of communications with the world or with people. This situation means that the person was not understood, he was not heard. In his understanding, he does not have the right to experience feelings and share them. Moreover, everything goes like a snowball - if I was not understood in the past, then I am sure that they will not understand me in the future. I feel lonely because I can’t build this connection with anyone, get this response. In this case, the psychologist helps restore communication with people and lead him to the fact that he is not alone.

12. Nobody understands me

The symptom is a lack of contact with oneself. From a psychological point of view, the request is broader: I don’t understand myself. If I understood myself, then I would not need anyone who understands me. If I were at peace with myself, my desires and fears, then I wouldn’t care what another person thinks about it. That is, I could admit that the person who does not understand me and I have different levels of thinking, consciousness, and speak different languages after all. And there are other people who understand me.

But there is also this aspect: when no one understands me, I try to convey information, but no one hears me. After all, in order to be understood, you need to be heard and only then give feedback. Maybe the problem is that I myself don’t understand what I’m saying.

13. There are a lot of quarrels in my family

The symptom is a disruption of normal communication. There are families in which quarrels are not a situational reaction, but a way of life. And the child adopts it as the only form of communication: this is the only way to talk, the only way to be in an emotional connection with another. If I evoke negative emotions in someone, it means that, in principle, I exist, I am valuable and they notice me and give at least some emotions in return.

In a normal family they talk and come to agreements. A quarrel is when there is no request to come to an agreement, but there is a request to destroy the pride of another person - communication is not aimed at preserving the relationship, but at acting out aggression. It is important for people to learn to reach an agreement, respect the self-esteem and dignity of another person, as well as the worldview and values of a loved one.

14. I want to establish contact with my child

The symptom is a lack of contact with oneself. Most likely, this person did not have deep contact with his parents during his childhood. I would ask such a client: “Do you have contact with yourself and with your inner child?” We can understand a child when we have contact with our inner child, our feeling part, our spontaneity and the ability to express our feelings openly. If there is, then we can speak the same language with our children.

Therefore, when a mother comes to therapy with such a request, we, as a rule, work not on their relationship with the child, but on establishing contact with their inner child. When it is there, contact with your daughter or son can also be built. Therefore, it is often enough for a mother to come to a psychologist alone, without a child.

15. I want to understand myself

The symptom is a search for oneself and one’s abilities. The psychologist will ask: “Why? What do you want as a result of this analysis? Self-development is a fashion trend. So maybe you follow fashion? What do you really want to figure out about yourself? What is unresolved or unclear for you? This is quite a difficult request. As in the joke - a girl may not know what she wants: marriage, work or coffee? Here it is important to build your life goals and ways to achieve them, to identify your talents and resources.

16. I'm not interested in anything

The symptom is indifference, indifference to everything: to oneself, one’s own life and the world. Behind the phrase “I’m not interested in anything,” addressed to the outside world, there may be a lack of interest in oneself. Here such an instinct as curiosity suffers. All children want to look through the keyhole of their parents' bedroom. Curiosity is a normal desire. It should be supported: “We understand that you want to look in, but you can’t.” This intrigue allows us to explore something further. The child develops an interest in life and exploration of different areas. If you scold or punish, then the child may lose his curiosity.

The second possible problem is when the child and his worldview were uninteresting to the parents: “What can you know? You're small." In fact, even a 5-year-old child has his own vision of the world through the prism of lived experience. His point of view must be respected and interested in it. It is through this mechanism that interest in oneself and in the world appears.

17. I don’t live my own life

The symptom is a ban on your life. One of the parental figures could broadcast a ban on their own life: “If you have your own life, then you are a traitor,” “You must live for me, with me and for me.”

In recent decades, this has been a very widespread practice: parents believe that an adult child should live with them, should help, be the meaning of their life. In fact, there is no separation - the separation of an adult child from the parental family to create his own family. When such children grow up, they often live not their own lives, but the problems of other people.

18. I don’t like my job and I’m tired of everything

The symptom is the impossibility of self-realization and development. This is often the thinking of those people who have not found their calling, to whom their profession was imposed. For example, a girl with a non-mathematical mind, at the request of her father, studied to be an auditor and worked in this field. Of course, she will get tired of everything and there will be a riot.

Such a request may also indicate that a person does not receive an adequate assessment of his work - the work performed must correspond to the payment. If a person has the feeling that he is being robbed, and he does not resist this, then a feeling arises inside that he is robbing himself. Therefore, interest in work disappears. This is one of the signs of emotional burnout, which often affects doctors, teachers and psychologists.

Olga Pastukhova,

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Why you shouldn’t go to a psychologist

There are situations in which you should never turn to a psychologist for help. Sounds strange, doesn't it? What kind of situations are these? For example, if you want to:

they made a decision for you;
the psychologist assessed your actions or the actions of others;
the specialist approved your actions;
justice was restored, and the psychologist acted as an ally;
you have been given a “magic recipe” for all your problems.

A psychologist does not solve problems. It helps you see the situation from different sides, understand yourself and your feelings, and find the root of the problem. And a person decides for himself which way to solve a negative situation will be best for him.

Tendency to cope in unhealthy ways

Some people respond to stress by starting to drink and use illegal substances. This is an unhealthy reaction that will eventually lead to physical health complications.

If you do not seek help in time, then in the long term a full-fledged addiction may develop.

At this stage, you will have to contact a specialized psychiatrist or psychotherapist.

But not only alcohol, smoking and drugs are considered “unhealthy” methods of solving problems.

If a person goes to the gym and works out to the point of complete exhaustion, he also needs the help of a psychologist. A specialist will help you find healthy methods of coping with difficulties, as well as understand the true reasons for using alcohol and illegal substances.

In what cases should you contact a psychologist? Let’s summarize

The peculiarity of many psychological problems is that their causes are hidden deep in the subconscious. A person is simply unable to find and cope with them on his own. And the problem continues to fester for years.

Sometimes, behind nervousness or irritability, deep psychological trauma can be hidden, which poisons a person’s life. Therefore, whatever the problem, even the most insignificant one, it’s definitely worth contacting a psychologist. Always strive for harmony with yourself and improve your quality of life.

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Unhealthy attachment can also be a reason to consult a psychotherapist. This is usually associated with a breakup in a relationship where the person cannot come to terms with the loss. He is so used to his partner that he seems inferior and helpless. All further life seems meaningless. It is difficult to get rid of this feeling on your own. Dependence on any idea also poses a threat to life. Usually, it is for this reason that diseases such as bulimia, anorexia and the like arise.

Critical moment

Sometimes it happens that some event bursts into our lives and turns it upside down! A feeling of a sinking ship is created: there is a feeling of one’s own worthlessness, helplessness, and inability to cope with the situation. At this moment there is no time to hesitate. Otherwise, there will be nowhere to get strength or enlist support. A critical situation requires logical thinking, courage and some experience. It turns out that you can’t do without the help of a psychologist. A person must find an inner core, or he will finally “perish”, get lost in the abyss of imaginary fears and doubts. If something out of the ordinary happens, there is no need to hesitate. Just make an appointment and calmly wait for your turn. There are organizations that can accept you on the same day, however, this does not always happen. This is rather an exception to the rule than the norm.