Getting an orgasm is sometimes more difficult than it seems. Here you are, balancing on the edge, whining with the desire to cross the cherished milestone, and now your lower back or leg is numb, and the uncomfortable one leaves you unsatisfied. Sound familiar?
Experts unanimously say that the simpler and more comfortable the position, the greater the chances of achieving orgasm. But what to do if you still want variety in sex? For those who like to experiment, we have specially collected 23 positions that will bring something new to your sex without forcing you to stand on your head.
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- Relax
Make yourself more comfortable in the chair, all the inconvenience will go to your partner: let him sit on the floor between your spread legs and squeeze the clitoris with two fingers, imitating scissors. By massaging it this way, he can caress the tip of the clitoris with his tongue, providing maximum stimulation.
- Banana dessert
Lying on your stomach, let your partner take you from behind. This position has several advantages: penetration becomes deeper, your partner can freely knead or even spank your defenseless buttocks, and the pillow will hide your moans and red face from embarrassment.
- Reflection
This position allows for maximum opening and access to your clitoris, even when your partner is inside you. Lying on your back, raise your hips and allow your partner to enter you so that your buttocks rest on his knees. While your partner is moving inside, caress your clitoris at the pace you like.
- Dirty spoon
In the spoon position you can not only sleep, but also have fun. Raise one leg over the pillows to give you and your partner more access to your crotch. Let him press against your back so that you feel maximum skin-to-skin contact. This will increase the intimacy of the moment and make you feel each other even more deeply.
- Armchair lover
Kneel in the chair, allowing your partner to enter from behind. The back of the chair is very convenient to use for support during strong pushes or even if you want to take the initiative. Hold on tight and allow yourself to simply lean into the growing excitement.
- There and back again
Have you tried cowgirl position? Now try to diversify it by forcing your partner to completely withdraw from you after a few thrusts. Rub your clitoris against the base of the penis, or grab the head of the penis with your entrance, and then return to internal stimulation again. Don't be afraid to experiment, the main thing is to understand what gives you more pleasure. This way the process will turn into mutual teasing and will not end too quickly!
- Sitting on my knees
If you think this pose is banal, then you simply haven’t tried it. Not only can you completely control the process by straddling your partner’s hips, but you can also maintain eye contact or, on the contrary, hide your face on someone else’s shoulder. And it’s not worth talking about how comfortable it is to hug in this position.
- Sex in the shower
Yes, yes, just like in all those hot movie scenes. It's worth trying at least once! And if your shower has a removable head, consider yourself in heaven. Direct the stream of water at your clitoris while your partner takes you from behind, and use something for stability, otherwise you will be carried away by the wave of pleasure.
- Overload
Research has shown that the clitoris and vagina are the most sensitive to vibration, so finger stimulation is not always enough to achieve orgasm. Your case? Then take the vibrator and have your partner lift your legs up, bringing your knees in and out to enhance the vibration effect.
- Oral classics
Nothing can be better than the classic oral sex position: you on your back, pillows under your back for comfort, and your partner working magic with his tongue between your legs.
- Cowboy style
Another timeless classic. The cowgirl position is not only hot, but also comfortable - all control is in your hands, and you can not only move at a rhythm that is comfortable for you, but also freeze, squeezing and relaxing around your partner's penis while he slides his palms over your body.
- Pillow between legs
You will need a sofa and sofa cushions. In the first one, you sit in a doggy style position, and the second one is inserted between your legs so that your clitoris receives stimulation from friction while your partner takes you from behind. The more friction, the faster you will reach your peak.
- Sticky scissors
Sit face to face, slide one leg between your partner's thighs, and place the other on his thigh. Now one of his legs presses directly into your crotch, increasing the pressure on your vagina while he is inside, and you can leisurely rub your clit against his thigh to bring yourself to release.
- Up and down
This position is a variation of missionary, but for those who have a good stretch, because you will have to throw your legs almost over your shoulders, bending in half. This position allows for deeper penetration and intensifies the sensations, slowly burning you with growing arousal.
- Down but not out
Imagine that you tried to get on all fours, but you could only raise your butt. Great, now let your partner take you from this position! You can rub your clit against the bed while he rhythmically takes you from behind.
- Crossroads of legs
Lie on your back and relax, this is a position for lazy, long sex. Your partner lies on his side next to you and moves inside, and you throw your legs over his hips. You can make love for a long time and tastefully, and to cum, you just need to touch the clitoris or your partner can stimulate you with his hand.
- On top of the world
You again lead the parade from above, but this time face your partner's legs and extend your legs, bringing them together. This position will increase internal friction and sensations, both for you and for your partner.
- Table for two
Another change of location - this time you need a kitchen and a table that reaches the height of your partner’s waist. Lie down so that your buttocks almost hang over the edge, arrange your legs in a way that is most comfortable for you. In this position, stimulation will be more on the inside of the clitoris, and your partner's hands will be free to caress you in other places.
- Sit down, cowboy!
Ride your partner while he sits facing you. The classic cowgirl takes on new shades, you just need to lean back a little, changing the angle of penetration. In addition, your partner can reach and caress the clitoris at any time.
- Sweet spoons
Lie down in the big and little spoon position, curled up comfortably in your partner's arms. No sharp thrusts, just slow stimulation of the anterior vaginal wall. When you feel like you want to come, lower your partner's hand onto your clitoris, finishing what you started.
- Girl power!
Imagine switching places! When you're in cowgirl position, you lean more forward into an almost missionary position. Move your hips more actively, because in this position the penis will touch the most sensitive point inside every time, and you can rub your clitoris against your partner’s groin.
- Slip
And again based on the classics! Imagine the missionary position, but with your legs extended and tightly pressed together. You can slowly slide along your partner's penis, pushing yourself down on him and at the same time rubbing your clitoris against his pelvic area.
- Impatience
Do you know what will bring you to orgasm the fastest? Your hand or a vibrator aimed at her! Masturbate yourself in front of your partner, bringing yourself to orgasm, or at least to the brink of it. And when you are at the limit, let your partner enter your body, completely ready for penetration, intensifying the sensations and giving you new orgasms.
Reverse cowgirl + scissoring
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How to do it
This is not the easiest position to take. The woman should sit with her back to the man’s face and wrap her legs around one of his legs, bent at the knee.
Why does it work
- As in the Cowgirl position, here the partner controls the pace, as well as the strength of the clitoral stimulation.
- Plus, it's not the most common position, so the novelty of it can be exciting.
Variations
It all depends on the woman. She can change the position of her legs: spread them wider or move them, and also lean back and lean forward.
Erogenous zones of the female body
Despite the fact that every person, regardless of gender, has many erogenous zones and sensitive points on the body, exposure to each of them can cause varying degrees of arousal. It is this individuality that in the future shapes a woman’s sexual behavior, as well as her commitment to certain positions. Female body switches:
- The mouth definitely belongs to the zones of Eros, but touching the lips or kissing evokes voluptuous desire in only 25% of women. Light biting of various parts of the body is also considered kissing. Men most enjoy such caresses in the area of the shoulders and collarbone, while women love it when they kiss the neck and sides.
- Ear and hearing. Indeed, girls love with their ears - a gentle whisper in the ear during intimacy can bring her to an orgasmic state. Also, representatives of the fairer sex love kissing the back of the ear, kissing and sucking the earlobe.
- The neck is considered one of the most powerful erogenous zones in women. This is where the tradition of decorating it with various decorations originates. The neck area is literally dotted with dots that awaken the desire to find exactly the one that will excite the girl most strongly, her loved one will help her. It is especially recommended to pay attention to the transition point to the scalp at the back.
- “Cat place” is an erogenous zone in the middle of a woman’s shoulder blades, the name of which was directly influenced by felines. During copulation, the cat securely holds the cat in this area with its teeth.
- The chest, mouth and lips are most often irritated during intimacy. Not only women, but also men have erogenous points on the chest. There are cases where caresses of only one breast brought representatives of both sexes to orgasm. The most sensitive and responsive part of a woman's breasts are the nipples; they can be stimulated with hands or fingers, mouth and tongue, as well as the penis.
- The clitoris is a powerful erogenous zone, the irritation of which causes instant desire in more than 85% of women.
- The entrance to the vagina, as well as its anterior wall, are quite sensitive to irritation in many representatives of the fairer sex.
- Lower back, sacrum and buttocks. Most human erogenous zones actively respond to caresses or gentle touches. The exception is the female buttocks; irresistible desire and arousal in this part of the body is achieved only through the application of force, and possibly pain, for example, spanking.
- The anus is a highly erogenous area for both sexes. The concentration of nerve endings in the anus and the area between it and the vestibule of the vagina is greatest. According to scientific research, there are many times more of them than in the vagina itself.
Some men believe that there are frigid women whose erogenous zones supposedly do not work. It's a delusion. Everyone without exception has erogenous zones, it is important to find them, it is important to find them.
Types of female orgasm2
Depending on the stimulation of various erogenous zones, the types of female orgasm change, she can feel:
- Vaginal orgasm occurs in a woman with direct stimulation of the vagina, or rather the pleasure points, which are mostly located on the front wall (points G and S), as well as at the entrance to the vagina.
The coveted G-spot can be found if you carefully insert your finger into the vagina with the pad facing up - the man will feel a small bulge with a diameter slightly larger than a small walnut. Its active stimulation will help a woman experience divine pleasure.
Point S is located directly behind point G in a small depression. It is easy to detect - when pressed, a woman may feel like she wants to urinate. However, this is only the first feeling... With stronger stimulation, women, as a rule, experience so-called jet orgasms, accompanied by copious discharge.
- Clitoral orgasm is achieved by stimulating this organ either with the penis during intercourse, or with the fingers, or with the lips and tongue during oral sex.
- A woman can experience an extravaginal orgasm if it occurs without vaginal stimulation. It can be achieved by stimulating the nipples, breasts, anus and other points to which a woman responds especially strongly.
- Mixed orgasm is the most common in sexual relations, since it is impossible to achieve a strong orgasm by stimulating only one area of the female body. As a rule, at the moment of intimacy, partners try out any possible methods to achieve pleasure.
Victoria Fomina
Expert
Doctor sexologist of the highest category, psychiatrist, psychotherapist. I have been working as a sexologist for more than 10 years. I help couples resolve problems in their sex life.
The female orgasm is an amazing thing. To achieve it, you need to choose suitable poses, and do not forget about stimulating erogenous zones. But some women can even get an orgasm without touching their genitals. And sad statistics show that 35% of girls do not experience orgasm during sex - they can only reach the peak by masturbating. Some women experience orgasm even during labor! You can also get a release during sleep or while playing sports. A woman's clitoris contains twice as many nerve endings as the head of the penis. Therefore, choose the best position for orgasm, stimulate the clitoris and have fun!
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Possible mistakes
It is difficult for women to have an orgasm due to their physiology. Most often the reason lies in tension and fatigue. If a lady’s thoughts are occupied with an unprepared dinner or financial issues, then there can be no talk of any orgasm.
The lack of normal education on intimate topics has given rise to the existence of many stereotypes. Partners are embarrassed to talk to each other and learn different techniques. As a result, their sex life is devoid of pleasure. Stimulation of the clitoris can be carried out not only with fingers, but also with the tongue.
Some couples will need special toys for variety. They are sold in assortment in specialized stores. With their help, you can improve sensitivity and spice up the process.
Sometimes a man does not understand that a girl’s physiology is structured differently. She needs more time to become aroused and prepare for sexual intercourse. Rough and spontaneous sex is suitable for films. In other cases, it brings discomfort.
If you can’t bring a woman to orgasm, then don’t be upset. It is important to make sure that she was pleased and had fun. You can tactfully suggest trying new poses or techniques.
