#1: Feel like you're 20, but don't look like it!
Today, many media literally compete with each other in vulgarity, imposing on us the image of a vulgar singer from impressionist paintings: young, accessible, cheeky and narrow-minded. Unfortunately, even smart women sometimes succumb to this provocation and begin to dress and behave in a “porn chic” style.
Why look like a 20-year-old starlet? So that a boy who is old enough to be your very younger brother comes to meet you? Why do so many middle-aged women continue to compete with young beauties in sexuality and uninhibited behavior? Play their games on their field?
For many, by the age of 40, their figure swells somewhat, wrinkles become more noticeable... You should not emphasize this with a blouse with a deep neckline and a miniskirt. At 40, a woman has her own strengths, you just need to be able to present them correctly. You may feel young, but it is better to dress according to your status.
Principles for creating a basic wardrobe
- For a woman over 40 years old, it is advisable to replace jeans and trousers with skirts and dresses. This will make you look sophisticated, feminine, and hide some figure flaws. But a business lady could use a classic trouser suit, ideally tailored to her figure, in her wardrobe.
- All items are selected taking into account body type, individual characteristics, appearance and type.
- The material from which the clothes are made must be of high quality. This will emphasize the status of the owner.
- The typical style for a 40-year-old lady is classic. This cut is suitable for any occasion. It is characterized by elegance and femininity. Chanel, retro, vintage, romantic, and Provence styles also become relevant at this age.
#2: Let the kids go and accept the parents.
Midlife is a time when relationships with children and parents are subject to revision. Children are getting older and require a different approach. The main postulate is to stop “wanting” for them and “breaking into” their private space. Help only if they ask for it. Give them the opportunity to choose for themselves. Or at least they should be confident that everything they do is their personal choice.
Try to pay more attention to parents who have increasing health problems. Retirement can cause anxiety and depression in older people, so be there for them during this difficult time.
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Dress for women 40 years old: choose the style, length and color
Dresses for ladies over 40 have several features that you should consider when choosing the perfect outfit. Among them:
- length - the dress should be just below the knee to cover possible leg imperfections. Frankly short dresses give the impression of a frivolous and narrow-minded young lady, so you should not choose such models.
- color - it is important to choose a shade that demonstrates your restraint, elegance and excellent sense of taste. For women over 40 years old, outfits in subdued colors and pastel shades are recommended.
- style - put aside youth outfits and cocktail dresses. It's time to try on laconic A-line styles, slightly fitted dresses, office options with elegant belts.
Women's trainings. Choose wisely
Sometimes a woman believes that training will help her deal with her own unsettledness. And he begins to attend all sorts of classes on seduction, searching for secret feminine power, opening the inner chakras, etc. There is nothing wrong with this, but not all trainings can really help you. What you should be wary of:
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Personality destroyers. How to avoid becoming a victim of psychological training?
- A 110% guarantee, especially if they promise to provide you with marriage, acquaintance, or a high position - this is nothing more than an advertising gimmick.
- Promises to solve all your problems.
- Training in several stages, especially if you are not allowed to go to the next one until you have completed the previous one - and always with the same master. They may recommend such a scheme to you, but do not insist on it.
— You are asked to verbally confirm confidentiality or require a receipt for non-disclosure of what happened during the training. It’s one thing to copy a course manual and then sell it as your own, or discuss other people’s stories. This is truly unacceptable. It’s quite another to tell your friends about what happened to you personally in class. What kind of secrets?
— Leave immediately if, before the start of the training, former students tell you about their achievements that they had in a very short time after finishing the program.
— As soon as the presenter at a training begins to be openly rude to the listeners, turn around and demand the money back. Stories about participants in such events being called “fat cows” or “lazy chickens” are not uncommon. Allegedly, in this way an emotional shock occurs, and the person learns the tasks better. But take my word for it: you can evoke strong feelings without humiliating human dignity.
Common psychological problems in women of Balzac age
Most people (not only women, but also men), having crossed a certain age line, begin to take stock of their own lives. They think about how their life would have turned out if they had entered a different department or chosen a different partner. In order to prevent the development of depressive and anxiety disorders, it is better to avoid such thoughts altogether. Advice from psychologists to women aged 40 to 50 can be boiled down to one simple phrase: avoid unconstructive thoughts.
The more a person reflects, while placing blame on himself for events that never happened, the more chances he has to get mired in a world of illusions. Women are especially prone to such self-criticism. Men are usually more relaxed about their own behavior and are not inclined, unlike women over 40 (although this trait is characteristic of the fair sex of any age), to engage in self-criticism and think about how life would have turned out if they had acted differently.
Stop being strong
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TEST: are you happy in your family life? One of the most common complaints heard from forty-year-old women at an appointment with a psychologist is: “I’m tired.” In relationships with men, you simply need to be weaker. But not the sacrifice that everyone should - these are completely different things! A weak woman is confident in herself, but is not a tyrant. She has adequate self-esteem. She is not afraid, in business language, to “delegate management powers” in the family, to share responsibility, and does not believe that her loved ones will cope with the matter worse than she can. If you instructed your husband to buy kefir, don’t blame him later for taking one percent when he should have taken three percent. This was his area of responsibility, if he bought one, then take it for granted. There is no time to hang a shelf - let the books stand in a box, because he is responsible for the result. Will do it later or invite a specialist.
It is at forty that a wise woman realizes that she can be strong and dominant at work if her position requires it. But in relationships with your loved one, friends, this is not necessary. You can drown in your weakness and enjoy it.
Basic colors of a basic wardrobe
To dress with taste, you need to choose the right colors for your basic items. Usually these are three shades:
- Dark. This includes skirts, trousers, jackets, belts, bags, shoes. These colors give a feeling of style, professionalism and respectability. The dark palette combines perfectly with other colors, does not get boring and is suitable for any occasion.
- Light. Shirts and blouses, underwear, sweaters, summer clothes. This color scheme contrasts well with dark shades.
- Vibrant details. These include accessories: straps, gloves, jewelry, scarves, scarves, ties, jewelry. But it can also be summer tops, jackets, jumpers.
Based on this color scheme, you can create interesting images, dress according to the place and time, remaining elegant and different.
As for accessories, a mature woman can never go wrong with bright colored scarves, scarves, a leather bag of a standard color (black, brown, beige), jewelry and jewelry. Don't wear too many gold chains. It looks vulgar. Also, you cannot wear precious stones, jewelry and jewelry at the same time.
When choosing a bag, preference should be given to dark and calm shades. These colors can easily be combined with casual and business looks.
It is enough to carefully review your wardrobe, and then understand that perhaps you just need to supplement it a little or change something. A mature woman does not necessarily have to dress boringly. A classic basic wardrobe can be complemented with bright details: black trousers and a chic blouse; classic suit and top or vest; white shirt and bright scarf. You can come up with images endlessly. The main thing is that all the selected items fit perfectly on their owner and emphasize her individuality.
on ““Stylish clothes for women 40, 50 years old””
- Natalia:
01/13/2020 at 09:30
I hate jeans! They are hard and cold in winter, hot in summer. I hate jackets or cardigans and don't think straight skirts are that necessary. What about a leather jacket? Isn't that the American way?
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- Lyudmila:
03/08/2020 at 08:51
It seems to me that an older woman should take her wardrobe seriously. I don't like the clothes of American fashionistas. In our city, the ladies are dressed more richly and tastefully. I am 65 years old. I would never wear pink tights. I really liked the tips! Thank you!
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- YesKK:
05/21/2020 at 16:59
And black can be diluted with bright accessories, especially earrings and necklaces... Thank you for your recipe, I hope it will help many women!
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- Varisa:
07/20/2020 at 22:23
Black makes you old. It should always be diluted with light colors, especially closer to the face. But in order to look good in beautiful clothes, you need to feel good. When the hot flashes overcame me, no amount of beautiful clothing could disguise the fact that I was ill. And how should you dress if you feel so hot that you don’t think it’s enough? How do you feel in a sauna... I saved myself from hot flashes with estrovel, which contains three phytoestrogens. I evened out my hormonal levels and got rid of hot flashes. And my overall health has improved. Now you can shine in beautiful clothes.
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- Lydia:
02/14/2021 at 08:09
This is just a list of clothes for any woman! Besides fashion! We have mature women with their own special needs, size, comfort, ability to move freely! Badly written!
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- Faina:
03/01/2021 at 13:13
I’m 56. To avoid being tormented by “ebbs and flows,” I take hormonal pills as prescribed by a doctor. And I like to dress in a classic style. Sheath dress (fortunately your figure allows it), pencil skirts. Jackets of different colors in the wardrobe. The blouses are also just classic and without any frills. Everything that is close to a business suit. Scarves around the neck as an addition. And definitely heels. With my height of 153 cm, I can’t do without them. I only started wearing jeans when I was 53! years ago. I didn’t like it before, but now I wear it with pleasure, and only in cool weather and only in dark blue color. It turned out that they are now not the same “standing-up” as before, but soft, stretchy. Everything is very simple, but tasteful. My friends say that I’m stylish. But classics never go out of fashion. As the song says: the main thing is that the suit fits...
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Make friends with anti-aging medicine
Aging is a controlled process. You can manage it yourself by involving professional doctors. There is no need to be afraid of this. Start looking for a good anti-aging specialist if you have not done so before. Without proper control from a competent doctor, turning the hands of the biological clock back will not be so fast and effective. But remember: modern anti-aging medicine is a complex of measures. Complex!
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Fight stress
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Stop worrying! Why stress is dangerous for the heart Stop it: if it lasts more than three weeks, make an appointment with a competent psychotherapist. And don’t joke with chronic depression, as it greatly reduces your quality of life.
Relax. Many experts believe that the hidden motivation for visiting a beauty salon is stress relief. Even so, use these remedies to the maximum: aromatherapy, massage, breathing practices, yoga, baths with essential oils.
Invest in relationships with loved ones and work colleagues. Good relationships are very important to us, and resentment towards an old friend may well reduce the quality of life. Manage relationships, develop them, control your reactions. Peace at home and at work is a good antidote and remedy for stress.
Watch your health
Not paying attention to health is an unaffordable luxury. However, there are still a sufficient number of skeptics who believe that maintaining oneself in active physical shape requires money and time. They imagine a high-tech fitness club, a huge number of exercise equipment, a bar with freshly squeezed juice and make a decision: while there is no money, a healthy lifestyle is put on hold. However, as Chekhov’s hero said: “Nothing ever happens later!” When this magical “later” arrives, chronic diseases appear, and simple physical exercise is no longer enough. So it's better to start taking care of yourself right now. Moreover, prevention is simple and easy to implement; it does not require expensive exercise equipment, branded sportswear or cocktails made from exotic fruits.
10 forever young women
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www.russianlook.com / Valeria (April 17, 1968) - singer, 47 years old.
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www.russianlook.com / Olga Drozdova (April 1, 1965) - actress, 50 years old.
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www.russianlook.com / Laima Vaikule (March 31, 1954) - singer, 61 years old.
Elegant and beautiful styles
The choice of style largely depends on the characteristics of the figure, as well as the purpose for which the dress is purchased.
Outfits can be divided into several categories:
- Everyday;
- Business or office;
- Evening;
- Wedding.
There are certain tips for each of them.
Everyday
When choosing a dress for every day, take into account some recommendations:
- Many women over 40 are attentive to their figure. They may not necessarily be slim, but beautifully toned. This allows you to wear tight or fitted dress models every day. But if you are a lady with a body, give preference to a looser cut;
- A universal solution is a flared and semi-fitted style, which looks ideal on a lady over 40;
- A casual dress should be convenient and comfortable. Therefore, place the main emphasis on your own feelings when trying on.
Business
- Business ladies need to carefully choose a dress, since it will largely determine the impression that business partners or employees have of you;
- Choose a sheath dress that is perfect for office style;
- The fitted style is the best move for a confident business woman;
- Choose a length below the knee so that the correct opinion of a business lady is created about you.
Evening
The following styles are suitable as an evening dress for a lady over 40:
- Fitted cocktail dresses;
- Outfits complemented by a triangular neckline on the chest;
- Empire style dress. At the same time simple, but incredibly sophisticated style;
- If you have a pear or hourglass figure, then a silk dress with abstract patterns will be able to properly and advantageously demonstrate your assets.
Wedding
For some, after 40, married life is just beginning. Therefore, it is never too late to look for a beautiful wedding dress.
- When choosing a wedding dress, ladies over 40 should give preference to simple but sophisticated styles;
- The optimal solution is lace, satin and silk dresses;
- A simple cut and length below the knees is a great choice for a bride;
- The Greek dress and empire style are also considered an excellent option for a wedding celebration for women over 40.
