How to caress a man before and during sex: the secrets of pleasure

What is foreplay from a man's point of view?

Foreplay brings pleasure not only to women. Men also need foreplay to:

• switch from work to intimate mood;
• make sure that sexual arousal is reciprocal;
• overcome anxiety in front of a new sexual partner;
• satisfy emotional needs during contact;
• “optimize” the level of physical arousal;
• demonstrate to your partner an interest in meeting her needs;
• enjoy the aesthetic side of foreplay;

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Foreplay is a convenient stage of sexual contact for experimenting and introducing new sensations.

Despite the fact that guys like affection for affection, it is important to understand that any attitude towards foreplay is absolutely normal. Anything is acceptable in sex as long as it brings pleasure to both partners.

What will help a man relax?

Often sex loses its vividness due to lack of mood, imagination or simple laziness. Sexologists know how to change the situation - you need to caress your loved one correctly before sexual contact, because this will not leave a man indifferent:

1. The power of a word. The process of seduction begins with verbal signs. Saying sweet words or intriguing phrases is simple, but largely effective. It is especially important to be able to flirt in public. In this case, your partner will dream of being alone with you as soon as possible.
2. Touching. Light touches avoiding intimate areas. You can touch your neck, wrists, waist, back.
3. Kisses. It's best to start with the neck, as for many guys this is one of the most sensitive places. Then a light kiss on the lips. After that, go lower, and then kiss him on the lips again, but more persistently. You might even purr a little with pleasure.
4. Caress yourself. Men enjoy watching a woman caress herself.

Another option is sensual dance. He charms men, attracts and turns on. You can undress in different ways: quickly, slowly and seductively, or cheerfully and playfully. Each option is attractive in its own way, it all depends on the situation and mood. However, you need to follow two important rules:

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1. You can look, but you cannot touch. It's okay to sit on a guy's lap, but he shouldn't touch you with his hands.
2. Look into your eyes. Eye contact is important, so you need to make eye contact throughout the dance.

How important are the surroundings and decorations?

A change of scenery will give the guy pleasure during foreplay. This does not mean that you need to radically change the scene by offering to have sex in a restaurant toilet, although this fantasy is one of the most common. You can start small: bedroom, kitchen, bathroom. If this stage has been passed, the apartment can be replaced with other places: a hotel room, a car, a clearing outside the city.

Having included an element of play in caresses, you need to rely on qualities that correspond to the chosen scenario. They should be emphasized by the chosen place, music, and general atmosphere.

About food before sex

German specialists from the University of Berlin studied products that affect male potency. The most useful natural gifts were:

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1. Apples. They contain natural phenylethylamine (PEA), which promotes a feeling of well-being and eliminates anxiety. If a man eats an apple before intimacy, sexual contact will take place without unpleasant surprises. This will also help to quickly restore male strength after the first sexual intercourse. Experts say that in the absence of serious pathologies of the genital area, a glass of apple juice can even prolong sexual intercourse by 2-3 minutes.
2. Avocado. This fruit contains a lot of vitamin B6, which helps increase testosterone and potassium levels.
3. Nuts. Almonds are best because they stimulate increased PEA production.
4. Dark chocolate or raw cocoa beans. Increases energy levels, sexual desire, and also strengthens the immune system.

1. Fish. Fatty fish contain omega-3 fatty acids. It is better to give preference to salmon, mackerel or trout, as they increase blood flow to the genitals.

The phenylethylamine contained in these products is an activator of chemicals in the brain responsible for sexual desire.

Voice and playful behavior of the partner

To arouse desire, you need not only to use caresses, but also not to forget about your voice, since it has a special meaning for men. Research shows that low frequencies are more comfortable and pleasing to the ear. Low or so-called chest voices in women are perceived by the male sex as an indicator of sexuality.

Special breathing exercises using:

1. Breath. You need to take deep and even breaths so that your voice does not break into a squeak.
2. Whisper. A man's sexual desire will be triggered by a message spoken in a whisper. This involves breathing aimed at the erogenous zones of the ears and neck.
3. Speech technique. For low and languid speech, you need to speak slowly and smoothly. You should not jabber or break off your sentence in the middle.

Playful sexual provocation can manifest itself in:

• straightening your hair, winding a curl around your finger;
• demonstration of neck, wrist;
• twisting the stem of a glass between your fingers;
• erotic biting of a treat;
• a periodically falling thing that needs to be picked up.

However, naturalness is important. Also, don't forget about eye contact.

Intrigue as food for fantasy

Intrigue and understatement fuel sexual fantasies. In order to provoke male interest, and subsequently enhance the pleasure of intimacy, you can:

• send a candid photo or personal message during the work day;
• share a sexual fantasy;
• “accidentally” touch his leg in a cafe or restaurant;
• say in a public place that you are not wearing underwear.

Intriguing moments intensify mutual sexual desire.

How to please a man: psychological aspects

As strange as it may sound, the secret to a happy relationship is not just constant sex. Psychological affection for men is also important. Creating coziness and comfort in a relationship helps your partner to be crazy about you.

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How to make a man feel comfortable

When he finds himself in the company of a girl, a guy should feel relaxed, so her task is to create conditions for her beloved to relax. It turns out that the interior can also caress, influencing the emotions that people receive at home. There are several rules that can maintain your lover’s interest and the warmth of your relationship:

1. Change the kitchen interior every 2 months. If a man is used to holding negotiations in restaurants, he is pleased to see a table with an ideal setting in front of him. In order to maintain a cozy atmosphere, you need to use several sets of dishes and change them from time to time. This can be bright, unusual and beautiful dishes, various tablecloths, napkin holders, sugar bowls, vases, baskets. If a woman learns to set a table like in a restaurant, then a man will not have the desire to go there again.
2. Update your bedroom decor. You can purchase bed linen in different colors or textures - silk, jacquard, terry. In the bedroom you can put original items: a starry sky spotlight, a lamp. Night stars on the ceiling can add passion to a cozy nest.
3. The aroma of your home also plays a big role. Various products have odors and affect mood. Some of them can create negative relationships between people. Use new scents in search of your emotional stimulants. Change the scents of your cosmetics, incense sticks, and oils.
4. For a man, a friendly atmosphere in the house is much more important than perfect order. He needs a joyful and energetic woman, and if home improvement does not affect his mood in any way, then he doesn’t have to think about it.

What do men like in relationships with women?

What keys exist to a guy's heart? Let's consider the most important points that will provide a woman with a happy man next to her:

1. Well-fed means satisfied. If a man is always fed at home, then he feels important. In order to conquer your lover, it is not necessary to constantly come up with some masterpieces; even traditional borscht and fried potatoes, but cooked with soul, are enough. To make something original, you can use your imagination, for example, add some secret ingredient.
2. Romance. A woman always wants her gentleman to show his attention first. But guys are also pleased to receive a reminder of love from their girlfriend: it can be a touching SMS, a postcard or an unexpected gift. A woman’s romantic mood contributes to peaceful relationships and brings special notes of happiness into them.
3. Comfort. In addition to the necessary things, a woman provides relaxation and freedom of action. He can spend time alone, just relax, lie on the sofa, scatter his tools and not hear the dissatisfied exclamations of his wife. Then he will be comfortable next to his partner.
4. Personal space. Men like freedom, they don’t like restrictions when a woman controls him and annoys him with her calls. If a girl has something to do other than terrorize her partner, he himself will want to spend more time with her in order to be filled with her positive energy.

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What kind of caresses do men prefer?

If we talk about men’s favorite caresses, we need to start with the erogenous zones.

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Lips, ears and hair

Lips are sensitive in both girls and boys. The ears and lobes also react to touch. To make something pleasant during caresses, you can:

• kiss, barely touching lips;
• touch the lips of your loved one with the tip of your tongue or fingers;
• whisper in your ear, lightly bite the lobe.

A gentle scalp massage can be very sensual. While observing your partner's response, you need to note the areas where touching caused the strongest emotional expression.

Chest, neck and abdomen

Although male breasts are not as sensitive as female breasts, their caresses will bring many unusual sensations to your partner. You can start with a light massage, and then caress the nipples with your fingertips or tongue.

The neck and back of the head are sensual erogenous areas. You can start caressing with stroking, gradually moving to more energetic movements.

To properly caress a guy in the abdominal area, you need to take into account the most sensitive areas. The navel, as well as the area between it and the pubic area, is characterized by increased susceptibility to tactile influence. By caressing these areas, you can bring great pleasure to your loved one. You should start with gentle stroking and then move on to kissing these areas of the body. To add a sharp sensation, you can use a piece of ice.

Arms, legs and back

There are nerve endings on the arms and legs, especially in the fingers. Their caresses will bring pleasure and help your partner feel relaxed. During foreplay, you can lightly stroke the inside of your elbows or knees, as well as your feet.

Caress a guy's back with special care. It contains numerous nerve endings that influence sexual arousal. The skin is particularly susceptible to:

• between the shoulder blades;
• along the spinal column;
• on the lower back.

How to caress the genitals

The most sensitive male erogenous area is the groin area. A man likes it best when caresses are directed at the penis, testicles, and scrotum. This gives him enormous pleasure.

Since this area is most sensitive to pain, all actions must be performed very carefully. You should clasp the penis with your fingers and stimulate it with light movements. You can also caress the scrotum and inner thighs.

Manual stimulation

To properly caress a man, you need to know what he expects and desires. As arousal fluctuates, the partner may strive for soft or persistent touches, fast or slow movements.

Typically, guys like movements along the shaft of the penis or its head with varying degrees of impact, as well as gentle touches in the scrotum area.

Secrets of oral sex

If we talk about what exactly men like in oral sex, then there is no one correct way of stimulation. Everything is purely individual. There are many types of techniques, so a woman must adapt to her partner's preferences . However, there are a few general rules:

• a measured pace is more important than a variety of movements;
• increase the stimulation speed little by little;
• do not try to grasp the entire male member;
• use not only the tongue, but also the lips;
• You can use delicious foods (honey, chocolate, cream) to increase pleasure.

In addition, during oral sex, a woman needs to be involved in the process, since an indifferent, disgusted or indifferent expression will not bring pleasure to her partner.

Words and caresses

If your loved one is in no hurry to get into bed, then you should try to arouse him with words. You can have a rich vocabulary and know your partner’s preferences, but still experience some discomfort when whispering various phrases in his ear.

The point here is not only timidity, but also within certain limits. But the main thing in sex is the absence of restrictions, you need to turn on your imagination and resort to its help.

Words and phrases are selected individually, much depends on the gentleman’s receptivity. But to achieve the best result, you need to supplement your words with affection.

Caresses are a broad concept that can include touching with hands, feet, kisses and other elements of love play. Oral contact is also classified as caresses, as is intimate massage.

If a decision has been made to have a comprehensive impact on your lover, then you can combine caresses, kisses, stroking with words. This will allow a man to reach the peak of arousal faster.

How to behave if there is an embarrassment

Often, during affection, trying to please their boyfriend, girls make mistakes, which cause them to find themselves in ridiculous situations. The most common mistake is to assume that men enjoy the same affection as women . In addition, girls often:

1. They are overacting. Role-playing is good, but you don't need to turn every sexual encounter into a dramatic performance.
2. They trust porn. There is no need to blindly believe the scenes filmed in such films or videos, since they do not always reflect reality.
3. Drag on with kissing or stimulation on one area of ​​the body.
4. They actively strive for innovation. The desire to diversify your sex life should be in moderation, otherwise a pleasant pastime will turn into running over rough terrain.
5. They're in a hurry. There is no need to chaotically switch from one erogenous zone to another. Sensuality and depth of intimacy are imparted by smoothness, regularity and consistency of movements.
6. Go overboard with delicious games. Men appreciate all the caresses with food

What not to do?

• Deep kiss. A girl who is too persistent seems to want to swallow her partner. Believe me, soft and leisurely kisses are much more pleasant.
• Use your teeth. Especially on sensitive parts of the body. Light biting is very erotic, but stronger pressure can lead to injury. What kind of sex is this?
• Try everything at once. All poses from the Kama Sutra and right now. Such an abundance of exoticism will not benefit your relationship. It is unlikely that you will be able to do everything correctly and have fun. Experiment in moderation, make your fantasies come true.
• Rush. Leisurely preparation is always more exciting. And if you don’t ignore the main erogenous zones, your partner will be grateful. You don't have to go straight to the dick.
• Fear newness. And so for ten years the same missionary position, because trying something new is scary. If your relationship has reached a certain level, ask your partner to talk about your fantasies and open up to him about your desires. And implement them gradually.
• Games with food. Cream, honey and wine are wonderful. But as a rule, such caresses leave only an unpleasant stickiness and stains on the bed. But they don’t bring pleasure.

Several secrets of female seduction

Explaining how to give him unique pleasure during caresses, sexologists advise relying on the following principles:

1. Pay attention to the entire groin area, that is, not only the penis, but also the scrotum, testicles, and inner thighs.
2. Watch the pace. You can ask your partner which speed he likes best.
3. Use sex toys, role-playing games and costumes for them.
4. Be careful not to make sudden movements that could cause pain to your partner.

Having learned to understand your loved one, you can give him the best caresses through touch. Thanks to this, the relationship will become stronger and the pleasure from every moment lived together will increase.