What men like during intimacy: appearance, behavior

Sex is the most pleasant of sensual pleasures that a person can understand and appreciate, and in addition receive pleasure from the process. Inexperienced girls often have a misunderstanding of what men like during intimacy. But there is nothing complicated here. Every touch of a woman's delicate skin, passion, the ability to listen to the needs of a partner - this is not all that men like during sex. In order for a guy’s eyes to sparkle at the sight of his lady, you need to constantly fuel excitement and desire in him.

How to keep your partner's attention for a long time

It is impossible to know 100% what a man likes in intimacy with the woman he loves. First of all, he is attracted by an aesthetically attractive object.

It's no secret that men want and love with their eyes, and think about sex more often than food. Like a lion on the hunt, he first watches his prey, evaluates its gestures, manner of movement, and catches its gaze. The girl sends signs to the lion about her readiness to be caught, but not on the dinner table, but in bed.

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Basic rules for quality sex

High-quality sexual intercourse is a conscious action that will not “fall” on your head just because passion has arisen. To make sex enjoyable, you need to follow 15 rules. They will help two loving hearts rise to the pinnacle of pleasure:

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Quality sex should not take place on the “battlefield”. You should not make love immediately after a quarrel. Even if it took place the day before, it is not recommended to get rid of resentment with the help of bed. Negative thoughts and unresolved issues will still spoil the pleasure.
Take your time to take off your clothes. No matter how much you would like to start sex as soon as possible, allow your partner to take off his “uniform.” This will help you tune in to the sexual wave.
Sexual foreplay should begin 48 hours before sexual intercourse. The body needs about two days to recover after sex. If there is no daily need for sexual activity, then there is no need to artificially induce this desire. Excessive intimate practice will lead to a decline in desire. The best solution in this situation is to “work up an appetite” a few days before sex, gradually exciting yourself and your significant other. Basic flirting, compliments and stroking are suitable for this.
Sex will be of high quality in a conducive atmosphere. Intimate relationships should not become part of the daily routine. Sexual intercourse is a special ritual that can simultaneously use all senses, including vision, so you need to treat it with trepidation. Before sex, complete all your tasks so that they do not interfere with sensations and feelings from plunging into the bottomless abyss of pleasure. Create a love nest in your bedroom with dim, intimate lighting.
After a hearty lunch, it is better to abstain from sex. For sexual intercourse to take place, blood flow must be directed to certain parts of the body. After eating, its course changes towards the gastrointestinal tract. A rich home-cooked meal or dinner at a restaurant can be the culprit for failure in bed.
Don't look at your watch. Don't time yourself for sex, even if you have to get up early for work. If you want to give your partner pleasure, forget about minutes.

An overly joyful or depressed mood is the enemy of orgasm. For proper sex, you need to wait until the emotional excitement subsides a little.
It is better to avoid alcohol or reduce its consumption to a minimum. Strong drinks “paralyze” the mind. While alcohol helps women relax and unwind, it weakens potency in men. At first, alcohol exacerbates sexual desire, but as a result, pleasure from sexual intercourse does not arise. You can relieve psychological stress with 50 grams of dry red wine, the main thing is not to increase the dose of alcohol.
Before intimacy, you need to go “little by little.” A full bladder can distort sensitivity during sex.
Say no to physical activity 2 hours before and 1 hour after sexual intercourse. Before sex, save your energy, otherwise fatigue will affect the quality of intimacy. After making love, it is important to be with your loved one in a relaxed and satisfied state. To ensure that the right “aftertaste” remains after sex, do not disturb this idyll for at least 1 hour.
Don't get carried away with sex shop products. Intimate stores provide a wide range of adult toys. To diversify their sex life, couples resort to the use of artificial stimulants. Getting used to outside help gradually devalues the partner’s efforts. Without sex toys, it becomes difficult to achieve orgasm.
Intimacy is a team game. Don't ignore your partner's desires during sex. Satisfying his needs will certainly be rewarded with reciprocal care.

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Cleanliness is the key to health and great sex. Bad breath, dirty body or underwear can instantly kill the desire to get closer in an intimate setting. It is not necessary to take a shower 5-10 minutes before sex; this can be done in the morning (if intimacy is planned during the daytime). The main thing is to take the preparatory procedures responsibly.
When you are intimate with your loved one, do not imagine someone else in his place. Sexual fantasies must be used correctly. You should not imagine Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie in bed when intimacy occurs with Masha or Petya. Sexual communication is a continuation of ordinary communication, only on a different plane. Replacing the image will sooner or later lead to loss of attraction to a loved one.
Leave conversations for later. It is not recommended to have a conversation during sex. It's distracting and disrupts the rhythm. The exception is if you and your partner have agreed in advance to suggest erogenous places to each other.

What to do when you catch each other

It’s important not to give up right away. The phrase “Take me, I’m all yours” is not at all suitable as an answer to the question of how to please a worthy man in bed. Continue the game you started until you remember all the sheets or the neighbors start knocking on the wall asking for silence. The game has simple rules:

Do everything slowly. Move smoothly, undress slowly. With nudity it is especially important! Show the body in parts. Let the man figure out what will happen next. His wild imagination plays into the hands of any woman. Leave a little mystery. This is the only thing that men like most about sex.
Keep moving. Who would be interested in lifeless prey in their teeth? The hunter's instinct must play in him until the last orgasm. The female body is not only beautiful, but also very plastic, gentle, in contrast to the rough male body. This is why a guy needs a girl. He doesn’t have such gentle and graceful hands or the arch of his back.
Show interest and initiative in moderation. Guys love independent women, but let him lead too. Don't turn the hunter into the prey. There are not many men around who prefer female domination. You can suggest changing the position or paying attention to his prominent parts of the body - this is what every man likes in sex.
Sound effects. They say that women love with their ears, and men with their eyes. But there is an exception to this rule - guys also like compliments. Moans, whispers, quiet requests to do a woman good are the best reward and what any man likes in bed. It's like a gold medal for his efforts. You don't have to constantly praise his shoulders or the size of his penis. To please a man, it is enough to mention the merits of your appearance a couple of times.

When you ask him what will give him pleasure, and then tell him where he needs to stroke the girl to make her feel good, a strong stimulating effect will be triggered, which will exceed the effect of aphrodisiacs in power.

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What kind of sex do women prefer?

There is a stereotypical belief that women prefer male dominance in bed. In fact, girls expect different actions from their partner during intimacy, it all depends on the psychotype.

To know how to please your beloved, you need to proceed from her psychological characteristics and preferences.

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Gentle

Unhurried and gentle sex can bring unforgettable pleasure to your partner. Such intimacy is preferred by women with a passive-subordinate type of sexual-psychological behavior. They expect their partner to create a romantic atmosphere, tender caresses accompanied by music, and whisper warm words in their ears.

If a partner belongs to the “woman-daughter” psychotype, she enjoys feeling weak and defenseless in the arms of a strong and experienced man.

Fast

Any girl can enjoy quick sex in bed, provided that she is sufficiently excited. However, most often the appropriateness of quick sexual intercourse is determined by the spontaneity of the situation or the choice of place for intercourse. In this case, the possibility of obtaining pleasure is dictated by circumstances on which the degree of arousal, the severity of sensations and the completeness of sexual experiences depend.

If we talk about speed, the normal duration of intimacy is about two minutes. Therefore, we can safely say that in most cases, humanity engages in quick sex.

Rude

A tendency towards masochism and some cruelty is manifested in the submissive female type, when a man is expected to demonstrate strength and superiority through actions.

Rough sex is also liked by women with a dominant aggressive type, but in this case, in order to provide pleasure, the man must act as a victim. Intimacy can be daring, tough, accompanied by some cruelty, but on the part of the partner.

The environment as an element of a successful process

“Lights, camera, motor!” It's not necessary to turn your bedroom into an erotic film shoot, but a few little things to create a stimulating environment won't hurt.

Let's return to the idea - men love with their eyes in sex. What if there are two girls? One in his hands, and the other in the reflection of the mirror? It has been proven that the presence of a mirror in a room increases the interest of both boys and girls. It’s even more interesting to watch the process from the outside, so it’s worth leaving the light on. But there should be little of it. Two or three thin rays from the next room, a night light, candles or the blue glow of the TV are enough.

Men like to look at feminine grace in bed, every curve of the body and swaying breasts. I would like to add: “Bon appetit!” While he eats the girl with his eyes, she can get more time for pleasure.

Working with erogenous zones2

Erogenous zones are not a fiction, and knowing how to influence them, you will heat up the girl so much that she will want sex even more than you! Working with these points can be reminiscent of playing with a kitten, where you tease him with a bow, let him touch him, make him want to grab him, but you take him away. Girls need to be touched in such a way that she wants to feel touched more and more, tease her, kiss and caress her in those places to which she reacts more.

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Women's erogenous zones are in the same places as men's. Think about it: what part of the body is pleasant to touch, what excites you? Your partner should also like it. If you focused only on the genital organ, then you are mistaken, so consider the following list of the most important points:

Neck and face. It is not enough to kiss a girl only on the lips before sex. To get her excited, touch her face with your hands, run your fingers along her neck. Kiss the area around the cheekbones, earlobes, and neck. But kisses should not just be smacking, but with biting, and use your tongue.
Chest and belly. Women's breasts don't just need to be kneaded, this only turns on men. She needs to be treated tenderly and kindly. Massage your nipples with your fingers until they become swollen. Run your tongue around the areola, take the nipple into your mouth, and you can bite it lightly. Run your hands along the girl’s waist, along her back and stomach, do not hesitate to kiss these places, such actions are very exciting for women. Detailed instructions on how to properly touch and caress a woman’s breasts are here.
Hands. It is important to remember that there are many nerve endings on the hands, and with the right influence on them, you can greatly excite a person. Stroke the woman's wrists, running your fingertips from the hand to the shoulder along the inside of the arm. If the girl likes it, you will notice the goosebumps running across her skin. You are on the right track!
Scalp. And here, too, there are a lot of erogenous points. Run your hands through the woman's hair, pass it between your fingers. During a passionate kiss, be sure to touch your partner’s scalp and lightly pull the hair.
Hips. Well, what kind of man would refuse to touch a woman’s butt! But many people mistakenly believe that a girl will only get aroused if you pinch her soft spot, spank her or knead her. It doesn't work like that! Gently stroke the outer and inner thighs up and down, then move your hand to the lower back, do not rub for a long time in one place!
Genital organs. You should caress the girl “there” as a last resort. First, work well on all other points, and only then go lower. This is the game, you will irritate your partner so much that she will beg you to quickly move on to the hottest part. But take your time, enjoy the moments to the fullest, because you like it too. Don’t rush to move on to sex, caress the woman below with your hands, you can do cunnilingus.

Foreplay is not a waste of time. Delay the pleasure, even if it’s completely unbearable, and the main organ has long been ready to go into battle. Remember that a horny woman does incredible things in bed, don’t you want to try them? After quality foreplay, the girl will want sex so much that all you have to do is lie back and enjoy!

How to serve the “dish”

The stronger sex loves thin straps, elegant lace, and panties that hide nothing. Our grandmothers knew how to please a guy. Guys love fabric pieces that make no sense at all. A naked girl right away is like a book without a cover and with empty pages, although women will never understand this. Here you just need to go to the store for new underwear, stockings, a transparent dress, and while shopping, don’t think about why spend money on things that will still be taken off in 5 minutes.

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Take off your underwear yourself

You need to get rid of clothes slowly. A light dance, in the process the bra straps are lowered, a couple of reflections of candles fall on the body and make it even more attractive - this is what men like in intimacy with a woman. Such lively pictures will drive anyone crazy. Smile, and as often as possible. A smile on a woman’s face is a red rag to a bull. The girl may not be wearing beautiful lingerie, but a flirting half-smile must always be present.

This rule is especially true for a boss lady who is used to leading people with a straight face. Don't take your boss look into your bedroom. Unless, of course, this is a planned role-playing game.

When can you have sex after childbirth?

According to doctors, 55% of new mothers after childbirth experience problems in sexual relationships during the first three months, and 20% experience such problems throughout the first year.

Doctors recommend starting to make love no earlier than 1–1.5 months after the birth of the child. During this period, the uterus manages to return to its previous size, and the wound at the placenta insertion site heals. The vagina also gradually returns to its previous state. You can speed up the process with Kegel exercises.

10% of women experience postpartum depression, which reduces libido. Some ladies cite extreme fatigue and do not want sex with their husband for the reason that he does not help with the child. Women also often complain about feeling unattractive. They are dissatisfied with the fact that they gained weight after the birth of a child, although many men, on the contrary, like curvy figures.

It is not recommended to force a woman who has recently given birth to have sex every day. She needs to accept her appearance and realize what happened. It is also important for a man to help with housework and child care.

Why should you try?

Girls are always interested in knowing what men want from sex. The same as them! Exciting play, pleasure, touch, sensation, pleasant body odor and, of course, orgasm. Then guys need complete relaxation, comfort and warmth from their partner.

Sex is the most enjoyable game with a whole Talmud of rules that each individual couple writes for themselves. Not a single board game has such an opportunity, but in sex and relationships between a man and a woman there is. It's like an adventure into the unknown depths of your partner's desires, like Indiana Jones, but within the confines of the bedroom.

During a survey of men, it turned out that in the process it is important for them to please a woman. If the girl feels good, then the guy will like it in bed.

How to get maximum pleasure from intimacy with a man?

To get maximum pleasure, partners must trust each other. Complete mutual understanding, tender relationships, absence of embarrassment and complexes will help you relax and reach climax.

There are ways to help ignite desire, using:

Aroma oils . Excellent option: ylang-ylang, bergamot, jasmine, geranium.
Perfume with pheromones. The aphrodisiacs they contain can attract the opposite sex.
Foods that have a stimulating effect. These are: champagne, chocolate, celery, ginseng.

To enjoy this process, constantly work on yourself.

Guys can feel bad during sex

A woman can bring a man, if not to a heart attack, then to the fall of the Leaning Tower of Pisa if she makes the most common mistakes:

Lies like Pinocchio or a sleeping beauty in the middle of the bed.
She makes a frightened face, as if there is a maniac near her.
Silent.
She tugs at his dignity like a doorknob.
Uses obscene language.
Screams like her leg is being cut off
She drags the man to bed.

When the work on the mistakes has been done, all the little things in behavior have been polished, you can move on to maintaining a man’s long-term interest in sex with one partner.

How to make love if a woman is pregnant

All expectant parents are concerned about whether sex is possible during pregnancy. Gynecologists actively support the couple’s desire to continue their intimate life during pregnancy. The main thing is that the expectant mother does not have pathologies.

Sex with a man during this period helps to train the muscles of the vagina, and sperm improves the elasticity of the cervix. It is necessary to select proximity positions taking into account the timing:

in the first trimester of pregnancy, sex can occur in any position;
in the second and third trimesters, it is necessary to choose positions in which there is no load on the abdomen.

Future dads need to remember that oral sex should be avoided during pregnancy. Due to the weakened protective function of the vagina, infection can enter the birth canal. During pregnancy, the frequency of acts should be reduced to 1-2 times a week.

To avoid mistakes, listen to your body. If discharge and discomfort do not bother you, then everything is going well.

How to pamper a man during sex

Imagine the expression on a girl’s face from a sudden bouquet, chocolate or the phrase: “Darling! I bought tickets to Italy for two days. Get ready!” It's just that guys are pleased with other spontaneous and no less pleasant little things in life. To do this, you don’t need to go to the garage at night and rebuild the car’s engine or change the oil to surprise him. It’s enough to stand in the middle of the park, put your hand on his thigh and gently whisper: “See that swing over there? It's dark and deserted. Lets play?". If you add a playful smile to the proposal, he will understand that we are not talking about building sand castles.

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When a girl is not yet ready for such radical games outside the bedroom, you can start with light coquetry on a 24-hour basis. This works especially well through private messages.

Throughout the day, indulge your partner with dirty jokes, naughty mentions of your sexual fantasies for the evening, or a photo of yourself in your underwear. And when you get back to bed, surprise your man with new techniques for achieving pleasure.

Self-improvement in sex will be appreciated. Fortunately, there is the Internet and a huge variety of intimate videos. For example, read up on the anatomy of the penis. This will help improve your oral sex skills. It is useful for a woman to know about massaging the male genital organ with her hands, what to do with her tongue, and what sensitive points to press on.

Your male friends can be an additional source of information. Ask them what kind of sex most men like.

Against the backdrop of eternal attempts to build a stable life (apartment, house, income, etc.), variety in sex will make a man’s life brighter. Then he will not need to run around in search of fresh sensations from one woman to another, since his regular partner will regularly give out something new.

Where to start with spontaneity

“Company, get up!” the man’s brain screams in the morning, like a commander in the army. The blood has already flowed through the pipes, but the brain continues to sleep. Early erection has long been no secret for girls who have undergone the practice of morning harassment. But a woman more often wants to sleep more or is afraid about her appearance, sleepy eyes. This list of women's problems can be continued endlessly. The only nuance that girls forget is that a man’s brain is not yet ready to think and evaluate his partner.

If you step over your own fears, the end result is a man happy with life, who likes everything about sex with his partner, including coffee in bed.

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Peculiarities of girls' perception of sex

Many women love sex, but consider it a manifestation of true feelings. However, the peculiarities of perception and expression of sexuality are manifested differently than in men. Female arousal does not occur instantly; the body reacts more slowly due to hormonal differences between the sexes. This is due to testosterone, which is responsible for physical attraction. There is less of it in the female body, so the response in comparison with the male one occurs slowly.

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Memory and Imagination

The natural accelerator of female arousal is fantasies and memories, so the question of how to give a girl pleasure at the beginning of a relationship does not arise. She constantly thinks about a new partner, gets excited easily, demonstrating increased sexual desire.

To remain a catalyst for her passion, a man needs to gain a foothold in a woman's dreams and fantasies.

Instability of reactions

Women's desire can disappear due to various factors: fatigue, physiological difficulties, pain or resentment towards a partner. Often women are psychologically ready for intimacy, but do not experience arousal at this moment, so it needs to be awakened. In some cases, reaching the highest point of the climb can take up to 30 minutes.

Difference in approach

If a man expects a lot of sex from a stable relationship, then a girl expects romance, which she perceives as proof of interest on the part of her partner. For a woman, harmony in the intimate sphere directly depends on the emotional comfort that a man can demonstrate through seduction and a romantic approach.

Also, men should take into account that sex for women is only part of a love relationship, so it does not always turn out to be a source of warmth in them.

Age is not a barrier in sex

At the age of 25-30, while young blood is boiling and strength is enough for experiments, guys want more sex. What young guys like about sex is the desire for everything new, the desire to conquer peaks, to take in quantity. Everything here is like in sports. The quality of sex is only getting better.

At the age of 30-35, requests appear, a vision of the situation is formed, but the needs for quantity remain the same as at 25. The soul requires new impressions, but a more experienced approach to business is acquired.

At 35-45 years old, sex is like flying in business class on a private jet. The route is carefully planned, the flight attendants bring the best drinks, a top-class pilot is at the helm and is ready to take you to seventh heaven. Here every step is checked and both partners know what they like in sex, how to use it and how much time they need to spend in bed before they completely fly away.

At 45-55 years old, time plays a major role. Clear and precise movements. Quality and movements have been proven over the years. All the most pleasant places have long been marked on a map, which is imprinted in the head and memorized.

There are no age restrictions in sex, but there are strict taboos. A woman must remember three golden rules:

Poor hygiene harms the female body and will sink the Titanic of love in the first 5 minutes of erotic games. A girl should smell nice. It is advisable to maintain your natural body odor. A guy should remember a girl for who she is. If the smell is hidden under a ton of aromatic additives, then how will it then “recognize you from a thousand”?
Inaction in bed is akin to voluntary hanging. If you don't know what to do, then it's better to ask your partner or pretend that you are playing a role-playing game. Let the man himself tell where the girl should stand, how to bend over, what to do with her hands. If he doesn’t speak, the key will be constant smooth movement. Imagine your favorite melody in your head or turn it on in reality and move smoothly. If you don’t like something, then change the position yourself, but do not criticize the man.
Falsehood, lies, flattery, imitation are mortal sins, not only in sex, but in life too. If people were constantly told what they want to hear, then society would stop developing. This does not mean that you need to say the first thought you come across. But flattering compliments will cause harm to the relationship. The partner becomes arrogant about his skills. As a result, the woman will suffer, forced to forever endure the monotony and scarcity of technology.

Sex is an exciting game without boundaries. It may seem like there are a lot of rules, but this is a misconception. It’s worth remembering them once and constantly practicing them, then sex will become magical, and unnecessary anxieties will go away. The guy will really like this, and the woman will drown in attention from her regular partner.

How is it possible for a woman to have an orgasm on her own without a partner?

In the absence of a partner, women can make themselves feel good on their own and there is nothing shameful in that. Some people find it easier to get an orgasm from masturbation than with a man.

This is due to the fact that a woman knows all her erogenous zones and controls the strength and frequency of forward movements.

How to achieve orgasm on your own without a partner?

Orgasm can be clitoral, vaginal, uterine and anal. The easiest way to get it is clitoral. This can be done using your fingers, or showering by stimulating the clitoris.

Vaginal, uterine or anal is a more difficult task. Here you can use vibrators, dildos and other devices.

Benefits of achieving female orgasm without a boyfriend

There are benefits to masturbation. This:

Emotional and physical relief without outside help.
Orgasm improves blood flow in the area of the reproductive organs, which prevents the development of certain diseases.
Recognizing your body.
Preventing cheating if your partner is far away.

Is having an orgasm without a partner harmful?

Scientists have proven that getting satisfaction on your own does not harm your health and psyche. On the contrary, such a release helps to calm down, removes nervousness and an uncontrollable desire to have sex.

The main thing is not to hurt yourself and maintain hygiene.

Another answer is given by religious people: for them, self-satisfaction is considered a sin.

Show emotion in bed

Do not be silent! Even if you are used to it, you are ashamed or afraid that the neighbors will hear. Give yourself freedom . Maybe at first you will do it even through force, but very quickly you will understand how much it actually increases the level of pleasure. Just like riding a roller coaster, screaming only increases pleasure and emotion and releases tension.

You can say something - how pleased you are or how much you love your partner, or you can simply make any appropriate sounds (crowing, of course, is not necessary if you both don’t like it, otherwise an intimate scene can turn into a comic one). This will allow you to relax and your partner to understand that you feel good and should move in the same direction.

Confess to hidden fantasies

Yes, not everyone’s sexual fantasies are limited to an intimate relationship with Antonio Banderos on the ocean, when “warm waves caress your bodies.” Often, even the most modest and seemingly uptight excellent girls have such piquant fantasies that the hair on the back of their necks stands on end for them, “such experienced and seen everything” men. But no matter how shocked he was, any man would love it. And the fact that he was entrusted with this secret is doubly so.

Happy couples not only openly discuss each other's fantasies, no matter how explicit or funny they may be, but also happily act out them if possible.

Indirect factors affecting the quality of sex

Despite the distinctions between sexual and psychological behavior by personality type, there are practically no people who correspond to a certain model in its pure form. Full conditional type matching is already a problem. Depending on the situation, the same people adopt forms of behavior characteristic of other types and periodically strive to change the type of sexual relationship. Female pleasure depends on various factors influencing the quality of sexual intercourse.

Situation

The environment chosen for intimacy should be relaxing, since the right mood will allow you to give your beloved girl pleasure in bed. To create the necessary atmosphere, you need to remove distractions by focusing on the attributes.