Female orgasm: how does a woman achieve it?
A woman can achieve orgasm through caresses, penetration, oral sex, anal sex, G-spot stimulation and masturbation. In rare cases, a woman can achieve orgasm without stimulating her genitals, fantasizing, or fondling her breasts. Some ladies have the ability to experience multiple orgasms.
So the path to pleasure is similar for women and men. However, there is a very important difference between female and male orgasm: a woman usually has to learn how to orgasm, while her partner has the innate ability to climax. What does this mean?
Female orgasm: how is it different from male orgasm?
The female orgasm is determined not only by physiological, but also by psychological factors. It depends on the atmosphere, whether the woman trusts her partner and even her self-esteem. Women who are insecure and ashamed of their bodies have great difficulty in finding pleasure because hidden complexes prevent them from fully opening up to the stimulation that their partner provides. So the first step is to learn self-acceptance.
Women usually reach full satisfaction with their sex lives after the age of 30, when they already know their bodies well and know what gives them pleasure.
The next step to a satisfying orgasm is to know your body. Sexologists advise women who have difficulty achieving orgasm to touch themselves and thus find out what stimulation gives them the most pleasure. It's a good idea to focus on the clitoris first, as it's easiest to bring you to orgasm by touching this area. This place can also stimulate your partner during traditional communication. However, it is more difficult for women to achieve orgasm from vaginal penetration alone - although exercise can be very helpful in this case.
G-spot
The G spot is a zone in the vagina where tissues are located, the stimulation of which enhances pleasant sensations. Finding this area is very simple: you insert your finger into the vagina, sliding strictly along the front wall. Slide along the back of the pubic bone upward and the tip of your finger will actually be in the area where this point is located. This area feels like it has a rougher surface than the rest of the vaginal mucosa.
In this small zone you need to catch the desired point, its location is very individual - for some it is to the left, for others it is to the right. Finding it is simple: you need to apply moderate force (weak pressure is ineffective) with your finger in this area until you feel that the pressure brings unusual sensations (they are most often more strange than pleasant, and can simply be characterized as a feeling that you are now "describe yourself") That's it - the point has been found.
The nature of the movements when stimulating this point is special - as if you are calling someone to you with your index finger, while stimulation should not be carried out constantly, but in series, with breaks.
Now about the nuances.
Directly behind the vaginal wall in this area is the urethra (urethra) and then the body of the clitoris (the junction of its legs). At this point, the branches of the nerves innervating the clitoris converge - these branches approach from the right and left and connect at the junction of the legs of the clitoris into the body.
Around the urethra in this area, apparently, there is a cluster of nerve endings, which in the male body innervate the seminal tubercle in the prostate (and this, as you remember, is the main place for the formation of orgasm in a man).
Thus, in the projection of the G point there are very sensitive tissues: the body of the clitoris, the main nerve innervating the clitoris, and the area around the urethra, which is also called the “female prostate” (corresponding in location to the male prostate gland and having massive innervation).
G-spot stimulation in the absence of arousal most often only leads to pain and the desire to “pee,” since you are actually pressing on the urethra. The remaining tissues at this moment are not ready for stimulation.
In order for the G-spot to “play”, it is necessary that the woman is already in a state of arousal - there is a rush of blood to the genitals. It is necessary that the clitoris has already received some stimulation and is in a state of erection.
Let's return to the orgasmic cuff. Now it becomes clear what importance it plays in the formation of orgasm. An orgasmic cuff is formed in the same place where the G-spot is located. Due to the venous blood supply to this area, the vagina narrows, the front wall (G-spot area) comes into close contact with the penis (which did not happen before). The plethora of all tissues located in the projection of this point enhances the transmission of sensations from the vagina to richly innervated tissues and, in particular, to the body of the clitoris.
At the height of the plateau phase, the clitoris is drawn inward (it even becomes difficult to find). At this moment, he is pulled towards his body and, in fact, to the place where all the main sensations are concentrated - the projection of the G point. Summarized, all these sensations are resolved by orgasm.
The famous exercises for training the vaginal muscles, in addition to providing pleasure for the man, are actually aimed at bringing the G-spot area closer to the penis during sexual intercourse and increasing its stimulation, that is, enhancing the effect of the orgasmic cuff or simulating it at the beginning.
Female orgasm: what does it look like?
Female orgasm is a deep sensation that leads to several phases of sexual intercourse before it:
- Excitation phase
The nipples lengthen up to 1 cm, the breasts enlarge, the skin becomes pinkish, the tension of the vaginal muscles increases, the heart rate increases, the blood pressure rises, the head of the clitoris swells, its shaft lengthens, lubrication appears in the vagina, the vagina lengthens, its walls darken, open and enlarge labia, the sensitivity of the uterus increases.
- Plateau phase
There is a further increase in the volume of the mammary gland, stagnation of the areola and increased hot flashes throughout the body. The muscle tone of the whole body increases, the heart rate and breathing rate accelerate. The clitoris changes position and color. The opening of the vagina, thanks to the secretion of the large vestibular glands (Bartholin), is moistened.
- Orgasm phase
A sexual blush covers the entire body, muscle groups of the body contract, and the anal sphincter contracts. Blood pressure increases (systolic increase by 0–30–80 mm Hg, diastolic increase by 20–40 mm Hg), breathing rhythm (up to 40 breaths per minute) and heart rate (increases by 110 -180 beats per minute), vaginal contractions are felt every 0.8 seconds and they are repeated from 5 to 12 times. The body of the uterus also contracts.
- Relaxation phase
Breast swelling slowly subsides, blush disappears, and muscle tension decreases. Blood pressure, breathing and pulse return to normal within 10-15 minutes, the vagina and labia return to normal within 20-30 minutes.
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Blissful sighs and cries of pleasure are not the only symptoms of a female orgasm. In fact, these are the least reliable signs of climax - and not because they are easy to fake, but few women experience bliss in such expressive ways. It is better to pay attention to the physiological symptoms of orgasm, such as:
- vaginal contractions,
- accelerated heartbeat,
- fast, shallow breathing
- severe hyperemia of the clitoris and labia,
- muscle tension, body bending.
Excitation phase
After preparation for sexual intercourse, the arousal phase begins. During the arousal phase, blood flow to the genitals increases. The labia minora swell, increase in size, and become bright or even dark red. In half of women, the clitoris increases in size and its head becomes visible. The external genitalia become moist, covered with lubricant, which is produced by the large glands of the vestibule (Bartholin's glands), the small glands of the vestibule and due to the sweating of fluid from the venous plexuses surrounding the vagina.
Now there are drugs that supposedly help to enhance the pleasant sensations in women during sexual intercourse. All these drugs have the same mechanism of action: they increase blood flow to the genitals. This is exactly how Viagra works in men. But we must remember that Viagra does not cause sexual arousal and does not increase desire. Viagra and similar drugs facilitate blood flow to the genitals in response to stimulation and sexual desire.
Simple blood supply to the genitals without an emotional component does not in any way affect the quality of sensations, but if there is a desire, it can speed up and intensify the arousal phase. Therefore, take advertising of various media correctly. Such drugs, as well as vacuum devices (for the clitoris and perineum - sold in sex shops) can help those women who, despite arousal, due to certain characteristics have poor blood flow to the genitals.
Next, the vagina and external genitalia become “juicy”, the vagina lengthens, the uterus unbends and pulls up, the inner 2/3 of the vagina begins to expand. The partner may have the feeling that the penis is “lost” in the vagina.
Female vaginal and clitoral orgasm
Sigmund Freud separated vaginal and clitoral orgasm - he argued that the first is more mature, and the clitoral one is infantile and typical of young women. The theses of the Austrian psychoanalyst have been repeatedly criticized by feminist circles.
Today we know that there is no difference between vaginal and clitoral orgasms - orgasm always comes from stimulation of the clitoris, because this organ is connected to the nerve receptors of the vagina. So irritation of the vaginal walls causes clitoral orgasm. Moreover, recent scientific research shows that the size of this organ is much larger than its visible part - hence the simple conclusion that without the clitoris, you cannot experience an orgasm.
Our society still believes that the most valuable female orgasm is the vaginal one. Meanwhile, as Dr. Tomasz Basta from the Intima Clinic in Krakow emphasized, a woman can reach climax in many ways, and each of them is equally important.
– Very often I come across such a stereotypical idea of female orgasms. A man wants to stimulate a vaginal orgasm because, in his opinion, this way he will satisfy his partner to the fullest, while simultaneously pleasing himself. Meanwhile, not every woman is able to experience vaginal orgasms.
However, this does not necessarily mean that she cannot enjoy sex. There are many other methods to achieve sexual satisfaction. This is possible by stimulating other parts of the body. Clitoral orgasm is no worse! Moreover, a woman can reach climax without even touching her intimate parts, explains the specialist.
Vaginal stimulation
What you shouldn’t do is try to achieve a vaginal orgasm by hook or by crook. About one in five women experiences orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone, and in any case it occurs due to the effect on the internal parts of the clitoris. The remaining 80% of women can achieve orgasm by combining vaginal stimulation with clitoral stimulation, or during other practices outside of penile-vaginal contact. Although, of course, not all heterosexual couples practice penile-vaginal contact, and not all women like vaginal penetration. It is a common misconception that the G-spot, the “magic button that triggers female pleasure,” is responsible for vaginal orgasm. However, the existence of the G point as an independent element has never been confirmed by science. Yes, some women really get particularly pleasant sensations from the impact on the front wall of the vagina, but, apparently, this is due precisely to the adjacent area of the clitoris or the nerve endings leading to it.
The myth that orgasm from vaginal stimulation is supposedly more intense also has no scientific basis. Different stimulation gives the most vivid sensations to different women, depending on the individual location of sensitive areas and nerve endings. And even with the same stimulation, orgasms for the same woman can vary depending on many other factors, among which the degree of arousal and the ability to feel relaxed are especially important. In any case, a strong orgasm does not always imply violent manifestations. Some women are characterized by intense physical and facial reactions, for other women the moment of pleasure occurs quietly and without unnecessary body movements - both options are absolutely normal.
Female orgasm: types
Today we know that every orgasm is equally wonderful, and in addition to those that Freud spoke about many years ago, scientists have “discovered” many other types of orgasm:
- local: caused by stimulation of a specific location
- long-term: lasting 30 minutes or longer
- complex (mixed): several sensitive areas are simultaneously stimulated
- psychogenic (figurative): achieved only through mental arousal
- tantric: achieved by adherents of the tantric art of love as a result of many years of training for both partners. This can be achieved almost exclusively through strong concentration
- mystical: achieved after long training in contemplation and sexual mysticism
- sadomasochistic: experienced by partners who engage in this type of sex
- enthusiastic: difficult to describe, usually occurs once or several times in a lifetime
- affective: experienced in a state of strong emotions not related to sex
- multiple: having multiple orgasms with one sexual act or masturbation
- painful: rare, requires therapy
- pharmacological: occurs due to the action of stimulants, without sexual stimulation.
