How to find the man of your dreams: Pexels The daughter of a flight attendant and British Airways pilot, Kate Middleton, married a real prince. Are you still waiting for the ideal man for relationship and marriage? Personal growth coach Yaroslav Samoilov and bestselling author Ellen Fein know how to find a partner and create a harmonious relationship with him.
Become different from everyone else
According to the American psychologist, author of the book “Rules. How to marry the man of your dreams" Ellen Fein, regardless of beauty, age, size and proportions of body, mind, every woman can find the ideal spouse. The main thing is to become different from others.
To do this, you don't need to be a beauty queen, go to university or open your own business. It is enough to develop calmness, confidence and a sense of self-worth. Gradually, these feelings will turn into a special inner glow, which will distinguish you from dozens of other women.
On how to find the man of your dreams: 8 tips that will change your love life
Tip #1. There is always a way out!
I am now in the most literal sense of the word. About the exit, in the sense of the door.
My main mistake was that after another breakup I locked myself at home and ate. A lot of. It was impossible for my friends to get me out of my den.
Suffering at home, you won’t find the man of your dreams!
Therefore, drink a glass of water (instead of another piece of cake), take a contrast shower - and forward, towards your destiny.
Visit any crowded places more often. Bars, museums, theater and cinema, parks. I believe in energy and energy. Therefore, it is important that during this period energy circulates around you, and you draw charges of vivacity and positivity. Smile more, you are beautiful!
Sitting within four walls, the probability of finding the man of your dreams tends to zero.
Tip #2. Be like a pioneer, because the man of your dreams can meet you right today!
I mean, always ready. To new acquaintances and meetings, of course.
Always clean shiny hair, neat nails, fresh breath, tidy wardrobe.
You don’t know exactly when fate will bring you a new acquaintance.
Always being in excellent shape is your sacred duty. We are not talking about permanent heels and a pencil skirt.
By the way, personally, wearing “pencils” I feel like a sausage wrapped in cellophane. There can be no talk of any self-confidence.
But there are beauties who are always on top! Just look at them, why not look up to the objects of worship of millions of men?
Victoria Beckham on her way to a coffee shop. Simple black jeans, polished flat boots and an oversized sweater. I would recommend experimenting with sweater colors. Pure blue shades, turquoise, blue are very refreshing.
Eva Longoria. Agree, nothing special. But how neat, gentle and elegant. She skillfully emphasized her dark skin color with pink and white tones.
Jessica Alba has long been renowned for her ability to dress understatedly and dramatically off the red carpet. Jessica's everyday look. What do you think?
Surely you see the man of your dreams as a neat, stylish, handsome man who is well-mannered and endowed with a bunch of other advantages. Would such a man look at a woman in a shabby T-shirt? Whatever one may say, they love with their eyes, eye-to-eye!!!
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The first thing I did was clear out my closet. I firmly believe that the more we give, the more we receive. Therefore, yesterday the homeless kids who constantly hang out under the entrance were gifted with my T-shirts, no longer fashionable jeans and 101 other things that were collecting dust in the closet.
Go shopping. Stop putting it off until tomorrow with the words: if I lose weight, then I’ll buy it. You are beautiful at your weight. If you lose weight, buy something new!!!
PS. I hope that I will soon hang the ironed shirt of the man of my dreams on the free space in my closet.
Tip #3. A smile will make everyone brighter.
You've probably seen neat, neat beauties who always have a "rag face", as my mother says. They do not radiate anything positive, but only demand and drink energy from others.
It's creepy, isn't it?
The man of your dreams, if he is nearby, will subconsciously feel your energy background. Smile more often, fall in love with life! Surround yourself only with positive emotions.
Brew a cup of your favorite coffee, take out a notepad and pen. Write a list of 30 points (minimum!) about what you love to do/see/feel in life.
What gives you pleasure? Any little thing, like fresh flowers on the kitchen table, waking up before sunrise, going to bed in a clean bed, body scrubs... Everything must be taken into account!
Do one thing from the list every day. Pamper and love yourself. This is what creates your mood. And your mood creates the character that creates your life.
So, do you still believe that you can meet the man of your dreams with the mood in which you are reading this article?
Tip #4. “My very, my most beloved!”
I want to highlight self-love as a separate point.
You can endlessly make a list of qualities that the man of your dreams should have. You can imagine how he will burst into your life and save you from the dragon. And he will love you like no one has ever...
Seriously?
The man of your dreams will most likely look at a woman in love. In love with myself.
Your credo should be:
- sport;
- proper nutrition and plenty of water;
- regular rest and sleep;
- positive literature and music.
Well, and most importantly: you are a priori worthy of love. Just by the fact of your birth!
My friend Lidusya suffered from rough treatment from men before she got married. Well, she couldn’t find the man of her dreams. The end of the relationship was the same: they blamed her for all sins and walked off into the sunset.
Lida also blamed herself, so she punished her body with bad food and lack of attention to herself.
Guess what Lidusya changed in this vicious circle in order to eventually find the man of her dreams - Vovchik?
Tip #5. “There is only a moment between the past and the future...”
After another bachelorette party, is your ex's number in outgoing calls?
Do you secretly think that Kolya was the best thing that ever happened to you, and do you keep his gifts? If you have firmly decided that you are ready to meet the man of your dreams, you will have to say goodbye to the past. Throw away all your ex's gifts without regret. This is a load.
Stop communicating with failed lovers. Yes, and even those that are “good for health”!
Be ready to find, and for this you need to find the strength to say NO to the past.
How to fall in love with a man?
Tip #6. Draw the man of your dreams!
Yes, you understood everything correctly. Just take it and draw it.
Whether with paints, pencils or a regular pen - create.
Hair color, height and build, facial expression. Perhaps he is holding a child's hand. Or there is a big house nearby. Draw whatever you want.
Be sure to write a list of qualities below that you want to find in the man of your dreams. For example:
- loyal;
- respects me as a person and a woman;
- generous;
- kind to me and my family;
- successful in career;
- has similar interests to me (he also likes to run in the morning, so in the morning we go for a run together);
- we have ideal sexual compatibility, etc.
It’s not difficult to guess that the qualities that you see in the man of your dreams, he will want to see in you.
Tip #7. The theory of 6 handshakes.
Another way to find the man of your dreams is to ask your friends to introduce you to someone.
Do you remember Igorek talking about his computer friend who couldn’t meet a girl? I am firmly convinced that the more often you go on dates, the better. Would you argue that you shouldn’t waste your time on ugly/fat/not rich people, etc.? After all, you definitely won’t be able to find the man of your dreams!
I will answer that you should not pay attention only to pessimistic men, all the rest can be a gift of fate.
After spending the evening having a cheerful conversation with a fat man, you will leave a good impression of yourself. And who knows who his cousin, who came to town on business, will turn out to be?
Tip #8. Let's get married.
Do you remember the show with the same name? How much ice cream did I eat while watching it?
The point of the show is that brides come to the studio, and a matchmaker helps them find men. Or vice versa, that’s not the point...
Finding the man of your dreams is a difficult task, try using a professional matchmaker! She will select candidates for you according to your criteria about his appearance, work, hobbies, and material well-being.
Honestly, the method is not mine at all. But if it doesn't suit me, that doesn't mean it won't suit you either.
There are also so-called “advisers” - these are psychologists who help you understand what you want from the man of your dreams. Then you analyze together what needs to be done. All that remains for you is to follow the recommendations.
Having outlined these 8 points, it’s time to take action. I threw out half of my wardrobe, signed up for the training “How to Love the Woman Inside You” and forbade myself to use Mac. 2 weeks have passed and I'm ready for more drastic measures.
Tonight my friends and I are going to a very trendy pub for a literary evening. And I do not intend to wait for mercy from nature.
How to start a conversation with the man of your dreams? Let's figure it out.
Expand your circle of acquaintances
If you are serious about finding a man, sit less at home in front of the TV. You can spend your free time more usefully. For example, sign up for:
- driving courses;
- master class on photography, drawing, clay modeling;
- training;
- self-development training;
- foreign language courses.
So you will not only expand your horizons, but also your circle of acquaintances. After the class, you can be the first to strike up a conversation with the man you like. Ask him to explain something he heard during the lesson. Many representatives of the stronger sex like to act as mentors, so they will be happy to help. After that, you can continue your acquaintance over a cup of coffee.
Meet the ideal man
Let’s say you have a suitable specimen on the horizon, how do you get to know it? Many girls have certain difficulties with this. Moreover, some people have a stereotype in their heads that the guy should be the first to take the initiative. Maybe. But remember that men can also feel shy before meeting someone for the first time. Therefore, try to help him take the first step: your goodwill and openness will do the trick.
Some girls are sure that men choose only beautiful women for dating. Remember, this is a fundamentally wrong belief. Every person has their own idea of beauty. Any, even the most ordinary face, is transformed by a friendly smile.
And you shouldn’t position yourself as an impregnable fortress. This behavior of women more often repels men. After all, not everyone is ready to rush to conquer an impregnable fortress.
How can a woman identify “her” man?
When you start communicating with a man, do not forget about your openness, friendliness and originality. If a man is still shy, especially if you were the initiator of the acquaintance, then cheer him up with a smile or keep up the conversation by sincerely showing interest. To avoid awkward pauses in communication, ask questions.
If you can't find a reason to approach and meet a man, just ask him for help. It doesn't matter what. You might even ask where you can buy cool sneakers like his.
Play some sports
After 30, the easiest way to meet a potential partner is in the “habitat” of men. It is not necessary to change your job and get a job at a construction site or a factory for this. All you have to do is sign up for a swimming pool or the nearest sports club.
In such a place, men who care about their health and physical fitness will immediately come into view. In addition, it will be easy to start a conversation with them about:
- the operation of this or that simulator;
- features of sports nutrition;
- regularity and duration of classes.
1) Honestly, honestly, admit to yourself why you need this very man of your dreams
Do you want “fun” for one night without love-carrots? Wear a shorter skirt and go “prancing” to a nightclub.
Are Melania Trump's laurels keeping you up at night? It's time to get a job in a luxury hotel in search of the man of your dreams, as a salesperson in a luxury car store or as a manager selling some “modest” cottages of 700-900 “square meters” on the Cote d'Azur.
In a word, as soon as it “gets” to you why you need a man, you immediately have an understanding of where he “is found.”
How do relationships begin?
In order to build a family with the man of your dreams, you first need to somehow start a relationship with him. Think about what kind of man you dream of?
Surely among his qualities there are self-confidence, well-being, courage, responsibility, and success. Attracting such a man is not easy.
A beautiful dress and stylish makeup are not enough for this. This will require a special sense of self, which is achieved through psychological training.
In order to change her life and attract a successful, interesting man into it, a woman should change her attitude towards herself.
If you are accustomed to constantly sacrificing your own interests for the comfort and well-being of other people, if you consider yourself unworthy of happiness, ugly, uninteresting, then it is unlikely that other people’s opinions about you will be any different.
This especially applies to relationships with the stronger sex. In them, you will behave the same way as you are used to: tolerate what you don’t like, forget about your pleasure and interests, and do not insist on developing relationships.
Relationships with women with such psychological problems are most often entered into by men who seek to use the woman and parasitize her. Such men don’t care what you want from life, because they themselves don’t know what they want from it.
But at the same time, they take away all the affection, care, and tenderness from women, demanding more and more attention, constantly being in a bad mood.
As gratitude, a woman in such a relationship receives only scolding, criticism and instructions. Such connections are often built on manipulation. Women often suffer violence in such unions.
Despite the terrible conditions, it is extremely difficult to leave such a relationship, because women simply do not have the emotional strength to make a radical decision. They give all their strength to ungrateful men.
As a result, the woman’s personality is distorted, destroyed, and her life turns into pitch darkness. The hostages of such unions no longer dream of anything, they ask only one question - why did they receive such punishment?
But you need to look for the answer to this question not in the sky and not in others, but in yourself. The secret is simple: any relationship, especially relationships with men, reflects the inner state of a woman.
If she is humiliated, offended, and not considered anything, it means that within herself she treats herself in exactly the same way. The people around us convey to us what is already contained within us.
Therefore, when thinking about how to meet the man of your dreams, try to bring your inner state into line with your ideas about how your man should treat you.
Should he love, admire, respect you? Then learn to respect, love and admire yourself.
Like leads to like, don’t forget that. The way you treat yourself largely determines how others treat you. Many women in destructive relationships disagree with this statement.
After all, they are so good, they have not harmed anyone, how can they themselves be to blame for the fact that their husbands offend them? In fact, they still can.
Self-determination, attitude towards oneself is the most important component of life, which dictates to us which people to choose as companions, how to behave with them, how to react to their behavior, etc.
If you are being treated poorly, think about why this is happening? What is your personal contribution to this relationship? Perhaps you internally agree that you deserve only this and nothing more? Or are you afraid to protest?
The solution is always within you, you just have to find the courage to find it. Feeling sorry for yourself and continuing to suffer in this situation is simply stupid, because it will not change anything.
Thus, you simply shift responsibility for your condition to the one who is nearby. Yes, a man who behaves inappropriately is guilty. But you also have yourself to blame.
For allowing yourself to be silent and endure, for not doing anything, for not respecting yourself. Systematic work on self-esteem and internal state should provide good results.
First of all, you will understand why the situation developed in this way, and what your own contribution was to the collapse of your hopes.
Most often, women who find themselves in this situation suffer from low self-esteem, do not know what it means to love themselves, do not attach value to themselves, are afraid of the future, have no plans and lack self-confidence.
Severe problematic relationships, like a magnifying glass, magnify all our internal shortcomings. And through this prism it is easy to see what is wrong with ourselves.
Healing from a destructive relationship is not easy. But if you can accept yourself, understand your problems and can work on them, then gradually you will definitely feel an improvement.
And over time, you will notice that you begin to attract completely different people, attentive, caring, and self-sufficient. The better your inner state is, the more interesting your social circle will be.
Finding courage and looking within yourself is the first thing you need to think about when deciding how to meet the man of your dreams. The psychologist's advice on this topic sounds quite simple: you need to accept yourself, love yourself, become interesting to yourself.
But they are simple only in words. Implementing these tips takes a lot of time and mental strength. But this is a truly necessary measure, without which it will be very difficult to find personal happiness.
In order to interest someone, you must be interesting to yourself. Men like full-fledged women, and not those who need help, salvation, constant support and care.
Your chosen one should feel an excess of love in you. Therefore, in order to start a good relationship with the man of your dreams, first take care of yourself. This implies both external and internal changes.
Get a new hairstyle, regularly go for manicures and other procedures, buy beautiful bright clothes, don’t forget to change your outlook, try to get more positive emotions, fill your life with joy.
Love yourself so that the man of your dreams will love you!
How to Avoid Loneliness
You can often hear the word loneliness. It can be viewed from different angles. From the beginning, it is simply the physical absence of a person nearby who could provide support and help at some difficult moment. And the second concept is mental or moral loneliness, when a person does not have people around to communicate with. Not just communication, but the disclosure of emotional experiences, pain in the heart, experiencing difficulties in life. Working to get rid of loneliness in this case will be much more difficult than in the first option, but it is possible. How to find a beloved man is a question that arises in the mind of every single girl. This can also be called achieving a certain goal. What does she need? To do this, you need to get rid of internal restrictions that do not allow you to open up and find your loved one.
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