Show your strengths and strength, not your availability and weakness
Some girls make the mistake of making themselves available. They do this for easy and frequent acquaintances, and only those guys who are characterized by weakness can take advantage of this.
They will not approach a strong lady, because they know that they will certainly receive a refusal and love weak girls more, because they themselves are weak. As a result, this does not lead to anything good in the relationship, and both become unhappy.
You must, under any circumstances, maintain faith in your strength and be worthy. When she meets an equally worthy guy, he will make every effort to achieve her.
Stay yourself or change?
While in search of a man, a woman is looking for someone who is right for her, who will accept and love her with all his heart for who she is, and having found such a man, she tries to become the best for him. But is this logical? If a man already loves a woman for who she is (otherwise, why is he with her?), why want to become better, why change?!
What to do: remain yourself or become the kind of woman a man wants to see next to him?
The answer to this question depends on the goal that the woman sets for herself. If she is not yet in a relationship with the man for whom she wants to become the best, the goal is to win his heart; if the relationship has already developed and developed into a family relationship, keep the love.
For girls who are not in a relationship, it is undoubtedly more important to remain themselves, otherwise a man will fall in love with an image, a picture, a role created especially for him, and later he will feel deceived and disappointed, since a young lady cannot always pretend and hide her true “I” it will work out. But this fact does not mean at all that you don’t need to work on yourself, improve yourself and become better for yourself!
But a woman who is already in a relationship, trying to become the best for her man, does not deceive him, but finds an approach to him, thereby strengthening the relationship!
It is impossible to change a man, just as a woman will not turn into an ideal woman in an instant, but learning to live together in love and harmony, understanding, yielding, forgiving is quite possible. And a big role here is played by a woman’s ability to get along with a man, to surround him with due care and attention.
Becoming the best does not mean changing your individuality, playing someone else’s role, humiliating yourself and “bending in,” it means ensuring better compatibility with a man. This means knowing what a man wants and wanting to make him happy!
You can, of course, knowing that your husband doesn’t like a certain dish, continue to cook it (Because it’s healthy, dietary, easy to prepare, and if he doesn’t like it, let him not eat!), but you need to understand that even Such a small thing can ruin a relationship.
If at the beginning of a relationship, during the period of falling in love, a man is ready to forgive everything and closes his eyes to many things (just like a woman), then when living together, if a man sees that his desires are not taken into account, requests remain unheard, needs are ignored , he regards this as disrespect and dislike.
There is no place for selfishness in love! In love you need to be an altruist : give, give in, help, share, support, sacrifice, and not just demand and take!
Of course, as in any business, you need to know when to stop . It’s also not worth forgetting about yourself and turning into a woman who only does what she tries to be ideal for her husband.
So, you need to become the best for a man. That's wise! But how to do this?
Work on your appearance
A girl must definitely work on this, constantly improving and perfecting her appearance. You can draw up a specific work plan, schedule and try to fulfill all its points in the work on improvement.
Emphasis must be placed on absolutely everything; nothing should be left unattended. A good step would be to visit the hairdresser regularly. This should be done not only when you need a special complex haircut, but also in the case of a simple option. The ends of the hair can be split, so they need to be trimmed 2-3 times a month.
If you do this regularly, your hair will grow healthy. When visiting a salon, do not forget about home care. From time to time, an impromptu salon can be set up at home.
Depending on the type of skin on the head, a specific mask is selected. It must be done for three months, and then take a break. You should use a hair dryer or straightening iron as little as possible; high temperatures still damage your hair.
Interesting! Information about hair cosmetics from Belarus
It is necessary to pay attention to the eyebrows, they should be neat in shape. You don’t need to listen to what your friends will advise if they are inclined to tattoo your eyebrows. Naturalness has always been valued above any newfangled things. It is better to determine for yourself which shape will be ideal and choose a suitable pencil accordingly.
Special attention is paid to eyelash care. Long false eyelashes should not be used. Undoubtedly, it looks beautiful, but this beauty will last for two weeks, and natural eyelashes will suffer from this.
The best way to care for your eyelashes is to strengthen them with castor oil. They need to lubricate them at night. If reading is your favorite pastime, then the paper version should be preferred to an e-book. You should not overuse reading; your eyes need periodic rest.
If possible, you should limit your time in front of the computer. This recommendation will eliminate the redness of the eyes that occurs due to prolonged exposure to the monitor.
You need to pay attention to your teeth and lips. After brushing, just run a toothbrush over your lips several times to make them much softer.
Self-care also includes systematic manicure and pedicure.
How to become the ideal girl for a guy
What does every woman want? Except for diamonds, of course. Of course, to be ideal, but not only for yourself, but also for your man - isn’t this the ultimate dream? To be so admired, so that your man simply carries you in his arms, and everyone around you casts envious glances.
However, we all understand that we are not born ideal. A beautiful figure, a beautiful, well-groomed face and beautiful skin - all this is achieved through hard work. At the same time, you need to remember that men love not only with their eyes, the girl’s character and her approach to her partner are important. All this must be achieved with hard work, and a lot of it. So how to become perfect?
First of all, you need to learn to look at yourself. It would seem that everyone has a mirror, but everything is not so simple, you need to learn to look without bias, objectively, to notice all your advantages and disadvantages, assessing your appearance without bias. There is no need for unnecessary criticism, but there is also no need to turn a blind eye to shortcomings.
Remember - all shortcomings are fixable, and maybe only you consider them shortcomings. In any case, our goal is to become ideal, and for this we need a correct assessment of ourselves. Make a list of things you don’t like about yourself that you would like to improve. If everything is ready, then move on.
The next step is to talk to your partner, but do it in such a way as not to cause unnecessary emotions, choose the right moment. Find out from your lover what confuses him about you, check the answers with your list, so you will get a more balanced list. However, the process needs to be controlled, if you understand that the man’s words are not caused by your real shortcomings, but by a crisis in the relationship - stop, respect, value yourself.
The signal for this will be direct and specific indications of your shortcomings, but if your boyfriend gave only small hints and spoke about the shortcomings delicately, you should listen to them and try to correct them.
Men really love it when girls change something about themselves, their image - it could be a hairstyle, clothes, a new tattoo or piercing. All men are different and everyone likes something different, think about what could impress your man and get down to business.
A gym, tattoo parlor, boutiques and beauty salons are always at your disposal. However, think about yourself, whether you will like such a change, plus, you can always leave something of your old appearance. Such desires of men are explained naturally and stem from a subconscious desire for polygamy.
Play some sports
Attractiveness and beauty will be promoted by playing sports. Sport disciplines and energizes. He makes any girl worthy.
It happens that a guy fails at something in life. At such moments, he needs support from others. Let his beloved girl provide him with this support. She will charge him with energy, thanks to which he will regain faith and achieve success in any event. It largely depends on the girl whether the guy will be a success or a failure.
Be feminine
A girl should show love and respect towards her boyfriend, just as he does towards her. Don't try to please all the guys around you. Be the only one for your soul mate.
Some girls deliberately try to be rude, choosing just such a manner for their behavior. This will not lead to anything good, since the guy is unlikely to like it. On the contrary, you should try to be as feminine and affectionate as possible.
If a girl drinks alcohol and smokes, which is, unfortunately, often observed now, then she will never become ideal for a guy unless she stops doing this.
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How to become a better woman for your man
We cannot imagine female happiness without a man who loves us. We passionately want to become the best woman for a man - the only one, unique, desired - the one without whom he can’t live.
What about fairy tales in childhood or romantic films? Nature itself speaks to us. There must be at least two of us in this world. And from early youth we look for a life partner in a man - courageous, strong and gentle, generous, loving.
Not all of us find this. Or along the road of life we encounter problems and one day our companion turns into a stranger with whom we are no longer on the same path. And sometimes a companion becomes an enemy. This is the most extreme option. I often hear from such people that their lives were broken or ruined. Sadly.
I got married at 19 years old. It was real passion. We couldn't breathe without each other. We saw each other every day, and several at a time. The couples ran away from studying at their universities and walked along the streets of the city. And before going to bed, we wrote letters to each other (paper letters - in my youth we only wrote such letters), and in the morning we threw these letters of love into mailboxes on the way to our universities.
Imagine how, trembling with delight, I opened the mailbox at the entrance, took a letter from Him and ran home or to class...
Well, what was so special about it, since we practically never parted?
Was!!! For the hundredth time I read how beloved, desired, best and only woman I am for my beloved. What do I mean to him? And there was no end to happiness!
Did I then wonder how to become the best for a man ? Have mercy! I felt like that. Have I ever wondered how to keep a man's love ? Also no. When everything is going well for us, we don’t think about prevention. We also use stereotypes and scenarios.
I lived in this marriage for 7 years. From the first days, we vigorously sorted things out, passions continued to boil. As my dad said, we ate our love like bread and butter and caviar. The thought of divorce as an inevitable event came to me when I went to the Institute of Advanced Studies at the Academy of Pedagogical Sciences of the USSR (Academy of Pedagogical Sciences) for 6 months. Upon returning, I clearly felt that I was no longer on the same path with Igor. It was sad to think that I could not create a relationship for life . I had no doubt that I would marry again and for great love. But this will be the second marriage. For some reason, this really upset me at the time.
After the divorce we remained friends. Family ties also remained: my girl loved her father, grandmother, and simply adored her grandfather. How could it be possible to deprive her of this communication? Thank God, I understood that for normal communication it is necessary to maintain normal, human relations with my daughter’s relatives. Relationships without pain, resentment, anger and hatred.
And here I am free again, and still young and beautiful. I am again actively searching for a life partner.
This is where I would think about how to become the best for a man, so that he would become the only man for me.
I would really like to analyze my relationship, why love didn’t work out forever, and draw the right conclusions. The rake hits very painfully.
And what good is it that I am a divorced woman with a five-year-old child in my arms? It was because of this status that I refused to continue my studies in graduate school and returned home to earn a living for myself and my child. I analyzed it, of course. But in the wrong direction.
I took more care of myself, my beloved. And I didn’t raise the question of how to make a man happy at all.
Yes, I wanted to be a loved and desired woman for a man. And I believed that if they loved me, then they would be happy with me a priori. But it doesn’t work like that!
Because the law of the universe is this: what you give to the world is what you receive from the world. If we want to become the only one for a man, to become irreplaceable, to become needed, that is, we want love and happiness with him, this is exactly what we need - happiness and love need to be given to a man too.
Here's how it works. And only so.
It's about unconditional love.
Do you love that much? Do you accept a man entirely, as he is? Or do you want him to bend under you, to be tame, obedient, looking into your mouth? And at the same time, they also earn good money, and do not require or want anything. In general, a captain of a very long voyage.
Just don't throw tomatoes at me right away
I know that there are men whom it is impossible to love, who behave like pigs with a woman, or real gigolos... There are. Why is there someone like that next to you? Why with you? Why isn't the hero of your novel next to you? When did he change? And has it changed...
Choice is always a responsible matter. And especially the choice of husband.
My second husband was the complete opposite of my first. Energetic, cheerful, with a smile of 33 teeth. There were no problems with him. But I didn’t notice that I was leading him seriously, which means I was the leader in the family.
My third husband was not happy with me. Like a man. In the video “How to Love a Man” I talk about what you need to give him to make him happy. Simple things. But this is exactly what men lack in marriage and they leave. And I would also add that a man in marriage lacks love. Because the feelings that we experience for them are far from love in reality.
When you truly love, you hear the desires of your loved one, understand him and really want to give him happiness. You accept him entirely, you are not annoyed by the fact that he does not do what you want or consider necessary. And believe me, it’s not difficult at all if you love.
I realized this when we separated after living together for 19 years and raising children. This knowledge was not easy for me. But they were the ones who radically changed my life. 180 degrees. After the divorce, before which I lived in hell for a year, struggling with my pain, pride, selfishness, the desire to get everything back in the same volume, I changed my perspective on relationships and love. What did this give me? Freedom. Extraordinary freedom and unconditional happiness.
I give love to a man, children and granddaughters, my loved ones, without expecting the same in return. But imagine that this is exactly what I get. The more I give, the more I receive. My family and loved ones feel good with me.
How important it is to ask yourself this question - how to become the only, irreplaceable, best, beloved for a man - on time. And become the best wife for him. Believe me, it's worth your happiness!
With love, your Eva ♥
