Project work “The World of Family Hobbies”

“We’ll agree on the bridge, guys!”

Often the reason for furious arguments and even quarrels among people is that, having started to talk about a certain topic, people do not agree on how they understand the key terms of the conversation. And so, one proves that God exists, and the other shouts that there is no God and cannot be. But since at the beginning of the dispute they did not define the term “God” itself, it is not entirely clear what they are actually arguing about. And then suddenly it turns out that by the term “god” one only meant His Majesty Nature, and the other, claiming that there is no God, meant that everything was created precisely by this very Nature. What were they arguing about? Why were they fighting? And the reason was simple sloppiness of thought. Therefore, we want to first explain what we mean by the two terms that make up the title of our article.

Leisure

in our understanding, there is free time remaining for a person after he has fulfilled the necessary duties. Such a responsibility could be a favorite or unloved job, caring for children or sick relatives, or something else. The only indispensable condition is that the duties cannot be avoided. But the time that a person can spend as he pleases is already leisure. Leisure can also be understood as an ACTIVITY performed by a person in his free time. According to Dahl, leisure is “free, unoccupied time, partying, walking time.” In the plural, “leisure is fun, recreational activities,” etc.

Hobby

- this is a person’s hobby, his favorite thing or one of his favorite things. Hobbies, unlike leisure, can extend to working time if you have achieved that you can earn a living from your hobby. For example, if you play in a musical ensemble, and play so successfully that the lion's share of your time is scheduled by the hour (tours, press conferences, studio work, photo sessions, etc.), then, on the one hand, this can call it your hobby, but, on the other hand, these are already responsibilities that you cannot ignore. Maybe this interpretation of the word hobby will seem free to some, but that’s why we reported OUR interpretation of this term in advance, so that further disputes would not arise due to misunderstandings.

From the Heart

Sometimes, in the modern bustle, we remember that we wanted to spend time with our loved ones closer to bedtime, when it’s problematic to plan a walk in chilly weather, we don’t have theater tickets purchased in advance, and we don’t even have the energy to play ball or some kind of board game with our children. There's almost no game left. But everything is completely transformed in our daily and weekly routine if adults and children have common hobbies , for which we usually always try to find at least a couple of hours a week. The importance of shared hobbies in the family:

• strengthening family ties, improving mutual understanding and reducing the number of conflict situations, creating more trusting relationships, family unity;
• development of curiosity, activity, creative imagination and abilities, broadening one’s horizons;
• increasing self-confidence, developing leadership qualities - the ability to navigate well in a certain area of ​​knowledge gives children the opportunity to share their achievements, which, in turn, increases self-esteem;
• separating children from the computer and various gadgets;
• communication with each other gives unique happy memories - family life takes on new colors.

Traditions of joint family hobbies include:

• collecting - continue a tradition of several generations or start a new one - rare books, boxes, stamps, coins, bells, dolls, candlesticks, etc.;
• genealogy – family albums, drawing up pedigrees, family coats of arms, etc.;
• viewing and discussion of films - by genre (fiction, documentary, historical, films about animals, art, etc.), by country of origin, directors, actors, etc.;
• sports and dancing - it is advisable to involve the whole family in weekly trips to the pool, running in the park, cycling, skiing, etc.
• hardening of the body - bath, sauna, winter swimming, etc.;
• studying of foreign language;
• reading - independent and joint, racing and role-playing. There are many options - the main thing is to start reading to children as early as possible (preferably during pregnancy) and do it systematically;
• creativity - painting, drawing, embroidery, weaving, knitting, wood carving, making Christmas tree decorations, design, literature, music, theater, photography, cinematography, design, etc.;
• Cooking is a wonderful way to combine business with pleasure, because at first there is always something that can be entrusted to a child without any special risks. Later, you can prepare your child for the fact that at a certain stage the family secrets of preparing some traditional dishes will be passed on to him, and then, finally, reveal these secrets one after another;
• games – board, outdoor, creative and psychological;
• travel to neighboring cities or other countries - impressions, adventures, funny memories and broadening your horizons;
• pilgrimage trips to holy places;
• hobbies related to the outside world - gardening, growing cacti, fishing, outdoor recreation, hiking, entomology, ornithology, archeology, astronomy, etc.;
• festivals for the reconstruction of historical events – visiting and participating, reading and watching videos on the topic.

To create a tradition of joint hobbies in the family, you need to either get the children interested in your favorite pastime, or adopt a hobby from the children themselves. Sometimes it’s much easier to instill in children an interest in their hobbies - just let them be near you at such moments, ask for some little help, tell them something interesting about your activity and let them feel that they can do something too on one's own. Get as much pleasure from your shared hobby as possible, because that’s what it’s all about, after all.

Author: Lisetskaya I.A. 09.10.2016, 13:14

Another warning

Advice on what a person can do in his free time used to be published in all kinds of calendars, and now they live in even greater numbers on the Internet. In your free time, you can play checkers and chess with your children, go on ski trips with the whole family, go hiking, sunbathe and swim, study Morse code, collect candy wrappers and apple cores, read books, write poetry, sing in chorus and even drink heavily, - there would be a desire. And all this is wonderful in its own way. But we have our own view on these things.

We want to speak not abstractly, not “in general” and “for everyone,” but to speak as objectively as possible, that is, about what we ourselves have encountered. What life has inclined us to.

If your life is somewhat similar to ours, you may find our conclusions interesting.

Home theater or theater studio

A creative hobby for two at home can be organized in two ways: training and direct creativity. Both develop and give a lot of emotions. For those wishing to study theater there is an acting school-studio. Tuition is generally inexpensive, class schedules accommodate the average adult's work schedule, and the program does not require any entry-level training. Perfect for couples, because groups are organized by age, parents and children are unlikely to be able to study in the same group, but husband and wife can do it.

A home theater is its own creative association, which includes only family members and their closest friends. Suitable for large families as productions require many actors. It is advisable that someone with a theater education run the home theater, but with pure enthusiasm you can get by without this.

Pros:

• creative work develops a person emotionally and intellectually;
• sublimation – the ability to get rid of accumulated negativity while being in a role, and not pouring it out on loved ones;
• high level of interaction between partners; in the theater everyone depends on each other.

Cons (in the case of home theater):

• requires a separate room for rehearsals and performances;
• involves organizational efforts and investments (equipment, costumes, makeup, scenery, etc.);
• requires a lot of time from all participants.

When interests are interesting

First of all, I would like to say that our life before we had children, and our life after the birth of children, are, to use Odessa’s words, “two big differences.”

Of course, we had to work in order to live on something. But we didn’t have any concepts regarding free time. There was a time when we rented cassettes with horror films at the video rental store, bought beer, chips, cigarettes in the store, and consuming (we are a “consumer” society, not a creative one) all these wonderful goods, thus received pleasure . It was interesting.

Then suddenly it became interesting to do aikido. Cigarettes, beer and horror films were put aside, money began to be spent on buying kimonos, samurai swords, and paying for training and seminars. It was a completely different culture and different leisure time. And he was also very good.

Then came hardening and vegetarianism, and in the future even a raw food diet began to appear. In our spare time, we read books on relevant topics, ran in the mornings, walked barefoot in the snow, sunbathed, starting in February, we improved our nutrition, breathing, movement and thinking. And it was exciting!

We had many similar (and not similar) hobbies. They came and went. Of course, not everything went away; some elements of former passions remained. And yet we did not have a clear concept of life, or at least a concept of our leisure time.

When we wanted to have a child, and even later, when we had a child (at first one), life began to change inexorably day by day. And since we are talking about leisure, we will not talk about how the new responsibilities associated with caring for children have affected our lives. It goes without saying! But we want to talk about (at least at first) how our leisure time has changed.

Family sports club

In the field of sports, the attractiveness of active recreation and hobbies for couples and large families has long been taken into account. Hobby-oriented family clubs exist almost everywhere today. In such a club you can practice your favorite sport together or play specific active games. Sports competitions can be held between families, during which the family becomes a team in the full sense of the word.

The couple can also play sports outside of clubs, for example, running together in the morning, riding bicycles or snowboarding.

Pros:

• health and good physical fitness;
• variety of options;
• doesn't take much time.

Minuses:

• none.

"First Joys"

Based on the experience of our friends, we can say with confidence that the appearance of children did not change many of them at all. Just as some Bambre drank heavily (although Bambre didn’t drink at all) before the birth of his son (daughter), so he maintained this “practice” even after the birth of his child (children). How he lied, swore and rowded, living alone, how he lay in a ditch, and continued to do the same in his leisure hours.

But for some reason our brains were unable to maintain this enviable constancy and began to give birth to thoughts that were previously unusual for us.

For example, dad smokes. But now he has a son. And dad knows that smoking speaks of a person’s weak will, his laxity and, partly (I don’t want to offend anyone), stupidity. Who wants to instill these qualities in a newly born son? That's right - no one. And certainly not for us. What's left to do? Well, first smoke in secret, and then quit smoking altogether.

Another example is music. Well, you're used to listening to, say, not very smart and not very beautiful songs. Not that they were the core of your music library, far from it, but, nevertheless, they were present. They sometimes polluted the surrounding space with the dregs of their sound waves. Do you want your child to be brought up on “thieves’” texts, on the texts of the “Civil Defense” group, or to grow up under the growl of “singers” of “deadly metal”? Yes, in fact, you wouldn’t wish this on your enemy—why would your son? And gradually you stop listening to the music that nurtures evil, aggressive, dirty, destructive thoughts and moods. No, it’s not that you forbid yourself from doing this, on the contrary, it little by little goes away BY ITSELF. You didn’t really take care of yourself, but you’re already THINKING about the child. For example, like this: “It’s not the son’s fault that his dad (mom) is a fool (stupid). He has the right to NORMAL development. Therefore, there is no need for more..."

Don't listen to THIS music anymore. No need to read SUCH books anymore. No more hanging THESE pictures on the walls. There is no need to show SUCH films.

Well, we haven’t had a TV for over 15 years. How people raise children with a TV in the house is a mystery to us. Now they can show on TV that it is more excusable (in our opinion) to take a child to a brothel. Well, if we don’t do the latter, then we won’t (especially) buy a TV.

With the birth of a child, the CULTURAL BACKGROUND of our lives has changed significantly. Of course, these changes also affected our leisure time.

How to choose a family hobby

For any person, family means loved ones, peace of mind after a hard day, support in difficult times, consolation, care. Any person coming home is immersed in an atmosphere of warmth and care that he so needs. Psychologists say that spending time with your family allows you to better unite, understand each other, and understand common problems. In the article I would like to note how to choose a family hobby so that each family member is happy.

So how can you find a hobby that will interest everyone? After all, adapting to each family member is not so easy. It is necessary to take into account the interests of everyone, not to offend anyone and to interest anyone at the same time. To choose a specific activity, you need to discuss with your family who wants to do what, discuss those activities. One of the members may speak out for this or that activity, for example, in the winter season, an ice skating rink would be an excellent option; this activity will significantly strengthen your family and lift everyone’s spirits. Ice skating is also good for health, strengthens the immune system and has a beneficial effect on the body. You can also choose another activity - tennis, football, cycling, skiing.

If you don't like sports or don't have enough time for them, you can look at other activities. For example, doing crafts. There are many shops specializing in hobby goods. There you can choose exactly what interests you. You can also spend time playing board games, which can be bought at the grenka.ua store. They are very interesting and the whole family plays them. In addition, children will develop thinking and logic, as well as other skills, it all depends on the chosen game.

Collecting is also an interesting activity. You can collect stamps, coins, gum wrappers, stickers, whatever your heart desires with your whole family. The main thing is that it is interesting for your whole family. Many people collect refrigerator magnets from places they have visited. Another interesting hobby came naturally - traveling. Traveling to different cities and countries, you will bring back a lot of impressions and photographs, as well as your favorite refrigerator magnets.

In addition, by riding around the world or country with your whole family, you will become closer mentally, get to know each other better and get to know the world around you. Don’t stop there, choose from everything you can and you will find a worthy and exciting adventure for each family member.

"More and more wonderful..."

When a child is one or two years old, even three, he can still be left to his own devices. He learns to walk, talk, play, explores the world and does this all the time. For him, everything is the first time, everything is all over again. He sees the change of seasons for the first time. Sees emerging, greening and falling leaves. Sees snow, feels frost. He touches the water of the river, plunges into it, learns to swim. Meets pets. Sees birds and listens to their singing. He has so much to do that the time he leaves for his parents for leisure, they can devote to anything they want. But then the child turns four years old, then five years old. He suddenly starts waking up in a bad mood and ruining everyone else's mood. What to do here? For us, the answer was obvious - to introduce compulsory morning exercises and hardening procedures into the child’s daily routine. This gives excellent results! But since you introduced exercise into your child’s daily routine, then you also introduced it into your daily regimen, right? Here's the first change.

But you also can’t get up whenever you want. If you lie in bed until lunch, then exercise will not help. This means you have to get up early in the morning. Let's say at 6 am. But if the child gets up at 6, then parents should get up at least at 5, right? But if you get up at 5, then you definitely shouldn’t go to bed at 1 am! And now we already have a clear STRUCTURE of our day. We get up early, do exercises, and toughen up. And in the evening we go to bed early.

But getting up early and then being a fool all day is pointless. So, you need to do some BUSINESS. And this thing should make sense, right?

I'm serious

What is the most important thing for a child? A game.

Why is he playing? And then, in the game he LEARNS, gains new knowledge and skills.

That is, we need to START TEACHING THE CHILD.

But what to teach? Reading and counting are clear. A letter, of course. And also - you need to give the child some kind of daily task that lasts from day to day. There are people who watch endless TV series every day. And their children watch animated series. We admit, we don’t see much sense in this. But in a WORK that will be done day by day, and in which the child will be able to IMPROVE, we see great benefit.

But what business should we take? But here everything depends on the skills and tastes of the parents themselves. One of us, for example, has a musical education and knows a little piano. So, we need to use this skill for the benefit of the family, right? And so, we put our five-year-old son at the piano and slowly, little by little, begin to make music with him. We teach simple pieces, scales, and exercises for finger development. Dad and son sit down at the piano together and play 4 hands. Firstly, the child thus acquires the skills of playing in an ensemble. Secondly, playing with someone is more interesting for him than playing alone, right?

Did you notice what happened? Parents' leisure time began to gradually CHANGE and change QUALITATIVELY. If earlier we could do in our free time something that did not benefit either ourselves or anyone else, now leisure has become MEANINGFUL. We began to use our free time for the benefit of our child.

Family Hobbies

Does your family have any hobbies? What it is?

I was wondering... what are my family's hobbies? I think it should be something unifying, I guess.

I think most families will say that we have a COMMON life, but we are talking about relaxation. And then it’s somehow embarrassing to talk, for example, about watching TV together, or what you like to read. You read DIFFERENT books, but even if the same ones, most likely at different times.

Oh, I get it, we both JUST love hiking. They are very good, both for physical well-being, and aesthetic (after all, we are not walking in a garbage dump)))))))))), and emotional - CONVERSATIONS, talking in such circumstances is very pleasant and productive.

No, well, of course, we do everything together, with the exception of work, but we are talking about HOBBIES, about what brings pleasure. What hobbies do your family share?

There is also a cool moment. We want to be together, but we want to do different things. For example, let him play on the computer, and tell me to watch TV. But this is all geographically in different places. And I know for sure that my husband will be more pleased if I, even if I don’t play with him, will know about this game) (understand its meaning), and preferably be in the same room so that I can hear his comments)).

We also love to eat deliciously and beautifully, we love to try new dishes and cook them together. But with no less pleasure we can go to some nice place to eat and enjoy ourselves.

And secretly, on weekends, we love to dance, depending on the mood, to our husband’s favorite music. We are far from professionals, and we do this solely out of love for each other, for the pleasures of our souls.

During the theater season, both enjoy going to good performances together. We don’t really go to the cinema, only if something hits our head. For the husband, this is a waste of money. If it's not 3D, you can watch everything else at home)).

Oh, and one more question, what hobbies did you steal from your spouse?

(by the way, my husband has such a canvas with icons. In general, it seems that he is inclined to collect. But together, by and large, we have not yet engaged in any such hoarding)

For example, I didn’t like music at all, which is his favorite. Moreover, I had a certain position in relation to this direction, honestly from poor knowledge. And negative attitude in society. Now, I listen to it with pleasure, even when I am not in his company.

That concerns our professional areas. We tell each other about what is happening, but we do not give a “course” in specialties)). If I come across information related to his specialty, and vice versa, then of course we share and discuss it! For me, the most important conclusion is that even if you do not have common interests at all, in the end, we are talking about a Man and a Woman, two different psychological types, but what is much more important are common views on life, on raising your common child, or relationship to everyday life.

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I stole all the pictures from the Internet, sorry if the photos :)

Where do beginnings lead?

Time passes, the number of his son’s activities increases, and the parents’ leisure time becomes completely different than before. Since we are teaching our son music, we need to find good notes, we need to look for books about composers, we need to get and print out portraits of composers somewhere, so that our son can at least outwardly distinguish Bach from Mozart. You need to download good academic music suitable for children and teach your son to listen to it. You should watch concerts, ballets, and listen to opera on the Internet with him.

We have now given just ONE hobby as an example, but how soon it changed us! And we couldn’t stop with ONLY THIS - and WENT FURTHER.

We began to teach our son to read from the Primer. They began to learn poetry with him. We started doing arithmetic. We began to get acquainted with geography. This required reorganizing all of our free time.

Could our new pastime be called duties? Probably not, since no one forced us to do this, and since most parents, alas, do not do this. It became our LEISURE. But at the same time, it was a special kind of leisure. It is precisely SUCH leisure rights that we now want to defend.

Something about samurai

Actually, Japanese samurai also talked about this. They advised you to do not just anything in your free time, but something that helps you improve in your main business. That is, if you are a samurai, then it makes no sense for you to spend your free time sowing rice. (By the way, farming was considered a disgrace for samurai, even if they had to live from hand to mouth). It is better to improve in sword fighting, hand-to-hand combat, meditation and the like.

Smart approach!

So we wouldn’t want to lag behind the samurai who lived hundreds of years ago.

It seems natural to us that NORMAL people MANAGE their lives, build it in accordance with certain knowledge, beliefs, ethical and aesthetic preferences, spiritual inclinations, existing desires and talents. And it would be even more reasonable to plan your leisure time in accordance with your main activity. For example, if you are an actor, then you should probably re-read Stanislavsky’s eight-volume work in your free time from your main job, watch interesting and objectively significant productions from different years (recorded, for example), and also hone your acting skills. If you are a music teacher, then it probably makes sense for you to buy or get various musical instruments somewhere and play them, listen to versions of your favorite musical works, re-read Mozart’s letters at night, etc. and so on.

It seems to us that this approach to organizing your leisure time is very productive. If your leisure time is a continuation of your main business, then you can achieve high results in your work. Well, besides, doing what you love as much as possible is always great.

But with us it’s the other way around!

It turned out differently for us. On the contrary, we saw that we enjoyed doing things with our children. Teach them, go hiking with them, play, be creative. And we, on the contrary, put aside all other matters, giving ourselves over to our “hobby”. Here the word “leisure” becomes inappropriate, since, having discarded all other work, we have freed up all the time for what we love. The word “hobby” is much more suitable here. And in the future, maybe we will be able to turn this hobby into a new profession.

Now Russia has a very good social program. For example, a three-year leave to care for a child allows us to devote at least three years of our lives directly to working with a child. For the birth of a second child, the state already provides maternity capital, which also allows for the development of the child - teaching him (for example) to play the piano, taking him to museums, theaters, philharmonic societies, buying him books, textbooks, a globe, a microscope, etc. By the way, the birth of a second child allows you to extend your parental leave for another three years, which will allow you to continue the education of your children, as well as engage in self-education.

The birth of several children will allow you to work with a group of children. You will be able to reveal your educational and organizational abilities. You can “open a family school.” Why not? According to current Russian laws, this is possible if at least one of the parents has a higher education. I think a parent with a higher education can give their children a school education. (Moreover, school curricula in all subjects, any textbooks and teaching aids can be obtained). This will no longer be just a useful way to spend leisure time, not just a hobby, but also a lifelong endeavor that can benefit other people who have similar hobbies.

Active games with friends

For example, the popular “Mafia”, which is played by everyone: from young to old. This is a reason to get together in a noisy group, chat, and recharge yourself with positivity. Games of this type also develop attentiveness, logical thinking and the ability to interact in a team. Pairs well with outings, barbecues, etc.

Pros:

• simple and affordable, does not require any additional equipment or costs;
• a lot of communication.

Minuses:

• none.

Keep in mind that whoever knocks can open the door!

As you can see, we have led the reader from the idea of ​​a boring collection of candy wrappers or matchboxes to an inspired and promising activity. This is not just a dream of a better future - it is the daily creation of such a future.

In the Soviet Union there were many innovators who used their free time for rationalization and inventive work. The Nikitin family, involved in the hardening, training and early development of their children. The Skripalev family, which created and patented a “home stadium” that fit on several square (more precisely, cubic) meters of an ordinary “Khrushchev” building. There were people who created their own cars, motorcycles and self-propelled guns. My father, let’s say, was a turner and car enthusiast, and he himself made a motorcycle sidecar for his Java. I didn’t repair it, I didn’t modernize it, but I did it from start to finish.

From time to time they wrote about such people in newspapers and magazines, showed them on television, and organized meetings with them in Houses of Culture. I think there is a lot to learn from these people. There is much more freedom for SUCH activities now than in Soviet times. It is not difficult to get the textbooks, books, and manuals you need - they can be downloaded for free on the Internet. Finding like-minded people (on the Internet), watching educational videos, getting advice, doing something together - all this now gives much greater opportunities than the Soviet people had.

Maybe not everyone sees their own prospects? But these prospects exist!

And in this small article we tried to reveal some of them to you.