How to please a man in bed? Women's secrets in bed

How to please a man in bed for the first time

Before the meeting, you need to calm down and not be nervous. Go to the store, buy beautiful underwear. Try it on. You look great! Remember this well.

Many ladies are too picky about their appearance, so they experience not only anxiety, but also insecurity about their beauty. But in vain. After all, if a man wants to spend the night with you, it means he doesn’t care about the shortcomings of your figure.

Flirting before the first intimacy is a mandatory attribute of a relationship. At this moment, both partners dream of uniting into a single whole. At this stage, various spicy SMS are good. Plus, if this is some kind of cat and mouse game, the outcome of which is clear to both the guy and the girl.

You can tease and provoke your significant other through correspondence or in conversation. But do not overdo it, otherwise the man may become too worried (and this happens).

Sexual preferences depending on age

Sexual preferences often change with age. Let's figure out what young guys and older men want from sex:

1. In their 20s, guys often put their sexual appetite first. Even if a young man swears fidelity to his beloved, he may soon forget about it. For guys, new girls are like uncharted spots on the globe. They definitely need to be conquered and explored.
2. At the age of 25-30, men begin to perceive representatives of the opposite sex not only as sex objects, but also as individuals. There is a reassessment of life values, which is not always painless. Sex ceases to be the most important thing in life; its psychological and emotional components come to the fore. As a rule, at this age men begin to desire to find a permanent partner and start a family.
3. At 35-40 years old, boredom and despondency come into intimate relationships. A man begins to consider his companion simply as a loved one, for whom there is no point in fighting. During this period, representatives of the stronger sex often look for love on the side or begin to demand experiments from their spouse.
4. At the ages of 45 to 55, men begin to worry about sex, wondering how long “male power” will stay with them. At this age, you still want intimacy, but your physical capabilities are no longer the same as in your youth. The companion nearby should be understanding and faithful.

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After 55 years, men become more sensitive and attentive to the interests of their chosen one. It's as if they are trying to atone for their bad behavior in the past. Often at this age men begin to fear death, which is why young beauties are so attractive to them.

How can you surprise a man in bed?

Once you find yourself in bed with a man, you need to adhere to 5 rules, if, of course, you want to continue the relationship.

What a man likes in a woman in moments of intimacy:

• Confidence. You must radiate it. Nobody likes people with complexes. Don't be shy about your nakedness. For a man now you are irresistible.
• Interest. Nobody wants to end up in bed with the “snow queen.” Show that you enjoy the process through stroking, kissing and caressing.
• Temperament. She is capable of turning on any guy like crazy. Men love (almost all) when the initiative in bed comes from a girl. Throw him on the pillows, kiss him passionately, rip his shirt. Although no, it’s better not to do the last point. You never know. This might be his favorite shirt. Or the only one.
• Caring. No, you don’t need to drag a pot of borscht to bed for your lover. But you must strive to please your partner. Inexperienced girls can simply ask questions during sex. Of course, there is no need to step over yourself and do things that contradict your principles. But it is necessary to try to please a man.
• Emotionality.

Men love to talk during sex. No, not about your new blouse or shoes.

But such thrown phrases as:

• “I want you so much” (during foreplay)
• or “so good”

have a stimulating effect.

Light moaning and screaming will also work. It's just not worth replaying. So, the sounds made indicate that you like everything. Silent partners confuse a man. Does she enjoy the process? Unclear. So feel free to talk about your feelings to your partner. Just don’t overdo it again, too much chatter will get in the way.

Change your style

How a man behaves in bed directly depends on the woman. Many representatives of the stronger sex do not fully reveal their sexual potential, which is why it seems that coitus with such a partner is bland and uninteresting.

But let's look at this situation differently: most girls are embarrassed about their appearance, but categorically refuse to work on their figure and style. Instead of purchasing beautiful lingerie, in which to feel more comfortable, a woman chooses household items, the purchase of which can be postponed for several weeks in advance. When the issue concerns sexual well-being in the family, there is no point in saving.

Answering the question, what men like in bed is beautiful lingerie, erotic stockings and garters, and a bold choice of high-heeled shoes. And no matter how old you are, it’s time to throw out your old grandma’s pantaloons and leggings, appreciate your figure and choose things that will highlight the most feminine forms. Your man will definitely like this!

Writer Gabriel García Márquez, in his book One Hundred Years of Solitude, described the image of a girl who was raised as if she would become a queen. This girl was so conservative that she came out to her husband a few weeks after their wedding night in a huge nightgown that covered her body from head to toe, and only a small hole near the bosom distinguished this clothing from the standard ones. Believe me, no man will like this look.

What to do in bed to make a man like it

Many people try so hard to please their man in bed that they start doing things they have never done before. For example, everyone knows that men love oral sex. However, if you have no experience, caressing with your hands will be enough. With inept movements you are more likely to scare him away. He will think that this is how you always act, and you can forget about the next date.

I'm not saying that without experience, oral sex should not be practiced at all. But it’s better not to experiment with sex with a new partner.

As one wise lady I know said, first you need to skate the mandatory program. And only then start improvising.

Fussiness and sex are incompatible. Don't try to immediately put on your clothes and hide in the bathroom. After intimacy, a man wants to enjoy the moment, lie in the arms of his beloved woman.

Affection is the most important thing in intimacy. Even with no experience, you will cope with the task. A man likes it when his partner strokes his hair and goes down to his back and buttocks. Since guys are very sensitive to their dignity, you need to pay attention to it too. Many are crazy about light biting and licking of the earlobes, or kissing behind the ear.

Change positions during sex (take the initiative in this too) . There are many more options besides missionary!
Almost all men love it when a girl is on top. They also don’t mind lying down and having fun. However, don’t you like to be in control of the situation?

What positions do guys like?

In the process of evolution, so many sex positions have been invented that it is probably impossible to try them all in a lifetime. This or that position is a matter of taste and physiology. But most guys still have the same opinion. What sex positions do men like most:

1. The guy in the back. With this position, you can completely surrender to animal passion. The woman seems to be subjugated, and the man moves the way he wants. The guy gets to see in a favorable light one of the most appetizing parts of the female body and easy access to the breasts and intimate areas.
2. Woman on Top. Here all the delights that can be carefully examined and touched are revealed to the male gaze. Although the lady controls the process, the guy finally relaxes and receives aesthetic pleasure. Don’t be lazy about pampering your partner in this way and don’t be shy in any way.
3. Standing. All men want to play alpha male from time to time and master their lady in all sorts of unexpected places. For example, in the hallway, kitchen, bathroom. The “standing” pose is just right for such moments.

These positions in bed, which men like most, are statistically used frequently. But in reality, they can also get boring, so try to add variety to your sex life and look for new options for positions for carnal pleasures. Make sure that it’s good not only for your partner, but also for you. Then making love will bring equal joy to all participants in the voluptuous process.

Comments:

• 18.10.2017

  Kate:

  A very useful article that reveals many aspects that a woman needs to do. Personally, in order to please my man, I can first bring him almost to hysterics until he starts banging his fists on the wall, and then I play the role of sweet and caring. Then he gave me such passion... I like this method very much, because I first get moral pleasure when I achieve it, and then physical pleasure. And he doesn't complain.

• 19.10.2017

  Olesya:

  There were certain problems with this, but I managed to solve them with your help. Thank you so much, I finally started to enjoy myself and my man is happy.

• 23.10.2017

  Mila:

  I also really liked it, everything was written correctly and in a rather funny way. And when I read about borscht in bed, I thought I would burst with laughter when I imagined this picture. And I would add that even if a lady has experience in bed, she should not show it in its full beauty right away. Since a young man may think that before him you had more than a dozen partners.

• 25.10.2017

  Lisa:

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  I remember being so nervous before the first time with my husband, since it was my first time. I read a bunch of “what and why” articles, stressed myself out, and in the end I couldn’t relax. I really regret that then I didn’t come across the same article, which was pleasant to read and there was something to learn for myself here. Thank you.

• 06.11.2017

  Rita:

  I can say one thing, so as not to scare off the guy, you shouldn’t go to bed with him right away and you shouldn’t be an eternally unapproachable maiden either. Well, if you do end up together, you shouldn’t control him during caresses, you need to slightly push and guide him, otherwise he might think that you have experience with a carriage and a small cart. Well, yes, you definitely shouldn’t scratch your back, otherwise you won’t want to do it a second time))).

  06.11.2017

  Yuri:

  It may be slightly scratched. Some men (I won’t modestly point fingers at myself) like this.

• 02.12.2017

  Irina:

  I agree with you, you will immediately lie down and think that you are flighty. You need to go quietly and not show all the little things in bed at once. Then he himself will want to guide you, because he is a man. And you can scratch your back a little and meow, this really turns them on.

What do men expect from intimacy with a woman?

Sex for men is the most important area of ​​life. An important role in choosing a partner for them is how good she is in bed. If partners are sexually incompatible or they fail to achieve sexual harmony, their relationship will suffer. Girls can take the initiative into their own hands and learn techniques that men love:

1. Emotionality. If a girl is cold during intimacy, the guy in bed does not understand whether she feels good with him. It’s another matter if she moans and whispers her whims and words of approval in his ear. This will help your partner become more relaxed.
2. Initiative. Guys love it when their lovers do not wait for the first step, but initiate intimacy with frank caresses, kisses, and gentle touches.
3. Diversity. Intimacy in the same environment can become boring, and thoughts about it gradually cease to cause pleasant excitement. A partner can bring newness to an intimate relationship. To do this, you need to show that she is ready for experiments.
4. Active position. You can't surprise a man if you lie still most of the time. But if a girl often takes an active position and behaves energetically, then she has a chance to completely subjugate her boyfriend to herself.
5. Taking his wishes into account. A girl needs to ask her partner what pleases him and what he would like. Don’t torment yourself with guesses - find out about your loved one’s fantasies and “weak points” in order to easily bring him to orgasm.

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Don't be led if your partner suggests things in sex that are unpleasant to you. Both of you should enjoy and be satisfied with the process. If the chosen one thinks only about his desires in bed, and he doesn’t care about yours, it’s better to break up with such a person. It's not just what men want that matters.

Bed is not just sex

To understand what girls like in sex, you need to realize that not only the sexual act itself is important to a woman, but also what happened before and after it. It is important to her with whom she is intimate, she wants to feel desired, to see that you are going crazy, and not worrying about not making mistakes and not messing up. The quality of sex for a girl is influenced by several components:

1. Foreplay can be long, short, in the form of foreplay or emotional intensity, but it must be. At the same time, there is no point in wasting time on caresses if she is already excited. Remove frames from your head and schemes like “candles, champagne, kisses, tender words, caresses, sex.” Sometimes girls want it to be like in the movies, but naturalness and spontaneity are even more captivating.
2. The time after intimacy does not have to be accompanied by conversations, and you shouldn’t immediately run to the shower. Spend a few minutes caressing, hugging, kissing - depending on her desires. After intimacy, sensitivity is heightened and the girl needs time to recover. The pleasure begins before sex itself and doesn't end after you've come.
3. Discussion of sex life and preferences. This requires time and trust: the moment will come and she will definitely tell you about her fantasies. But for this, the girl must be sure that you will not judge her.