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Groundless outbursts or real reasons? What to do with jealousy
Perhaps every woman at least once wanted to know some universal - and, of course, very simple - secrets on how to win the heart of any man. The right clothes, the right words, poses at the right moment - all this, it seems, should attract and help us find “true love.” But the famous American Marie Forleo, a professional consultant and journalist, has a different opinion. Being seductive is not a matter of a couple of momentary tricks, but a whole art, the ability to behave like a “goddess” and feel the same, Forleo believes. She wrote about how to achieve this in her bestseller “You are a goddess! How to drive men crazy ,” which was finally translated into Russian and published by Eksmo publishing house. We are publishing an excerpt from the book dedicated to typical female mistakes that scare men away. So here they are:
Pathetic behavior
…Here are classic examples of pathetic behavior that should be avoided:
• When you tell a man that you need him to be happy.
• When you keep repeating “I missed you.”
• When you compulsively check your email or voicemail.
• Intrusive emails and calls (especially to make sure “everything is okay with him”).
• Power demands to know where he is and what he is doing 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
• Quiet - and not so - attacks of anger when he does not devote his attention to you.
• A constant, insatiable desire to hear that he likes your appearance and that he approves of your actions.
...Your feeling of inferiority, causing pity, puts exorbitant and absolutely unnecessary pressure on a man. He will constantly feel that he must fulfill his role for you, be perfect and/or live up to your ideal image of himself... otherwise... If he makes a "mistake", he will not only have to deal with the consequences - he, on top of everything else, will will also be responsible for your happiness.
Also, if you have the false idea that you need him to be happy, you are stripped of all your power. Your well-being will always be at the mercy of another person. You make yourself powerless, and a powerless woman, my dear, can be anything but irresistible.
The beginning of a new novel. How not to scare a man away?
Long-awaited meeting. Eye to eye - and the spark that flashed between you begins to flare up into a hot fire of a relationship. Women tend to try on the role of a husband for each admirer, with whom they can “live happily ever after and die on the same day.” But men are built a little differently. For most of them, every girl is a new and interesting adventure, which does not necessarily have to end with Mendelssohn's march. This is where the main conflict manifests itself: a woman wants stability and confidence in the future, but a man is drawn to try everything new and unattainable.
That is why at the dawn of a budding relationship, even if you have already decided for yourself how many children you will have and what university they will graduate from, you should not do certain things. They can scare off a man, and instead of a noisy wedding, you will get another lonely evening under a soft blanket. Let's name the main taboos at first meetings. Although it would be correct to adhere to them in later life, even when you are ringed.
So, here is a list of the main DON’Ts:
• Don't show your superiority
Let's say that you are really very beautiful, educated, wealthy and a jack of all trades. Yes, he was very lucky, but only you should know about it. You shouldn’t remind yourself of your uniqueness at every step, otherwise your chosen one will very quickly develop an inferiority complex. He will prefer to disappear from your horizon unnoticed, otherwise what if you also have the detective skills of a detective?
• Don't make your plans public.
You shouldn’t tell your young man about your far-reaching plans during the first date. It is quite possible that he has not yet had time to realize all the happiness that has befallen him. Men prefer to make all the main decisions in their lives on their own (or so they prefer to think). There is no need to disappoint them with this. The same advice applies to your immediate family. If your parents begin to treat your boyfriend like a potential son-in-law when they meet, most likely he will not become a real son-in-law.
• Don't mention exes.
Many people tend to constantly compare current and past fans. Avoid doing this, especially out loud. It is undesirable to even use his (her) name. Your current chosen one does not necessarily need to know about how you spent your time in the past. Likewise, you should not ask about his ex. If he wants, he will tell you himself, but this will obviously not be during the courtship period. By the way, if a guy is “verbally incontinent” about his ex-lover, think about continuing the relationship. After all, where is the guarantee that after a while they won’t talk about you in the same way?
• Don't be intrusive
A man is used to achieving everything, including the woman he loves. Therefore, if his phone does not cool down from your calls and SMS messages, the initiative for meetings and all subsequent steps in the relationship comes from you - most likely he will go in search of a girl who will not strain and force events so much. He will want to show his self-sufficiency and ability to decide something. The excess of feelings that you spew at him may not attract him as you would like, but on the contrary, scare away a potential partner.
• Don't generalize
Until you start a family, no matter how much you want it and no matter what feelings you burn, your couple is ME and YOU. The transformation into WE occurs a little later. Therefore, when communicating alone, and especially in public, avoid speaking for two. You are independent, and a man greatly values this independence and freedom. He needs time to rethink everything and voluntarily abandon them. As they say, everything will happen, but “there is no need to rush.”
Endless uncertainty
“Doesn’t it make me look fat?” "Do you still love me?" “You probably think she’s prettier than me?” “Am I attractive enough for you?” Endless uncertainty infuriates men and feeds the illusion of your self that you are full of flaws and somehow worse than others. Your insecurities are a bottomless pit that cannot be filled, no matter how much reassurance you receive to the contrary. This happens because the idea that you are somehow worse than others is false. It's an illusion. The illusion cannot be corrected, because it is initially unreal, unreal.
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You can learn not to feed your insecurities, and it is absolutely necessary to do so if you want to be irresistible. Either you invest energy in uncertainty or irresistibility. I suggest the second option.
Here's a hint. If you think you look fat in a certain outfit, you probably do. I know it's harsh, but that's the reality. Not every type of clothing is suitable for every body type. Wear clothes that look amazing on you and flatter your figure. Go through your wardrobe with a trusted friend and tweak it so that clothes that make you wonder if you look fat are eliminated from your list of options.
Here's another important note. No matter how slim, successful and attractive you become, insecurity will not go away. Because an internal false thought cannot be corrected by external reality. The only way to get rid of insecurity is to allow yourself to feel it when you actually feel it (in other words, don't resist it). But you can’t dwell on this feeling. Shift your attention to what is happening around you. For example, listen carefully to your interlocutor or simply tidy up your desk. Where you place your attention is where energy flows. You will simply notice insecurities without taking them to heart or giving them importance, you will find that they will appear much less often. You will also strengthen your ability to be present in the here and now, to give yourself fully to life, which is the key to unleashing your true irresistibility. ...
Your shortcomings
What man is capable of serious, mature feelings? A man with a mature attitude. This is the one who understands that you are a real woman with your own “baggage” of habits and life experience, and not a fairy who farts sunbeams and eats unicorn meat. He won’t jump out the window if he finds you without makeup in the morning, sees dust in the upper left corner of the apartment, or hears you say “ringing” instead of “ringing.” Even through the rose-colored glasses of love, your man sees the whole of you, and not just the person you want to appear to be. He sees and most importantly accepts you. And he appreciates you for your authenticity, and not because you have a six-pack 366 days a year or a waist-length brown braid.
Another important point is that he doesn’t try to mold you to suit himself, doesn’t poke you at your shortcomings and doesn’t roll his eyes when you once again lose your keys/call your friend/overcook your eggs.
Of course, there are many factors, and I don’t see your situation specifically, but one thing I can say for sure - true love, affection, it’s not about sweeping gestures to the public or bouquets of 100,500 roses (although this is also nice), but it’s that spiritual harmony and the calmness you feel next to your loved one. When you understand that for him you are not one of them, but unique, the only one, interesting, desirable. That next to him you can be yourself, be real, laugh, be sad, be surprised, and not be afraid of seeming stupid or funny.
What I told you will be useful as a basis for understanding a man’s feelings for you. Then it’s up to your intuition, and in women it is very developed. If you feel that a man appreciates you in any mood, regardless of the size of the dress or the amount on the card and supports you, as they say, in both sorrow and joy - most likely this is her. Love.
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Inability to communicate
Women often make communication mistakes that undermine their irresistibility and cause men to run away before you can say, “Marriage, children!”
First, most women don't really listen. We decide whether we like what a man says, whether we agree with his words or not, determine whether we knew this before. We also listen to understand whether what we hear fits into our plans (such as, for example, getting a boyfriend, getting married, having children). This is not real listening.
…When you really listen, you become instantly attractive. By truly listening to a man, you make him feel special and interested in you in a very powerful way. If you have a genuine attraction for each other, he will open up to you more and more. After all, you are so sensitive and understand so subtly who he really is (and not who you are trying to make him). I can't tell you how important this is. If you really want to drive men crazy, become a master listener.
The second communication mistake is when women talk about other men in a manner that arouses jealousy or insecurity in their current partner. Ex-boyfriends, husbands, other people you're dating, your wonderful male friends—these are all dangerous and uncomfortable topics if you're not tactful enough when broaching them. Tip: If you doubt your abilities, leave other men outside of your relationship. You should not describe the details of your romantic and sexual history, just as you should not praise other men in order to provoke your partner into competition. Pictures and stories of the past will haunt him and create a karmic circle of jealousy-based games with which you will wear each other down.
Third, many women feel the need to talk during or after sex, believing that this is the perfect moment to get him to reveal his true feelings. No, no and NO! You shouldn't put pressure on a man to open up to you during or after sex, especially during the dating stage. The side effects of this pressure are dissatisfaction, alienation and, at times, extreme confusion.
Here's the thing: sex is an incredible opportunity to just let yourself go and be passionate, thirsty, and free. There is no need to try to achieve anything through sex or reach a new level in a relationship. Making love means freeing yourself, discovering new things and giving pleasure to yourself and your loved one...
How not to scare a man away: three main tips for strong women
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Remember how Alla Pugacheva’s song says: “A strong woman is crying at the window...”
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Do you think this song is partly about you? Are you one of those women who have everything covered in all areas of their life, except love and close relationships with the opposite sex
?
Men have always liked you, but they rarely dare to get to know you? All the men you met did not always feel at ease while in a relationship with you, and subsequently disappeared altogether, stopping calling and meeting? Congratulations, you are truly a strong woman!
Your intelligence and your ambitions have probably helped you climb to the top of your career, but sometimes it seems that these are the very qualities that scare men away from you.
In fact, success and independence are the qualities that attract a man to a woman. Despite the common misconception, men are not intimidated by smart women
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However, men may be scared away from such women by their policy of communicating with the stronger sex. You may be unlucky in love not at all because you are too smart, but because you are used to solving all issues too energetically and solving them yourself. We bring to your attention three lines of behavior of a strong woman that you should not adhere to
, at least at the very beginning of meeting a man, unless, of course, you want to lose him.
You deprive a man of the opportunity to express his masculine power by trying to take control of him.
One way for a strong and smart woman not to lose a man's interest is to try to look weaker than she really is, so as not to scare him off right away. Such a woman moderates her strength and energy
, tries not to demonstrate her success and her remarkable abilities, since she is obviously sure that this man is not her competitor, which means that she needs to give him an artificial opportunity (if you want, a head start!) to look more successful with you, that is, sometimes, better than he really is.
But this is not always the case!
If you are a successful woman, enjoy your best qualities.
Do your best to succeed at work, be tough and unwavering, take control of all the issues that you can solve and solve them. But if you are on a date with a man - no matter at home or in a company - do not even try to manage him. There is no need to pretend to be weak and defenseless.
After all, that is what you essentially are, since you are a woman. Just stop hiding your femininity when dating a man behind a mask of success and efficiency.
Not every smart woman knows that by adhering to a different line of behavior, she pushes a man away from her, without knowing it. For example, he tells you about some of his problems, and you immediately try to grab the bull by the horns and give advice
, like:
“You should act in this situation in such and such a way...”
, or
“If I were you, I would do such and such...”
.
By doing this, you immediately let the man know that you are trying to take control of him, as if you were his mother and he was your child. At the same time, the man does not feel the best
, since he wants respect and adoration, not guardianship.
It is unlikely that many men will agree to a relationship with a woman who is constantly trying to look after him like a small child, essentially taking on the role of a man. When you demonstrate that you are used to being in control of everything, and have your own point of view on absolutely everything - even on what he should do in a given situation
- you are demonstrating the most real masculine energy.
You may be a sensible woman who is active and takes responsibility at work, but in a romantic relationship you need to demonstrate your sensuality
, defenselessness, perhaps even vulnerability, and other feminine qualities.
This line of behavior gives a man the opportunity not only to be called a man, but also to feel like one. You should not use peremptory phrases
;
It’s better to say something like: “It would be so great if you agreed to such and such...”
, or
“I wouldn’t refuse if you did such and such...”
and so on.
A simple example is that you are invited to spend a weekend outdoors. There is no need to immediately demonstrate your efficiency and say something like: “Well, I’ve just sorted out all my work issues and can afford to rest
.
Why not say, for example, the following: “
I’ll happily spend time in the clean air , I’m so tired of sitting in a stuffy apartment for the weekend!”
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And it doesn’t matter at all if you have a spacious and bright penthouse! You always try to immediately take control of your relationship with a man.
To be a woman in your personal life means to control only yourself, and to give a man the opportunity to control your relationship. This may not sound entirely like a modern woman.
But try to look at this issue from a different angle: love is not an opportunity to show leadership qualities.
If something in your love has gone wrong, trying to take complete control over a man in order to restore the relationship is more likely to destroy it than help get the man back. Leave your management skills for work and career
, not for relationships with a man.
You have something to control other than a man - your money, your work, your time, and so on. Men are not the case! You cannot twist him and his desires as you please, adjusting his opinion to yours. Also, you will not be able to impose your obligations on him
, building relationships only in the way in which you yourself see them. Therefore, stop constantly telling your man how he should live, work, dress, and the like.
In general, you should rely more on emotions in love than on your practicality. Let your man bathe in love and emotions, be open to it. After all, not only your managerial qualities, but also your emotions are part of you. Moreover, the most attractive part, from the point of view of men.
Your feelings and emotions are what make you irresistible and attract the attention of members of the opposite sex to your person, especially if you try to say what you think, and not what your entrepreneurial spirit tells you.
In other words, if on your next date you have a desire to lead a man in order to immediately dot the i’s, have the strength to stop in time. Listen to your heart and find there what you can share with your partner.
Learn to surprise and attract a man if you really want to see him next to you.
You take on too many responsibilities.
As a rule, an intelligent, independent and strong woman always knows what and how she needs to do in a given situation. Moreover, she is sure that she will do it better than a man.
There is some truth in this - after all, sometimes it is easier to do something yourself than to wait for a man to do it.
In addition, a strong and business woman does not have time to wait - she herself will get tickets to the theater or cinema, arrange a table in a restaurant herself, and make plans for the weekend herself. It seems that by acting this way, you leave yourself no chance of being disappointed in your man
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Who knows, if he tried to do everything himself, he would have done it better than you? In fact, a woman who takes the initiative into her own hands simply leaves the man no other choice. He can only fold his hands and wait for the next action from you. The maximum that such a woman is capable of is to give a few clear instructions to the man
- what needs to be done, how and when. To recover from this “managerial” view of your relationship, learn to be surprised by the surprises that a man is trying to organize for you.
The next time you have the urge to plan an evening for two, a day off or a vacation on your own, stop and give your man the opportunity to do it himself. Believe me, he will do just as well as you.
Perhaps it will not be what you expected, but who said that everything should be exactly the way you want it?
Give your man the opportunity to independently choose the future path your relationship should take. If you really fundamentally do not like the direction in which your relationship is moving, you will always have time to express your point of view by intervening in the course of events
.
As a last resort, you always have the opportunity to leave if everything is always not at all as it should be! In general, it is quite difficult for a strong woman to accept such a point of view, since she subconsciously tries to control any situation. However, then she can only wonder and look for answers, why did she break up with yet another man? That is why the main advice that can be given to a strong woman is this:
remain a strong woman at work, but just be a woman in your personal life and relationships!
Sloppy and unkempt appearance
…So many beautiful women push themselves and then wonder why they can’t attract a man. If you've gained weight, stopped caring for yourself, or think a workout suit is your best outfit, it's time to look at what's really going on. The way you look affects how you feel. And if you look homely, then most likely you don’t feel so great, and men pick up on this feeling of yours. When relationships are such that women become too comfortable, they often stop trying to look attractive. Some men may remain attracted to you for a short time (especially if they don't take care of themselves in the same way), but for many, such neglect can trigger a withdrawal reaction. And when you become a couple, it's very easy to relax. Do not do this under any circumstances. The same applies to personal hygiene (teeth, breathing and... yes, there too). And while sweaty sex after the gym can be passionate and fantastic, irresistible women make sure to always be clean and fresh. ...
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The first date is an exciting moment for both participants. Men are afraid that the girl will not like them, and women are afraid that they will not be able to conquer the gentleman with their charm. At the same time, if men behave more or less calmly and confidently on the first date, then the woman faces many questions: How to look? What to talk about? How to hold on? What is permissible and what is not? How not to scare a man away?
Without knowing the unspoken rules of first dates, women very often make a lot of mistakes, thereby scaring off a man forever. After all, we are all familiar with the expression that the first impression is the strongest. And it is deposited in the subconscious for a long time.
So, how to spend a first date without scaring off a man? How to behave so that a man wants to meet you and becomes interested not only in a beautiful picture, but also in an interesting personality?
In this article we will talk about the details of behavior on the first date.
Be calm and relaxed
First of all, this rule says - do not expect much from a man and from a date with him, discard passionate desires! Surely, already on the first date, provided that you like the man, you will want to conquer him, and then enslave him. Never make this unforgivable mistake. First of all, this mistake will hurt your pride in the future. Remember that no matter how well the date goes, and no matter how good the man seems to you, the meeting with him may always be your last. Instead, just get ready to spend a pleasant evening with a young man, chat, exchange pleasantries and mood. If you don't expect anything from your next relationship, don't worry about whether you're doing everything right, the man himself will feel better about your company. Men easily read our excitement and interpret it not in our favor. Be light and natural. You shouldn’t be either too confident in yourself or unsure, worrying about every word and movement you say.
A tough and angry outlook on life
...A hard and bitter outlook on life is caused by suppressed anger. We were taught that anger is bad, a real lady should not show it. We do not allow ourselves to feel anger and, therefore, we get used to suppressing this feeling in the hope that it will go away or at least not be noticeable to others. The problem is that being depressed doesn't go away. In fact, trying not to feel something is a form of resistance, and because what YOU resist remains and accumulates power. It is not surprising that suppressed anger results in a rigid and embittered outlook on life.
Luckily, you won't need years of therapy and anger management courses to get rid of it. Just allow yourself to feel anger when it arises. Feel this emotion. Note. Allow the anger to just be inside you. and she will leave. If you've been suppressing it for a while, you may feel inappropriately angry the first time you try to simply feel the emotion. For example, if your boyfriend leaves the towel on the floor again and you allow yourself to feel your emotions, you may find yourself with a strong desire to explode and cause a serious scandal. Should not be doing that. Most likely, there is an old anger in you (very old; lurking since when you were five years old, someone took a candy from you, and you were offended - that’s how old it is), and it finally has a chance to come to the surface . If it is appropriate to express your feelings and respond to the situation in this way, then do not hold back. If not, just feel angry and get back to life.
Person's uncertainty2
How not to scare a man away? To be proud and confident, not to constantly whine like - he doesn’t love me or maybe he has someone? This simply infuriates a man and, accordingly, the question of continuing the relationship is out of the question.
Try to look at uncertainty as a bottomless pit into which your life is falling, but as an illusion. And if you want to continue building a relationship with a man, fight your complexes.
You think you're fat in this outfit - maybe. Just review your wardrobe. The hairstyle is aging - change it to a new image and so on. If you can’t do it yourself, contact stylists and hairdressers, pay and let the masters work with you.
Sargent and critical
Many of us find it difficult to acknowledge the existence of other irresistible women and compliment them, especially in the presence of our man. Those who are insecure will make unflattering comments about a competitor’s clothes, shoes, hairstyle, handbag, figure, makeup or life success. These sarcastic and critical women believe that by criticizing another, irresistible woman, they will deal a preemptive blow to her, and their man will not find her attractive. How far from the truth this is!
First, criticism directed at another woman makes you look bad. Others see you as insecure and jealous. And let's be honest, your boyfriend probably noticed her ten minutes before you did, so why pretend like he didn't?
Secondly, by criticizing attractive women, you unconsciously program yourself to avoid becoming attractive yourself. The Universe is like a huge photocopier, sending you copies of what you “order” through your thoughts. When you are sarcastic and critical, your thoughts send a signal to the universe that “being attractive is bad,” and the universe has no choice but to say, “Yes, lady, being attractive is bad.” And since no one wants to be bad, we will not allow you to become attractive or, God forbid, irresistible. Here's what to do. When you spot another sexy woman, bless her and say, “That's right, girl. Take action!” This will prime your brain to approve of attractiveness, and all the universe will have to do is say, “Yes, Mistress!” — and help you be as seductive as you can. Personally, I like to direct my boyfriend's attention to attractive women so that we can both enjoy this wonderful sight. It's fun, it keeps things honest between us, and he ends up coming home with me.
The Jizn
A first date is a responsible and exciting event. Many girls are afraid that the guy might not like them and scare him away from the first minutes of communication. But I really want him to invite me on a second, third, and tenth date. And then you look - and it comes to a serious relationship. There are many tips and rules on how to behave on a first date. We will focus on the main ones.
No delays
Well, maybe just for a minute. Don’t believe all this nonsense that a woman simply has to be late. This really irritates a lot of guys. And if a girl’s being late becomes a habit, it can even affect the harmony in the relationship. And, after all, being late is not polite.
Without unnecessary interest
From the first minutes of the meeting, it is better not to show too much interest in the guy. If he immediately suspects that the girl is already thinking about getting married to him and having three children, he may get scared. Of course, this depends on the character, but little. Secondly, he may decide that he has conquered the girl, and this is not interesting, because the man is a male. And he wants to fight for the woman.
A smile will make everyone brighter
There is no need to come to a date as a sad, gloomy, angry person, even if there are a lot of problems and along the way someone has dared to spoil the mood more than once. In order not to scare off a guy on the first date, it is advisable for a girl to be smiling and kind. This will put him in a position to have a pleasant conversation.
Do not be a bore
This is true for everyone, not just those going on a first date. In the presence of a guy, you shouldn’t constantly whine and complain about life, much less burden him with stories about your problems.
Don't ask for money
Many guys are unhappy that already on the first date girls try to shake as much money out of their wallet as possible - an expensive restaurant, a taxi, flowers and even gifts. If a girl wants to make a good impression on a man, she needs to be more modest. And this does not always mean that a man is a redneck, but it often characterizes a woman as one who is not after the guy, but for his money.
Less glamor
A thick layer of powder, bright makeup, an indecently open neckline and a mini-mini skirt will be extremely unnecessary on the first date and can even really spoil the young man’s opinion of his companion.
Dress beautifully, tastefully, but without ostentation or unnecessary show off. Pay special attention to keeping your hair clean, your nails neat, and your clothes and shoes neat.
No past relationships
On a first date, talking about past relationships, and especially about former boyfriends, is unacceptable. This meeting of yours is a new page in your life and relationships, so it would be stupid to immediately let someone unnecessary into it. Moreover, it will be unpleasant for a guy to hear about other men from the girl he likes.
When going on a date, you need to be confident, because men love women who know their worth.
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women relationships psychology advice
Bored in bed
Although no man in his right mind would say this, boring sex often causes breakups and dead-end relationships. This doesn't mean you need to set up a stripper pole in your bedroom or get into hardcore bondage (although both could be extremely fun), but you do need to examine your own ideas about sexuality and be honest with yourself about whether you're holding yourself back. bed or not. I think on some level you are holding back (let's face it: we all do this at times!).
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Many of us, whether we realize it or not, have been raised to think that sex is bad. Even if we say we like it, we grew up in a society where sex is considered dirty, shameful and sinful. And often we feel embarrassed to even talk openly about it, much less develop our sexuality.
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I suggest being a sinner more often and initiating sex much more often. … I also recommend that you buy beautiful lingerie that makes you look and feel sexy. Buy at least one set that's practical enough to wear under your everyday clothes, and you'll feel like a little sinner all day. And the last, but very valuable advice. Learn to have fun in bed with a man. Let him satisfy you during sex. This will be the best gift you can give your man. ...
Let's note the main thing. If a woman is boring in bed, it is caused by her fear. Fear of looking stupid, not knowing what to do, that they will laugh at her, that she may be rejected. Irresistible women are also afraid, but they still strive for great sex. Remember, skill comes with practice!
Psychology of relationships between men and women
Trying to get married successfully, many ladies use various feminine tricks and try to demonstrate all their positive qualities. Since this is not always positively assessed by representatives of the stronger sex, we offer tips on how not to scare off a man, or rather, we list what can scare off the groom:
- Intense intimacy. Often women, considering their partner the best person, forget about their own interests and hobbies, constantly call him and ask questions like “When will you come?”, “Where are you?” or “What are you doing?” Keep in mind that a complete “merger” with him may lead to a break.
- Constant complaints. Constant whining and dissatisfaction with the world and people around you can also frighten off the man Stronger halves cannot stand this trait in women.
- Jealousy. If you constantly remind your chosen one of his “ex”, sort out his flights, then he, most likely, will simply run away from you.
- Excessive sociability. Most men don’t like it when you systematically disappear from your unmarried girlfriends and spend all your time with them.
- Reproaches to friends. Constant criticism of his friends and dissatisfaction with communicating with them can also frighten off a man. Men's friendship is much stronger and more complex than women's. You need to understand this subtle point.
- Stories about family. Stories about wonderful parents, a caring and thrifty mother who visits her daughter every weekend, combined with an unhealthy curiosity about his family, will turn off any man.
- Self-sufficiency. Strong halves like independence only within certain limits. As a rule, women who are too self-sufficient and strong-willed, who demonstrate their ability to independently overcome any economic and financial problems, do not attract the stronger sex.
- Comparison. A woman should not always use her acquaintances and friends as an example, talking about their successes at work and in her personal life. Men don’t like this either, it touches a nerve and can offend.
- Restriction of freedom. Often men need not so much freedom itself as its appearance. Every man should have a personal, non-invading space.
- Poor health. If a man is serious about you, talking about illnesses and your poor health can also be a deterrent.
Using these general tips on how not to scare off a man, do not forget about one thing, but the most important thing - men are very individual and you need to choose your own approach to each.
