How to behave on a first date with a man: nuances and mistakes

Things to remember before your meeting

The first date is a kind of roulette. It is impossible to predict how the “game” will end: love for life, fleeting intrigue or disappointment. Before going to a meeting, a girl needs to remember 5 important aspects:

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Don't go on a date with an empty wallet to avoid getting into an awkward situation. It is unknown how the meeting will go, so a woman should always have money at least for transportation to home.
Even if you don't plan to have sex on your date, take condoms with you. What if passion overwhelms you?
Rid yourself of specific attitudes towards the guy. He may not be at all who you imagined him to be in your fantasies.
Don't expect certain results from the date. Meeting a guy can be either the most romantic or the most terrible thing in your life. Always remember this. It is necessary to mentally prepare for any result.
Do not arrange a meeting in a deserted place. Safety comes first.

Once the important aspects are taken into account, you can start preparing for the date.

Makeup and accessories

There is no need to put on your face the war paint of an Indian going out on the warpath for the scalps of white-faced people. Too bright makeup does not attract the opposite sex. A thick layer of foundation and tons of lipstick do not make you want to touch your lips to your face. Half a bottle of perfume poured on your head does not intoxicate you with its aroma, but, on the contrary, creates a desire to move away.

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Makeup should be light and highlight all your assets. As fashion trendsetters say, the best makeup is the one that is not noticeable on the face.

The same goes for accessories. It is not at all necessary to hang a lot of expensive jewelry or cheap sparkling jewelry on yourself. A girl hung with trinkets resembles a Christmas tree and evokes an unpleasant feeling. A man who meets a young lady decorated in every possible way decides that she is ready to do anything to attract his attention, so he behaves accordingly.

How to prepare for a date

A girl’s first date is an important event where she wants not only to have a good time with her boyfriend, but also to show off her best side. To ensure everything goes off with a bang, carefully work on your image and mood.

Accessories and makeup

Makeup and accessories are important elements of the image. They can not only highlight a girl’s strengths, but also draw attention to her shortcomings.

Don't put a ton of makeup on your face. For the first rendezvous, moderate use of cosmetics is important. Choose natural and subtle shades that will help you look fresh and natural.

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To ensure that your meeting with a young man goes without any unpleasant surprises, consider the following recommendations:

If there are no problem areas on your skin, apply a little powder to your face. If you find pimples or inflammation, use concealer or foundation.
Apply a light blush to the top of your cheeks. Choose a shade that matches your lipstick.
Don't get carried away with highlighter. Add a subtle glow to your upper lip and cheekbones. Do not apply the product to your nose. He doesn't need lightening.
Make your eyes expressive. To do this, draw thin arrows from the middle of the eyelid and apply mascara to your eyelashes. Avoid thick layers of product and lumps. Choose a mascara with a good brush for easy application.
Open up your look with light shadows. Dark shades are appropriate for a date in the evening.
Say no to bright lipstick. For a date, it is better to use clear lip gloss. When choosing a cosmetic product, be guided not only by its shade, but also by its aroma.
You should not apply makeup hastily. Hurry up - you'll make people laugh.

With the help of accessories you can emphasize your feminine look. Take miniature earrings as “partners” for the bracelet on your wrist, and a stylish belt for the beads made of round pearls.

Do not use all accessories at the same time. They make the image heavier, so there will be no trace left of the light and fluttering girl.

Clothes and shoes

The heart skips a beat, thoughts get confused, everything falls out of hand - all women face these problems when choosing clothes and shoes for a date. Men are visual people; their appearance is extremely important to them for a positive outcome of the meeting. There may not be a second chance to make a good first impression, so mistakes are unacceptable. To leave your selection problems behind, follow these simple recommendations:

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Choose comfortable clothes. It should not hinder movements. If you're used to wearing sneakers and jeans, don't wear a dress and high-heeled shoes on a date. There will be a feeling of uncertainty in the new image. It is unlikely that a young man will like this.
Clothing must be appropriate for the situation. Try to find out in advance where the meeting will be. If a date with a man takes place in a cafe, museum or theater, you need to choose the image of a noble lady. Low-heeled shoes, an elegant black dress, a romantic blouse and skirt, and a trouser suit are suitable for this. If you are planning a walk in the park, then feel free to wear comfortable jeans, a colored blouse-shirt or a cozy sweater. To avoid fatigue, choose shoes without heels.
Dress according to the season. In summer it is inappropriate to wear fur vests, and in winter - light sundresses. To avoid ruining your date, dress warmer during the cold season.
Say “no” to a flashy and provocative image. To attract a man's attention, do not choose revealing clothes. On a date, he must evaluate not only the outer shell, but also the inner content of the chosen one, her voice, facial expressions, and ability to conduct a conversation. The purpose of the first meeting is to arouse a man's interest, so avoid deep necklines, transparent fabrics, stockings peeking out from under the dress and too tight outfits. Become a mystery to the guy, then he will want to see you again.
Cleanliness and neatness are important conditions for an attractive image. On a date, wear only washed and ironed clothes. Pay no less attention to your shoes: wash them and cover them with protective wax.

Don't try to create a trendy look. Simple clothes and no-frills shoes are what men like.

Hairstyle

Well-groomed and beautiful hair is an important criterion that men pay attention to. When creating a charming look, pay special attention to your hairstyle. To keep it at its best, follow 5 basic rules:

Don’t use complex “designs” on your head, otherwise you’ll have to spend the whole date thinking about how your hair won’t fall apart.
Don't experiment with your hair. The hairstyle at the first meeting should correspond to everyday style, so as not to mislead the man.
Avoid extravagant haircuts with crazy colors. Guys like natural-colored hair, not doll-like locks.
Don't get carried away with fixation methods. The unobtrusive aroma of shampoo or conditioner is much more pleasant than the strong odors of varnished hair.
Follow the roots. Dyed hair needs to be tinted at the base to avoid creating a sloppy contrast.

Hairstyle for a date should be as feminine as possible. Let your hair down, curl it slightly, or put it in a ponytail. The image will be unforgettable.

Choosing a perfume

Whatever cultural program is planned for a date, before leaving home, a woman needs to add a few drops of perfume to her neck and wrists. The aroma of perfume leaves a reminder of the girl when she leaves. It is he who can both turn a guy’s head and push him away forever.

To avoid making mistakes with perfume, consider the following recommendations:

Choose a scent that matches your mood and image. For a romantic silk dress, oriental or floral and fruity notes are suitable. Complement extravagant leather trousers or a military suit with unusual and bright aromas of honey, sandalwood, and suede.
Apply perfume to your skin 30 minutes before leaving the house. During this period, the smell will disappear, and only the heart of the scent will remain on the skin.
Do not choose a sharp, heavy and very sweet perfume that takes your breath away. Give preference to classic light scents. Remember that the scent of perfume should be subtle.

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When preparing for a date, don't experiment. It is better to give preference to proven everyday scents.

How to cope with anxiety

When going on a first date with a man, girls often experience attacks of anxiety and panic. At the heart of this anxiety is the irrational belief that “there is something wrong with me.”

There is no need to drive yourself into limits, to screw yourself up with endless nagging. A tough selection should be given to the cruel critic who sits inside.

To overcome anxiety and stay positive, you need to do several useful things:

Take a warm bath with 5-10 drops of citrus fruit essential oil. The juicy and sweet aroma will lift your spirits and improve your skin condition.
Go for a Swedish massage. This is an excellent remedy for getting rid of anxiety and reducing the level of stress hormone cortisol in the blood.
Distract yourself with a favorite hobby. Watch a movie, start knitting socks or draw a picture. Positive emotions will not keep you waiting.
A few days before the date, give up heavy foods in favor of fruits, vegetables and dairy products. Healthy digestion alleviates symptoms of anxiety.
Try to calm down with the help of a song that scientists call the most relaxing in the world. Manchester band Marconi Union teamed up with music therapists to create the stunning track 'Weightlessness'. It lasts only 8 minutes. According to research by the British Academy of Music Therapy, the track can reduce anxiety levels by 35%.
Play sports. Physical exercise increases the production of endorphins (hormones of joy).
Talk through your experiences. When negative feelings are expressed in words, the nervous system gradually calms down.
Before your date, get a good night's sleep under a thick, heavy blanket. The pressure from the blanket will give you a feeling of security. This will help calm the nervous system.

To finally overcome anxiety, leave the house early so as not to be late for your date. Why unnecessary worries on the road?

Should you kiss and when?

And of course, the most exciting moment is the kiss. Girls and guys are anxiously wondering how this will happen and when?

There are no obligations in this matter. Even if the guy treated you generously in a cafe, took you to the movies and walked you home, you can simply say goodbye in words.

It's another matter when you like this man so much that you feel the need to touch him. Of course, you shouldn’t attack, but you can give a hint:

Make eye contact when communicating. If you turn away, he will decide that you are not interested in him;
Break the touch barrier by lightly touching your shoulder or arm at the appropriate moment. Movements should be light, unobtrusive, but telling;
Take a look at his lips. Do not look closely, of course, but occasionally lower your eyes to them.

Or act decisively - just ask for a kiss. In general, everything is in your hands, if you want to kiss, kiss, no, put it off until better times.

How to behave on a date

On the first date, a man and a woman can understand how interested they are in each other, and whether it is worth taking the relationship in a serious direction. Only by showing her best side can a girl be able to interest a man. Basic recommendations will help you learn how to behave correctly on a first date.

What time should you arrive and what to say when you meet?

When going on a date, you need to remember that you can be late by a maximum of 15-20 minutes. Why make a man nervous? He’s worried, this is also his first meeting. Situations in life are different:

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transport was delayed;
the elevator is stuck;
the cat ran away in an unknown direction.

In case of force majeure, if you can’t get to a date on time, be sure to warn the guy about it. Write him a message or call him, explain the reason for your absence.

If you still can’t get to a date on the appointed day, arrange a new meeting. Try to arrive on time. On a date, be sure to turn off the sounds on your phone and don’t look at social networks. Such behavior will indicate disrespect for the guy.

To make the meeting easy and interesting, remember the following tips:

do not discuss tearful films and TV series with a young man;
do not complain about girlfriends, parents, exes, colleagues;
Leave all conversations about financial problems at home.

Men like self-sufficient and positive women, but a pessimistic girl does not meet these parameters.

When talking to a guy, try to maintain a neutral position. “Follow” a man: if he wants to discuss dance clubs, tell him where you like to relax. Always respond to his topics.

On any date, a situation may arise when there is nothing to tell. Don't worry about this. A man and a woman should not entertain each other all evening and conduct an uninterrupted dialogue. If you want to be silent, then you need to do it.

If a young person has difficulty starting a conversation, help him. Ask questions - it always helps:

Where did you study?
Do you have a hobby?
What kind of food do you like?
How do you see your life in 5 years?

This tactic will allow you to develop the topic and reduce the level of shyness.

Remember about manners when communicating

To make a positive impression on a guy, a girl needs to remember the rules of good manners. Following etiquette when communicating will help overcome embarrassment and awkwardness. To find out how to communicate easily and naturally with a guy, check out the following information:

do not interrupt the man during a conversation;
always listen to the end of your interlocutor;
smile - it’s so wonderful;
do not ask a man about his earnings;
do not use swear words in speech;
do not tell vulgar jokes;
do not speak too loud;
do not forget to say “thank you” or “thank you”;
do not use long monologues in conversation;
do not jump from topic to topic;
when communicating with a man, you don’t need to behave unnaturally;
speak directly, avoiding hints.

Follow these rules, then the date with the guy will be “A+”.

Is it worth giving a kiss?

The first kiss is an exciting event for both a guy and a girl. The desire to touch your lips to your partner is natural, since it is a sign of sympathy and interest. But the first kiss can either develop a relationship or ruin it.

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Some women do not allow a man to touch them on the first date because of their upbringing and moral principles, while others, on the contrary, believe that a kiss should take place because it is an index of male sympathy. Therefore, each girl decides for herself how to behave on the first date with an interesting man.

But if you really like a man, you should at least kiss him on the cheek. This will give him confidence in the further development of the relationship.

Intimacy

It happens that girls don’t know what to do when a guy hints at intimacy with all his might. Should I reciprocate or say a decisive “no”? A young lady may refuse sex for a number of reasons. Among them are:

the desire to delay a pleasant moment;
internal fear of public censure if information is disclosed;
fear of appearing easily accessible;
negative experience from past relationships;
desire to know a person better;
moral principles;
fear of sexually transmitted diseases;
religious beliefs.

Despite the many reasons against sex at the first meeting, there are women who are ready to reciprocate the man's feelings.

Psychologists advise that intimacy is still worth waiting for. Men are conquerors by nature. An easy “reward” takes away the interest. And for the sake of your own health, you shouldn’t have sex with a guy you don’t know well.

How to end the evening beautifully

If the date is coming to an end, you need to end it gracefully. This will not only leave a pleasant impression of the time spent, but will also give the “green light” to the partner’s further courtship.

If you don't know what to do when a date with a guy comes to an end, use the following tips:

Don't wait for your partner to get tired of talking and walking. You need to end the meeting with a note of understatement so that the guy wants to repeat the conversation.
When everything went well, allow the man to walk you to the apartment. If the guy didn’t offer this himself, you shouldn’t count on serious intentions on his part.
When approaching the house, do not immediately say goodbye to the young man. Talk for a few minutes on a neutral topic, and then after saying “It’s late,” “It’s early to get up tomorrow,” or “The neighbors are nosy,” sneak away into the apartment.

Keep it simple

Take things lightly. Experience shows that a person who is too fixated on the result has a sharply reduced chance of achieving it. It's inexplicable, but it's a fact. Although, perhaps, it’s all a matter of excessive tension. She doesn't decorate anyone. And our task is to present ourselves in such a way that a person wants to see you again. Or even more than once!

It is also important not to try to show only your best sides. This will allow you to see the different reactions of your potential partner and understand whether he will be able to cope with your small shortcomings in the future. The surprising thing is that men also react positively to such openness. They also have something they want to hide, they are afraid of ruining the first impression. Realizing that you allow yourself not to be perfect, they themselves relax a little. And we remember that the main thing is to create an atmosphere of trust and comfort.

From personal experience

Basically, I tried to be the same as in life, to behave as usual, including allowing myself to be imperfect. And this gave us the opportunity to immediately get to a different level of communication than the standard shuffling around with mutual bows.

For example, when I was 15 minutes late, I simply apologized and explained the reason without wringing my hands. And then I was sincerely pleased at the calmness and loyalty of my interlocutor. And she was so happy that he noticed this joy. And she mentally gave herself a plus, seeing how he internally became more dignified from the feeling of his generosity. And then he told me that this happens to him too, and he completely relaxed. By the end of our conversation, we already knew that we were both imperfect. And if you look closely, it is this knowledge that creates a feeling of greater closeness.

Men love girls with whom you can breathe easily, with whom you don’t have to pretend to be anything, watch your every word, gesture, in other words, strain yourself. Don't stress men out on the first date. After all, if they find themselves searching, it means that someone before you has already stressed them out a lot!

The girl's behavior after the meeting

The exciting evening has come to an end, which means you can wash off your makeup, put on your favorite fluffy slippers and drink a cup of coffee. But you shouldn’t put thoughts about your last date away. You need to decide whether it was successful and what to do with it next. For this:

Analyze a walk with a guy: how he looked, what he talked about, remember his facial features. But don't make hasty conclusions. It is impossible to get to know a person well in 2-3 hours. Give him a second chance to prove himself.
Don't overwhelm your man with messages and calls. Give him time to analyze the date as well.
Do not tell everyone you know about the meeting, no matter how wonderful the young man turns out to be. A date is a meeting between two people, so everything that happened on it should be kept away from other people's ears.
Keep yourself busy with something useful instead of waiting for an invitation to your next date. It may not exist, but life goes on.

Everything that is done is for the better. Popular wisdom speaks about this. If a man doesn’t call after a date, it means great love is ahead.

Selecting a location

Inviting a girl to go somewhere on a date is the prerogative of a young man. It is he who decides where to best spend time. But a well-mannered young man will definitely ask his girlfriend where she would like to go.

Try to be more modest and do not offer an expensive, pretentious place. You don’t know the man’s financial situation; in addition, he may decide that you want to test his generosity or, at his expense, get into an elite establishment that you cannot afford.

Offer a small cozy cafe or a walk to beautiful places. Food and drink should not be the goal of a romantic date; lovers should be interested in communicating and learning as much as possible about each other. In this case, a joint walk will be very useful.

Never agree to hold the first meeting at a young man’s home, because you don’t know each other well and have no idea what awaits you. Let the date take place in a public place where there are a lot of people.

Common Mistakes

Some girls make a lot of mistakes when dating a guy. Because of this, they fail at every meeting. To prevent such an outcome, carefully study the main nuances:

Don't drink a lot of alcohol. A fresh head and adequate behavior are what you need to finish the meeting well.
Don't be smart. It's nice to talk to an erudite person, but only if he doesn't act arrogant.
Don't come to a meeting with a friend. The third one will always be superfluous. And it’s not a fact that this is a friend.
Don't choose an expensive restaurant. Perhaps the man does not have enough money. As a result, he will find himself in an awkward position.

Don’t make hasty conclusions, be attentive to your partner, behave naturally - then the date will definitely happen again. Perhaps this will be the beginning of a great love.

Intimate question

Many people believe that sex at the first meeting is impossible. But if you hint to a young man that your relationship may move to the next level on the second or third date, then he may misunderstand you. In our relaxed times, many people laugh and refuse such rules and consider them something old-fashioned.

However, if you want to continue getting to know this person, then do not rush into bed with him. Remember that men are hunters and conquerors, they do not like game that falls into their hands, they like to conquer the girl.

Of course, there are no rules without exceptions. Sex on the first date is possible if:

you have known a young man for a long time, but now your relationship is moving to a new level;
you are confident in this person, you know that he takes you very seriously and will not talk about your intimate relationship to strangers;
you only need sex and that’s why you went on a date;
at the first meeting you cannot cope with passion.

But you shouldn’t go home to a man you don’t know, and you shouldn’t bring him to your place either. Of course, you should definitely think about personal protective equipment, because the consequences of such a spontaneous night of love may not be the most pleasant.

Third rule: aftertaste

They fall in love when they start thinking about a person when he is not around. The more a man thinks about you, the faster he falls in love, and vice versa. Therefore, you must learn to leave an aftertaste: you are not around, and the man cannot forget your meeting and your image. A couple of days of torment and voila. He's in love!

What to do to create an aftertaste? You can admit to a man that he is great, but you are afraid of him. Several times he behaved strangely. And when asked when and how, you smile mysteriously and offer to discuss it at the next meeting.

Or so. When saying goodbye, ask the man to freeze and not move. Place your two fingers on his lips and then kiss them. Then look at the man mysteriously or cheerfully and let him die. And then quickly leave. Here's a playful aftertaste for you!

Come up with a few tricks for this moment. Maybe some intrigue for the next date, maybe an understatement on the first, maybe an ambiguous ending to the meeting, maybe some kind of gift for the man - think about it, and you will find an idea.

Clothing for a girl's date: what's best to wear?

Girls, having received an invitation, begin to think about what to choose from clothes and what hairstyle to do. Opening the closet, they frantically sort through things, believing that the success of the meeting will depend on this. Dozens of layers of varnish and makeup are applied to all possible surfaces of the skin. But perhaps this shouldn't be done.

In addition, naturalness is in fashion today. If you want to look neat, it is enough to apply discreet makeup that hides minor facial defects and style your hair so that it emphasizes your strengths or hides your flaws.

Simple dresses and skirts, tight jeans and low heels always go with a bang. This image seems to tell a man: “I have nothing to hide, it will be easy and interesting with me.”

Communication process3

Girls should accept and understand the fact that in most cases it is the man who will try to lead the conversation, select some topics and try to evoke a response from the girl. But it’s also worth understanding that you don’t need to shift this responsibility entirely onto the young man.

You can let him start a conversation - this way he will show his masculine initiative and will be satisfied. And after that, actively join the conversation and do not hesitate to independently propose some topics and engage the man in communication. Although you should be careful with this.

Film "Mixed"

Among men there are those who plan the dialogue in advance, and if something does not go according to this plan, they will be embarrassed and find themselves in an unpleasant position. Therefore, you should carefully monitor their reaction to the fact that the girl herself takes the initiative in the conversation.

As for topics, a girl is required to have considerable knowledge in many areas of life in order for her to be able to carry on a conversation with a man. The peculiarity of modern guys is that they know a lot about a variety of things, but this knowledge is largely superficial. Although with a high probability they will watch some popular films, TV series, and play various video games.

If a girl doesn’t do this herself, then she should at least get acquainted with these things. Yes, it may be unpleasant for her to talk about some game, especially if she herself is not passionate about it. But you shouldn’t state this directly, but rather gently hint to the man that this is not very interesting for her.

Special attention should be paid to questions. Men will ask them. And a lot. The girl’s task is to answer them as fully as possible and in this way show the level of knowledge of the subject or area and at the same time her interest in the conversation. It would be nice if the woman herself showed interest in the man and asked him some questions. Everyone loves to talk about themselves and their achievements, guys are no exception in this regard.

Film "Blind Date"

In this regard, you should exercise attention and caution, avoiding sensitive, unpleasant and potentially personal topics. For example, about relatives, about former partners, about some preferences in relationships. Men often don’t want to talk about all this. It is best to ask something on the topic of communication or something neutral. If a girl really wants to know something personal from a guy, then she can offer him a kind of “exchange” of personal secrets. The guy will tell her what interests her, and she will answer frankly any question the guy has.