Virtual relationships, what is it and is it worth starting a relationship on the Internet?
What is a virtual relationship, and is it worth starting one? If you ask yourself this question, then..
We live in amazing times!
The development of information technology has made a big step over these 20 years, this step was the beginning of progress in the development of social sites, which have become an indispensable part of our daily lives.
Indeed, in our time it is difficult to imagine that once upon a time, people did not have such an opportunity as a quick exchange of information with representatives of interest groups, all acquaintances took place live, and the only way to communicate over long distances was letters.
And so we smoothly move on to our topic of discussion, the first question that I will try to understand clearly is...
Virtual relationships
- this is a phenomenon that originated during communication on social networks, it means exactly what it
reflects
- these are certain relationships in a virtual network, that is, relationships via the Internet.
If you think logically, then love has always ruled the world, love is everywhere and social networks are no exception.
Agree, it’s quite nice to communicate with people with whom you have a lot in common, who completely understand and support you, with whom you are ready to share your happiness and joy.
Your interlocutor may be 1000 km away from you, and at this moment you begin to think about the second question in our discussion topic.
How to meet and find your love?
First of all, decide for yourself where your loved one should be from. Maybe you need dating in Novosibirsk or another city? On the site you can select a city or country to view other people's profiles and write to them.
But first you need to register yourself by filling out a short form. Indicate information about yourself, the purpose of your stay on the site, and put a beautiful photo. This will keep others interested. And maybe love itself will find you.
After that, feel free to communicate with the participants you like. Just write to them, tell them about yourself or ask questions. You can communicate at any time when it is convenient for you. For these purposes, just go to the site through a browser on your computer or via your phone. If you want, you can communicate with several people at the same time, because no one limits you.
Today, online dating makes it easier for busy people to find love or a person in their spirit. It is only important to choose good resources, like Love.ru, where you can communicate safely and easily.
Should you start a relationship online?
This is indeed a very complex issue that requires careful consideration, I can simply write to you about always following your heart, etc. And that's definitely true, but it's not exactly what you want to hear.
I completely understand what your real thoughts and fears may be at this point.
Thoughts and worries about the fact that nothing will work out, you will never meet, it’s all pointless - this is normal. At least this means that you really have an adult approach to this issue.
Pros and cons of starting a relationship online.
So let's first talk about the cons:
But it is an essential part of preparing your mind to be positive.
You should have the same willingness to take a step towards each other.
It feels like a new holiday has been added to the calendar especially for you.
Should I try this wonderful phenomenon for myself, or should I abstain?
Indeed, there is a possibility that nothing will work out, just as there is a possibility that you will be the happiest
a person on this earth.
Source
Virtual love
Virtual love is a game that exists only in the mind of an individual and on the Internet. This game can be stopped at any moment and the individual will not experience severe pain, remorse, or jealousy. Virtual relationships are a desire to experience vivid emotions rather than real real feelings.
Currently, the Internet has become firmly entrenched in people’s lives and is not only a source of information, but also a source of communication, which people so lack due to constant busyness and haste. More and more people stop communicating in real life and become addicted to virtual communication. Previously, people used other opportunities for dating - clubs, dances, libraries, but now they prefer communication on the Internet to real acquaintance. To the simple question of why people prefer dating on the Internet, if there are quite a lot of real people around, you can often hear the answer that dating on the street or in transport is no longer relevant. Not only young people and teenagers, but also adult family people are increasingly resorting to communicating on the Internet.
Virtual communication has come to the aid of modest, shy, lonely people and those with physical disabilities. After all, it is much easier to write a love message when you don’t have to be nervous, blush and afraid of being rejected, so often the first love confessions are made on the Internet.
For some, virtual love at a distance is just another form of entertainment, while for others it is an attempt to avoid loneliness. Very rarely does a virtual feeling go beyond the computer and turn into reality. If such cases happen, they are just a few. What causes falling in love? The Internet allows you to appear before your interlocutor in the best possible way, to hide your complexes and fears. Therefore, communication and falling in love happens easier and faster there, unlike communication in reality. The disadvantages of love on the Internet should also be taken into account. Experiencing virtual love, an individual changes emotionally and mentally. His whole life is spent on the Internet, and the person voluntarily refuses live communication, while missing out on the opportunity to create and enjoy real relationships.
Virtual love is dangerous because a person falls in love with an ideal image he has invented for himself, which does not correspond to reality in reality. He cherishes, cultivates this image and is very disappointed after real live communication. This happens because communication on the Internet conveys only part of the reliable information about the interlocutor, because without hearing the voice, without seeing the person (his facial expressions, gestures), it is impossible to accurately imagine the image on the other side of the computer.
Virtual love and virtual relationships are types of communication that develop only online, when people interact via the Internet, but they have never spoken or met in real life.
Virtual love does not have any serious consequences, but people who have strong feelings for an online image deprive themselves of the opportunity to build relationships in real life, as well as start a family. Individuals living online, having created illusions of love, begin to believe in them, and the real world gradually fades into the background for them. If a person is overtaken by virtual love, then he should think about whether this is a real feeling or just a hobby. Often this is a game of emotions, ultimately leading to a break in the relationship. Very often a person on the Internet finds himself in a situation where the virtuality of relationships overshadows the mind. Currently, every third Internet user finds himself in such a relationship. This happens because the physical world is filled with stress and anxiety, so people find it more pleasant to escape from reality and immerse themselves completely in pleasant communication with new interlocutors.
Initially, people do not pursue the goal of finding a serious relationship, because communication on the Internet itself already brings pleasure. They like to read compliments about themselves, admire love letters addressed to them, and enjoy warm congratulations.
Virtual love often overtakes lonely people. Plunging into an unreal world, people begin to believe in the unity of souls, long-distance love relationships, and a new life with a conditional chosen one, but for many, relationships on the Internet are a pleasant pastime, without obligations and promises to each other.
Representatives of the fair sex are very attracted to virtual experiences. This happens due to the confidential conversations that have arisen. The more a man pays attention to a woman, the more she will cling to him. When a woman spends a couple of hours on the Internet every day texting or talking, she becomes deeply involved in the sensations of virtual love.
How to get rid of virtual love? It is necessary to clearly tell yourself that relationships on the Internet are something from the realm of fantasy or a game that exists in the imagination of the individual.
How to forget virtual love? You should look soberly at the entire existing situation, as if from the perspective of everything that is happening. Often, virtual lovers deceive themselves and their feelings do not allow them to think “soberly,” because new acquaintances take up time talking about nothing, when this time could be devoted to active recreation, family, real friends or self-development. You can understand those girls who are overtaken by feelings on the Internet. It is difficult for them to resist the sweet speeches of virtual fans. The girls begin to feel that their new friends want to spend the rest of their lives with them.
Often, virtual love is seen as a way to escape problems in the real world, so it is better to solve life’s problems immediately and not accumulate them.
Online, all people become different – ideal and without flaws. There are no such people in the real world. A person is designed in such a way that he will always compare a real chosen one with a virtual one, and the virtual image in this comparison will prevail over the real individual.
Scientists have found that virtual communication allows you to recognize a person only 3%, and during a real meeting a person receives information equal to 70%.
A person, in the process of online communication, represents the chosen one using information provided on electronic media - a description of the person, photographs, etc. These facts about the personality of the interlocutor should not be trusted. Often, the sensations from virtual relationships are approximately the same as from real love: longing, jealousy, tenderness, quarrels and reconciliation.
Often electronic sensations seem more attractive than real ones, because mutual understanding develops within them, strong interpersonal contact, which is so lacking in ordinary life. And all the disadvantages disappear, which are visible in real life, and everyone idealizes and completes the pictures in their head that they want to see in their interlocutor.
It should be noted that social networks, chats, and virtual communication are a kind of Internet addiction and it is very difficult to get rid of it. Therefore, if you want to continue communicating with the person you like, then psychologists recommend switching to real communication as early as possible, that is, seeing each other in person. This will make it possible to understand whether the image on the Internet really coincides with the real image of the chosen one, and if disappointment occurs, then it will be easier for the person to return to the real world and try to build relationships there.
Author : Practical psychologist Vedmesh N.A.
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Our world is becoming more and more virtual. The Internet has become a place of recreation and entertainment, work, a means of communication with distant friends and completely unknown people, a second wallet, and even a place for virtual dates. Disputes and jokes on the topic of virtual love and its consequences/prospects do not subside.
Take the initiative
If you like a person, write to him. Don't wait for him to show interest first. If your goal is to meet an interesting person, then why waste your time? Perhaps the person you like is incredibly shy or has no experience with online dating. The worst thing that can happen is that they don’t answer you, but in this case you can calmly look for someone else and not waste time waiting in vain.
Try not to compare your ex-partners with those you meet on dating sites, and do not refuse to meet just because they are “not your type.” Let's be honest: you're on this site because a relationship with "your type" didn't work out. Perhaps you should reconsider your preferences.
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- If the person you started communicating with does not offer to take your acquaintance beyond the boundaries of the dating site, this may be a sign that he is communicating with many other people at the same time, and therefore cannot find time to meet with you.
- Some people prefer not to give out their contact information until the last moment before you meet in real life. This may mean that such a person has a lot of choices and has not yet decided who he really wants to meet.
- Some people wait for you to suggest exchanging phone numbers or other contacts because they consider this a significant step in the relationship.
Don't be afraid to ask questions
Don't hesitate to ask as many questions as possible to find out everything you're interested in about the person. This way, you won't have to deal with surprises like five children from three previous marriages or a refusal to accept the fact that your own children need a second parent and that's why you signed up for a dating site. Create a preliminary list of the most important questions and try to get answers to them on the first date.
Probably the only thing that is better not to ask is how many dates the person has had with other users of the dating site. It is very difficult to predict a person's reaction to this question, so your date may not go as smoothly as you would like.
Minuses
But what are the pros without the cons? Undoubtedly, such sites and this method of selecting a life partner also have certain disadvantages.
- You can run into scammers or even maniacs. But to avoid this you need to have your head on your shoulders. Do not lend large sums of money, do not share confidential information, do not give your address and do not invite a man to your home, as well as do not go to him. If you do the smart thing and set up a meeting on neutral territory and you walk where there are a lot of people, nothing bad will happen.
- A large distance due to which you will not be able to see the man. And there is not enough money to come to him. Especially if there is a flight ahead. As a result, the acquaintance will be pointless. Most Internet users communicate under fictitious names and say things about themselves that are completely different from what they really are. That is, in legal terms, they provide deliberately false information. Therefore, you should not unconditionally believe everything that your virtual interlocutor tells you about himself. The Internet is also full of scammers and scammers. And here you need to be especially vigilant so as not to fall under the influence of attackers. You should be wary if a new acquaintance declares his love on the second day, says that he was looking for you all his life, and a week later offers to “live together,” and on your territory. Often such sudden relationships end with the “ardent lover” disappearing without a trace, taking with him some valuable things from the apartment of a gullible fool.
- When meeting people on the Internet, it is common for a person to attribute to himself a lot of positive traits that do not actually exist.
- In real life, a person may turn out to be uncommunicative and shy, with a lot of complexes.
- You may realize that he is an excellent conversationalist, but he is not good for you in bed.
- It is likely that he is a womanizer or simply an unpleasant guy with frivolous intentions, of which there are many today.
There are also differences in goals. Yes, on such sites there are a lot of men who are looking only for sex, and not for serious and promising relationships. But usually such men say this easily and openly, or even indicate it in their questionnaires.
